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9 weeks tomorrow & starting to bleed :(

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Mojomummy · 14/08/2005 08:38

...yesterday about 8:30pm I went to the loo & there was a tiny bit of bright coloured blood - a bit like a cm of membrane. There was also a pinky discharge. The shock went right through me ( we were at a friends house), so I took rescue remedy & we came home. No more blood.

This am none at the first 2 morning pee's & now on the 3rd one, there is brownish things going on (not quite sure how to describe).

I've also got a sort of uncomfortable, but not painful, grinding, something-going-on feeling in my belly.

This is my 2nd pregnancy & I've never experienced this before, so really don't know what is happening/what to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions/ advice please ?

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Lonelymum · 15/08/2005 14:19

You poor thing. Having to suffer this is bad enough but having your dh away at the same time is even worse. I am very sorry. I hope you find some support from somewhere. (Mumsnetters are great!)

swiperfox · 15/08/2005 14:22

Oh mojo I'm so sorry to hear it's not such good news. (((((((((((((((((((bighugs))))))))))))))))))))

When is your dh home?

HellyBelly · 15/08/2005 14:33

Hi mojo - spoken to dh and all fine for tomorrow evening if you decide to go ahead. Let me know if you can't sort out the morning drop off and I'll see what I can do.

{{{{hugs again!}}}}

xx

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Mojomummy · 15/08/2005 14:33

Dh is home on Sat teatime, he's gone to India, so he isn't even there yet...doesn't arrive until about 7:30pm GMT

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munz · 15/08/2005 14:35

oh MM (((hugs))) i'm so sorry for you, can your DH come home at all?

george32 · 15/08/2005 14:39

Mojomummy, I am so very sorry.
Having been through this myself I know how devastating it can be. I had an ERPC back in January and it was over very quickly. From what I have heard from others it can be very upsetting to wait for it to happen naturally.
I am so sorry that your DH is away. Is there anyone who can be with you tomorrow before & after the op. Be very kind to yourself, take time for you and don't be afraid to grieve.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

coppertop · 15/08/2005 15:12

I'm so sorry, Mojomummy.

Tabs · 15/08/2005 15:44

Mojomummy - I'm sorry to hear your news.

I don't, however, think that you are being rash at all in wanting to have the op tomorrow. I went ahead with the op right away when my missed m/c was discovered, and have never once regretted it. I know people who have left it to happen naturally, and I believe that some of them do regret it. One recently described the whole experience as 'horrific', and the other took nearly 3 months to have a normal period afterwards, whereas for me it was all over very quickly, my period returned 5 weeks later, and it was only the emotional side that I was left to deal with rather than the physical too.

Hope this helps to reinforce your decision.

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Mojomummy · 15/08/2005 15:48

thanks - good to hear it was the right choice. I think it's probably best for me too & good to hear your periods came back quickly - certainly a couple of friends who have had miscarriages have had problems with periods returning & hormone levels.

Where you able to get pregnant again quite quickly ?

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Tabs · 15/08/2005 16:13

It took me 7 months afterwards, but for me this was fairly quick, as it had taken over 3 years to get pregnant the first time! I'm now 15 weeks in and seem to be doing just fine.

I'd recommend joining the ladies on the 'ttc after a miscarriage' thread, as they are all very supportive of each other, and are able to understand only too well what you have been through.

vickiyumyum · 15/08/2005 16:14

i've emailed you Mojomummy. i think you are making the right decision. hope you managed to get rid of that headache.

take care.

george32 · 15/08/2005 16:16

I became pregnant 10 weeks after the op which I thought was pretty quick.
Quite a few people have fallen quite quickly following an ERPC althought they do recommend you wait for a couple of periods before TTC again.
I was told that it freshens everything up & makes a good environment for conceiving.
Have you got someone to be with you tomorrow?

HellyBelly · 15/08/2005 16:34

Hi again mjm - as you know I had the ERPC and am happy with that as I found the heavy flow too traumatic each time I had to go to the loo. At least you don't have to wait this way! I waited 3 months until we tried for ds and conceived straight away. Not everyone waits!

Speak soon xxx

HellyBelly · 15/08/2005 16:36

overlap there - started replying and then never got finished!

mummyhill · 15/08/2005 16:40

((hugs)) I went through this in September the only advice i can offer is to allow yourself to grieve. We waited till I had a normal period before we tried again and I was pregnant by christmas (found out christmas day). A friend who had a similar experience refused the op and had to deal with the physical and emotional side and is still struggling to come to terms with what happened where as I only had to concentrate on the emotional side. Hope you can find someone to go with you it's nice to have someone to hold your hand, my husband had chicken pox and my parents were away so i had no real backup at the time and that was really hard.

baggybear · 15/08/2005 17:03

I'm so sorry, Mojomummy . I'm thinking of you and hope tomorrow goes okay. Lots of big {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}} xxxxxxxxx

bonkerz · 15/08/2005 18:05

So sorry to hear your news mojomummy.
I am sure you have made the best decision for yourself. I have had 2 mc and the first one i let happen naturally the 2nd one was in jan this year and i opted for the erpc. Just remember to take some time to grieve and get better. I found i just wanted to sleep for 2 days (not easy with young children around but essential. On a positive note i found that my periods returned almost immediately and im currently 20 weeks pregnant!! Dont give up hope but take oyur time to adjust and take stock.

Sending you big cyber hugs.

champs · 15/08/2005 18:31

sorry for you loss

mumtosomeone · 15/08/2005 18:49

mojomummy..I feel for you!
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mumtosomeone · 15/08/2005 18:50

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Nemo1977 · 15/08/2005 18:52

Aww MM am sorry for your loss. Like others have said I had the op in dec [actually on new years eve] and it was a relatively easy procedure. I then got pregnant again in the march and am currently 22wks so while the loss is devestating something positive has come not long after. Take care of yourself and use MN for as much support as you can.

franke · 15/08/2005 19:21

mojomummy - I'm so sorry to hear this and will be thinking of you tomorrow.

jabberwocky · 16/08/2005 02:26

So sorry, MM. You may want to have a heating pad handy after the op for any cramping.

Thinking of you,
JW

HellyBelly · 16/08/2005 08:04

Good idea - I have a hot and cold pillow you can heat in the microwave if you need one. Will bring it when I pick you up just in case! xxx

expatinscotland · 16/08/2005 08:09

Sorry for your loss, mojomummy. Be good to yourself.

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