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xMrsSx · 15/06/2010 17:51

Some useful links for all you ladies suffering from SPD/PGP or who think they might be...
www.acpwh.org.uk/docs/ACPWH-PGP_HP.pdf
and the pelvic partnership website is really useful.

If you think you might be suffering then get yourself down to the midwife for a physio referral and hopefully they can help: maternity belt/exercises/acupuncture etc etc.

If you are really struggling then... REST... it is the only thing that REALLY works.

And most important of all plonk (very gently) yourself down on this sofa, help yourself to cake, and get some advice/support from some very loverly ladeez! xxx

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ktwiltshire · 21/06/2010 09:00

bumperlicious i know its a simplisitic answer, but yes DH is going to need to do everything for you, not just in moving house. the more you rest, the less pain you will be in. i know it hugely increases the frustration, depression etc, and it feels like your spiraling into a useless pile of pregnant mess (thats how i felt).
I was lucky that my DH likes doing things for me, hes just that kind of person and always has been. I had about 4 months of not being able to sleep due to the pain of the SPD (from about 4 1/2 months pregnant till birth).
if you are struggling with your emotions, tell your midwife you are struggling, they might be able to suggest someone you can talk to to help vent your feelings to so they arent so overwhelming. either that or goto your GP and ask for an urgent referral to a counsellor or similar. I really do sympathise, i was lucky in that my depression was noticable to me as I have suffered badly with it before, so i got refered to the local services early on and saw someone every 2 weeks to offload (i could have done with it more frequently, but i need a specific type of counsellor and that lady only comes to my little town every 2 weeks!).

Ive had a fantastic weekend, my hips are really easing up, im aching like hell as ive done too much this weekend as per usual, but it was fathers day! I walked into town and back again on friday, did a birthday party with eldest DD on saturday (and playing in the garden, but that was low impact, i just watched!), and yesterday as played in the garden most of the day, and walked into town in the evening to have a meal out with DHs dad and stepmum who were down to visit DD3.
I stopped breasfeeding on friday as i wasnt producing anything at all, so my hormones have been settling down really nicely. not sure if its coincidental, but my SPD is a lot better since stopping breastfeeding. My meal out last night was lovely, but i had a few glasses of wine, and when running through the bar (dont ask...) of another place on the way home i tripped and fell(!) but luckily i fell on my 'good' side and its not too bad this morning, aches like hell, but thats what i get for running, let alone falling over! DHs worried that ive messed my hip up again, but i know i dont feel too bad considering. Thinking about reducing my painkillers soon, ive got an appt with my GP this afternoon to discuss that and to ask for some xrays and investigations into my back problems (which ive had since i was a teenager, but the uncertainty of whats wrong and the inability to get an epidural into me mean i had to have a general for my csection).

im rambling....DD3 is hiccuping beside me, oh and i know its just showing off, but DD3 slept through the night last night, fromm 11pm till 6.45am!!!

There is light at the end of the tunnel girls, it takes a few weeks, but SPD has eased up hugely for me, and since i was wheelchair bound for the last couple months of the pregnancy, i think it a huge achievement!

LooL00 · 21/06/2010 09:09

Morning everyone, nice treat for me today, the dc have the day off school! So rather than spending the morning relaxing I'm going to have to sit in the kitchen and do drawing, sit in the garden and get really uncomfortable and lie on the sofa and try to read to them. At least I don't have to do the school run.

Hi bumperlicious I'm sleeping better since we got a new mattress, or maybe it's because at 37w I just can't stay awake. 2 months ago I was sleeping really badly. I'm afraid that the SPD sofa answer to you moving house is yes your DH is going to have to do it all.You have to rest or it will get worse.They'll all tell you to rest on this sofa, that's the only thing that everyone seems to agree helps. My DH is gradually having to do more and more, but that's how it is. This thread is the only place to get real sympathy when you moan as it's the only place where people really understand the level of pain and immobility we're talking about. So sit down and moan away!

Hi velvetquilt sounds like spd to me. I wouldn't worry too early about how you can give birth, I've got pretty bad (but not as bad as some of the ladies on the sofa) spd and I'm hoping to have a home birth and I don't think that after putting up with spd for 5 months that the pain will be anything too much. Unless this one turns back to back like dc1 did.....There's great info on childbirth on the pelvic partnership website and they say water is good.

So leoni are you OK? Hope it comes soon.

LooL00 · 21/06/2010 09:16

Hi kt crossposted with you glad you had a fun weekend. I've always wondered what a couple of glasses a wine AND a wobbly pelvis would be like, so now we know!

LeoniPoni · 21/06/2010 11:29

Hi everyone! Hope all the ladies on the sofa aren't too fed up today!

Sorry Bumperlicious - rest, rest, rest! I'm afraid you are going to have to forget about being Wonder Woman and take care of yourself!

kt Glad you had a good weekend. I'm very much looking forward to getting to the stage you're at! You had it so bad too - gives me hope!

Hi LooL00! Ooh a busy day for you! Try not to push yourself too hard! You started up on Operation Pineapple yet? Had my fair share of horrific heartburn due to spicy food effot but it has done absolutely nothing, so you are right to avoid! I've given up on the pineapple too, to be honest.

Getting fed up of the constant texts and calls asking where the baby is. And the advice that I should go for a long walk. Helpful. Grrrr!

xMrsSx · 21/06/2010 12:48

Bumper I'm afraid it is another vote for resting from me,... sorry. Really wish there was something else to suggest, but honestly seems to be the only thing that genuinely works.

Leoni - no long walks??? Just downright lazy I say!!! Whatever happened to the badminton/rugby etc?? Fingers crossed for something soon... you too LooLOO, I'm thinking of buying shares in pinapple!! I might start stockpiling for when it's my turn - does pineapple cake work jsut as well??

kt you sound like you are doing great, so pleased for you. Glad you had a good weekend, keep up the good work!

I have had a lovely weekend but a bit up and down painwise. Happy cos had to have a repeat scan on Fri to check baby's heart but all ok, plus essay finished so celebrated by going shopping.... bit of a mistake cos got stuck in TK Maxx when my pelvis gave up so had to hobble back to the car liek an old woman. Tried again on Sun with a little stroll on the coast which was great but couldnt hardly stand for the rest of the afternoon/evening. Not so bad today so fr, but my SPD is always worse later in the day. SO I am going to Tesco to buy ingredients for choc brownies.. mmm...

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xMrsSx · 21/06/2010 12:51

bsmirched - still might be worth trying the mw for physio - can't hurt. YOu haven't long left, you're right but it depends how bad the pain is for you, if you are struggling to cope with it you need to get some help from somewhere, however far along you are.

velvetq how far along are you?

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VelvetQuilt · 21/06/2010 14:42

I am LIVID. Just got back from the doctors in the hope of hearing, "yes, what you have is spd and here's what I'll do..." In fact, what I got was "go pee in this pot and we'll see if it's a urine infection first" (it wasn't OF COURSE) and then "what you're experiencing is just the joints and bones softening and moving" (no! really???!!!) and "take some paracetamol or codine". That was it. I don't want something that's going to MASK it, I want it dealt with. I have a history of knee joint problems (my knee caps don't sit level and rub on the cartilage) and it took 3 months of physio combined with acupuncture to get any sense of normality back.

I asked what to do if it got worse and he said to come back then. I will be SO angry if this turns out to be SPD (which he told me it wasn't) and I've been fobbed off for it to get worse.

I'm 26wks by the way :-)

LooL00 · 21/06/2010 15:54

velvetqumy mw referred me to physio, see if you can get that done. The physio will be able to tell if you have spd and if you've got sciatica you need to see the phys anyway. Unless you get a useless physio that is .....

Bumperlicious · 21/06/2010 17:20

Thanks for the replies and the welcome. I promise to try and rest as much as possible. DH is very good and supportive.

I saw the physio today. She said not definitely SPD, I had an 'uplift' (I think that is what she said) in one side of my pelvis. She pulled me around and has given me some exercises and I have an appointment in 2 weeks. She didn't say defo not SPD, she just wanted to rule this out first.

Velvetquilt in our area we can self refer to a physio, we have a Physio Direct number that we can call. Do you have something similar in your area?

bsmirched · 21/06/2010 18:43

Thanks for the replies - have found a private physio that I'm seeing tomorrow as I pay into a little health plan that reimburses me for physio and stuff like that.

VelvetQuilt - I've had very much the same response from MWs and consultant at the hospital today - basically, it's par for the course and try to keep your knees together when turning over in bed etc. Told me there's no chance of seeing an NHS physio at this late stage of my pregnancy, so put up and shut up, basically! Hence the private physio....

LooL00 · 22/06/2010 12:58

Hi everyone, another hot night for the satin pjs. I'm really looking forward to wearing some normal nightwear again. I'm spending nearly all my time lying on the sofa at the moment, so much for keeping active to get labour going.Operation pineapple starts on thursday, but i really can't believe in the raspberry leaf tea, is their any real theory behind that one? I can see how curry and pineapple can just get everything moving if you eat enough though.

leoni hope you enjoyed your brisk walk!!!!!Did you vault any 5 bar gates? I refuse to tell anyone when this baby is actually due, only DH and his employer know the actual due date. I just mumble 'early july' if anyone asks me.

Glad you're going to rest bumper!I've not heard of uplift.

Hope the physio is helpful bsmirched

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mookle · 22/06/2010 17:27

happyhildebrand- I think I will ask at school about the school car park - I just feel such a pest! Oh well, only another week and a day to go til C section for me! Eeek!

japhrimel · 22/06/2010 17:31

Great. I think I've got SPD starting to add to my wonderful dislocating hips. It feels like a bruise at the front of my pelvis, like I've been kicked in the groin. Does that sound like SPD?

Weird thing though is that it's better if I'm on my feet moving around, not resting. I wonder if that's because sitting down for long makes my hips slip out of place, making it harder for me to keep my pelvis stable.

LooL00 · 22/06/2010 19:29

Yes japh that kicked in the pubic bone by a horse feeling is classic spd.Sitting is not resting, we're all lying down on the spd sofa! Sitting kills me at the moment as my hips have recently got looser, so maybe you've got that already. Try sitting on a gym ball, it works for me. Hope you feel better tomorrow.

mookle I park in the disabled bit at the school, they don't seem to mind, only one actual disabled parent uses it anyway.

Hi happyh how was your induction? I'm reluctant to have one in case I'm suck in an uncomfortable hospital for 2 days.

FannyPriceless · 22/06/2010 20:17

Hello - I haven't been around for a while but I am popping back for a visit to the sofa with some good (hopefully encouraging) news.

I had my baby 2 weeks ago today and I can't describe the relief I now feel. I really can't believe how quickly the pain has gone, as I just didn't dare to expect that. But it has! I have even been for a walk on my own pushing my little boy in his pram.

I had a c-section at 39 weeks because of the SPD. I left the hospital still in the wheelchair, but that is the last time I used it! I am now walking unaided, just taking it easy and taking little steps, not lifting anything heavy etc.

I am going to be really careful as I'm determined to leave this completely behind me and be totally fit and active again. It's a brilliant feeling, and despite others on this thread saying the same thing before, I just didn't believe it really would go so quickly. Have hope, sofa dwellers!

fragola · 23/06/2010 11:11

Hello, good to see there's a nice new sofa with lots of room (and cake too!).

I had terrible spd with my last pregnancy, which never totally went away. I'm now almost 14 weeks and it started up properly a few weeks ago.

I dug out the old belt, but I'm not sure if it's making things worse. It feels like my hips aren't level and I think it might be scrunching them together in an uneven position. Has anyone else found this?

LooL00 · 23/06/2010 13:04

Hi everyone, hope you're all resting comfortably.

fragola there's something somewhere (mybe pelvic partnership website?) that says youshouls get your hips staightened out before you have a belt. My nhs physio staightened my hips and although things are pretty crap at 37 weeks in that I can't walk anywhere and stay in the house all the time, I can sleep without pain and have not taken painkillers.

Well done fannyp that's fantastic news. Just what we all need to hear.

off to lie down , but dc2 is challenging me for the sofa, don't know what my chances are of winning this one quickly and quietly.She's lounging and reading the argos catalogue.

LeoniPoni · 24/06/2010 13:47

Hi everyone! Hope you are all reasonably pain free.

Well 6 days overdue! Saw the midwife this morning and she did a sweep (horrific) and have an induction booked for Wednesday. My poor hips and pelvis are screaming in pain. I'm sure once the weight of LO is off them I'll feel much better.

Think contracting thoughts for me please guys!

Mercedes519 · 24/06/2010 14:09

Leoni, am sending contractions your way. Fingers crossed. Am liking a new sofa as have lurked for too long.

There's lots of discussions about inductions for SPD but I wouldn't want one as am hoping for VBAC and the risk of splitting is much higher (sorry can't think of the right word). How bad does it have to be to get an elcs?

LooL00 · 24/06/2010 14:44

Lots of sofatocin contracting thoughts leoni. The midwife offered me a sweep last week but I just DIDN'T want one.

38 weeks today, only 2 weeks and I'll be able to go out in the garden again, can't walk on the grass at the moment and we don't have a garden sofa.Last night i thought it was happening but it was just BH.
I've given up. Finally accepted a friends offer to collect my kids from nursery and school. Woke up this morning unable to walk or sit, but feel a bit better now.Shouted at both dc within 3 mins of getting out of bed as I couldn't sit down to put their suncream on and they were being hot and whiney.

Hi mercedes I seriously don't want an induction. Some people with spd just want an end to it, I'm more worried about landing up with interventions if I had an induction and I don't want to land up stuck on my back with a monitor. How many weeks are you?

Mercedes519 · 24/06/2010 15:03

looloo am 27 weeks and it's manageable at the moment but am trying to figure out some of plan a, b and possibly z which will minimise the impact but not leave me for too long if it gets bad. But I wonder if I went overdue an elcs would be a better option in the long term as you say you end up a lot less mobile with monitoring and stuff.

Tbh a lot of people, including yourself, have it a lot worse. Glad you've got help and support. Am off to see the physio for the first time. Can they do much or is it more advice? e.g. Keep your legs together etc. Well yes, love if I'd done that in the first place I wouldn't be in the position...

driedapricots - I tried a lumber roll thing today and I think I'm going to stick with it. Doesn't directly help the spd but does sit you in a better position especially at a pc.

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Mercedes519 · 24/06/2010 17:19

Massive congrats happy.

That's the second good news story on here and it gives me a lot of hope that it is possible to do this and be OK afterwards.

Did you ask for any specific things for the induction which helped - hints and tips please!

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