Pregnancy after miscarriages and ectopic...eeeeeeeek!

[Maybebaby76]

Hey ladies, I think the topic says it all! Anybody want to share in the rollercoaster world of feelings? x x x

Thanks babyfour, i seem to be extra emotional at the moment, its hardly surprising but does'nt help matters!!

A quick update from me...i went to see the doctor again yesterday and he was great (I take back what I said about him before!). He got me an appointment at the EPAU same day and I went for a scan...........and the scan showed a baby and a heartbeat !!!!!

I can't quite believe it - I had pretty much written this one off as well. I know it is still really early days (6 and half weeks) and so much can still go wrong, but I never even got to this stage last time so this is all new to me.

I am trying hard not to get too excited until we get to 12 weeks but I am really starting to believe that it might be ok this time!!!!

The scan also showed a really large cyst one of my overies but the sonographer said this is really common and can sometimes actually be a sign that it is a really healthy pregnancy - has anyone else ever had this?

Katecool - I still have almost no systems either (although my breasts are pretty tender) and things seem to be going ok so far!!

I know I could be setting myself up for a big fall but today I am celebrating!

Hey mrsjc2305

That is fab news! Just wonderful!

I had my scan last week but I didn't want to post on here for fear of jinxing things but hey, mine showed a wee little thing with a heart beat tooooooo!

It also showed a cyst on my ovary and I was told that this was a really good sign as it means the right hormones are being produced to maintain the pregnancy.

Like you this is all new to me too, I just couldn't believe the heart beat, it was so strong, just amazing.

I know that it is still early days but I think, and have been told, that seeing a heart beat is a really positive sign.

I also went for a follow up appointment at the hospital yesterday (after an operation to remove endometriosis) and the consultant was over the moon for me, told me to enjoy it and start telling people!

Still nervous as anything though, he he

@mrsjc2305 - do a google search for EPU and self-referral. If you've had a miscarriage before some - like Homerton - will let you self refer.

I had a miscarriage in April and I'm pregnant again (6wks and 3 days). Have been having dreadful pains near my ovaries so worried something was wrong.

A scan last week showed the baby's sac and what's probably an early heart beat. But even more reassuringly it showed I have terrible trapped wind and that's why I'm in pain.

Hope you manage to get a scan. Ridiculous that your GP didn't phone the next day for you.

@mrsjc2305 just seen that you had a good outcome. Very pleased for you.

That is brilliant news - congratulations Maybebaby76

Thanks Lotta123 - glad to hear that you managed to get some reassurance on your pain. Every little things makes us so concenrned doesn;t it?

I don't know about you but I think this has made me even more scared and worried about things going wrong. I didn't get this far last time and now I know that there is at least hope for this one it is making me really freak out.

I still don't really have any symptoms at all (other than tender boobs - but even they don;t seem so bad today .

I am considering booking in for a private scan next week just to try and set my mind at rest.

I don;t think there is any risk to the baby of doing multiple scans - is there?

Good morning mrsjc2305

You are not alone in freakingoutville!

Even after seeing a heartbeat I still think that suddenly something could happen to make it all stop, you know?

I know that every pregnant woman must have these feelings but after loses it is so difficult to believe that it may just be our turn now, that things will be ok.

I asked about having another scan last week, the sister was so supportive, she said that given the measurements and heartbeat, she didn't have any concerns and that they were happy to see me again in 4 weeks.

I don't think there is any risk of doing multiple scans. My best friend had a walk in EPU in London and was scanned regularly for reassurance.

As for the symptoms, I still don't have many, extreme tiredness has hit me though! I was worried about the lack of symptoms, I thought if my body was flooded with hormones I should be feeling more but everyone's body reacts and copes differently I guess.

Hi Katecool

How have things been with you this week?

@maybebaby76 I've had awful morning sickness. Went for acupuncture earlier in the week. Today, I feel a lot better, but that makes me panic that I've had another MMC.

Have another scan at the hospital next Friday so keeping my fingers crossed for that. Just really wish I could have a scan now. Next week, I'll be at eight weeks and one doctor told me that is a better time to scan.

@mrsjc2305 definitely go for a scan if it'll make you feel better.

I know it is easy to say (not always for me to believe) Lotta123 but I have been reassured by friends, one of which was a midwife, saying that symptoms come and go.

The acupuncture may have helped to eleviate some of the sickness too.

I understand your worries though, totally. I have never come this far in a pregnancy before.

I still feel anxious when I'm not feeling any symptoms, at this early stage they are the only things we have to really remind us that we are pregnant.

I hope for a very positive outcome in your scan next week.

Hi everyone, im 7 weeks today and got myself all worried as i have right side pain, not bad, but i know it's there

Hi xkatyx - have you had a scan yet? Mine showed an ovarian cyst which is meant to be pretty common in pregnant women. I was told that this might cause some pain on one side as they can grow pretty large during early pregnancy. This might be the cause of your pain too?

Might be worth going to the doctors and seeing whether you can be referred for an early scan just to put your mind at rest. I'm sure it will all be fine

I have booked myself in for a private scan on wednesday just to try and stop myself from freaking out so much.

It really is difficult isn't it? I'd like to think if I make it to 12 weeks I'll relax a bit but somehow I doubt it!

i did have it with my dd horrible side pain so im hoping its just stretching pain, im the same i reallyt dont think i will ever relax, so stressful.

hope all goes well with your scan wednesday

Hi maybebaby76

I'm good thanks, feeling sick as a dog at the moment!! Lol...
Went to see Jamiroquai and Stevie Wonder at the weekend, Had an amazing time and it was great to feel normal and not be worrying about things!!! I've got my scan tomorrow so fingers crossed. How is everything with you?

Hi there ladies

mrsjc2305 and Katecool I have been thinking of you and your scans and wondering how you are?

I am back in freaking out town! Well actually I am in Cuba right now and have been enjoying the sun until this morning when I found some brown discharge.

I know that this can be a very common thing but I am finding it so hard to remain positive given things that have gone before. So being far away from home, GP's etc I have jumped on the internet in search of reassurance! Have found lots already but still so anxious

Just hoping for the best.

Hope you are all well x x

Hey Maybebaby76, you poor thing. it sounds like spotting. Drink lots of water and try to take it easy. My doctor said to only panic if it's fresh blood. Thinking of you. Xxx

hi all, have been reading all your posts and thought i would jump in if that ok!!?? Hi xkatyx we met before on another thread in april! Congrats on your pregnancy i too am now pregnant after all that confusion,i am 5 weeks+1. My problem is when i m/c in april it started with a pain in my right shoulder which guess what i have now am hoping it is just a pulled muscle??? anyone else had pain in their shoulder??? Its not trapped wind i have no problem in that department .also no other symptons i.e bad pain in side. x

It's all gone a bit quiet over the past week or so. It's difficult to keep up this level of fear /anxiety/ stress isn't it!! [Smile]

Welcome to the group Sam26oscar - I hope the pain in your shoulder has gone away and things have settled down a bit.

I have been really worried over the past week or so because I have had absolutely NO symptoms at all - had myself convinced it was all over. I went for a private scan on Saturday to try and get some resolution and we saw a 9 week old with a strong hearbeat - yeah! I am trying to do my best just to let things take their course now and not worry so much - i figure it is can grow that much in a week and a half when I didn't even feel pregnant then things can't be all bad!

I have even tempted fate by arranging my booking in appointment with the midwife!

I hope everyone else is doing well and are just keeping quiet to focus on being pregnant / not to jinx things etc.

Big hugs to everyone!

Love Mrsj2305
xx

Hello everyone,
please can I join you?
I am approx 5/6 weeks with my 3rd pregnancy. The first ended with my beautiful DD, the second at the end of May in a mc.
I am now pregnant again but haven't had a period in between and am terrified that it will go wrong again.
With the mc I had a tiny amount of bleeding and an inconclusive scan at 5 weeks, followed by a natural mc a week or so later.
As I wasn't sure of dates and was a bit scared that the positive tests I was getting were leftovers from the mc I have been to GP who after talking to EPC has booked me for a scan in two weeks.
I have had some sickness but its not continuous and I am just finding it so so hard to relax and take each day at a time. How have you all coped with the anxiety? I am always at the loo but scared to wipe and at the back of my mind is the fear that it could already be over and I won't know for two weeks...I have done a few more tests and have kept them all to check for darkness - I am going insane I think!
I am really tired but can't sleep as my mind is just churning round and round worrying...
Sorry, such a horrible moan you won't want me on your thread!
Thanks for listening. good luck with all your pregnancies.

Hi Gruffalomum! I feel bad that no one has been along to say hi to you yet so welcome to the group!

We all sympathise with the stress and anxiety you are going through -not sure any of us have the magic answer but I certainly took comfort from the fact that there are so many other people going through the same thing at the same time as me so at least I know I wasn't alone I have found that as the days and weeks go by with no bleeding that my trips to the toilet have become less stressful - hopeful you can get to that stage too!

I have my fingers crossed that everything works out for you at the scan. I know what you mean about being worried that it is already over and you don't know yet. I am struggling with that every day at the minute. I have already paid for two private scans to try and put my mind at rest but while it has been great to see the heartbeat it honsetly hasn't taken the anxiety away (and if anything might have made it worse!).

I have got my dating scan in two weeks time so I am trying to relax as much as possible and think positive!

Anyway, welcome to the group - feel free to have a moan anytime you like!

x