Pregnancy after miscarriages and ectopic...eeeeeeeek!

[Maybebaby76]

Hey ladies, I think the topic says it all! Anybody want to share in the rollercoaster world of feelings? x x x

Yep, I've rooted through the bin too but couldn't find previous tests (probably a good thing!)
I'm going to wait to go to the drs if I get past my previous miscarriage date (five and a half weeks. I think I'm 5 weeks on wednesday so I'll go from there. Too scared to go to the drs yet.

I feel exactly the same..just wanting to get past mt previous miscarriage dates..too scared to make any appointments before this time..today is one of those dates..concentration at work may be a slight problem, I may aswell just take a lap top into the loos for the day!!

I hope you get through today ok Maybebaby76 - we'll all have our fingers crossed for you

it seems so unfair doesn't it - we are all going to spend the next 9 months (hopefully) worrying and stressing over every little thing. The innocence of pregnancy has totally been taken away from us and we can't enjoy it like others can...

At least we can all share our thoughts with each other - it really does help speaking to people who have gone through and are going through the same thing......

Challenge of the day for me - my number of trips to the toilet WILL be in single figures today

Thanks mrsjc2305

To say I am a tad emotional today is a little bit of an understatement!

You are so right about the innocence of pregnancy being taken away...makes me want it even more.

It really does help being able to share these anxieties with people that understand, I giggle at the thought of how neurotic I actually could be if it weren't for my vents on here! Yes, I could be worse!

Oh, and I want a confession of the number of loo trips at the end of the day, he heee!

How are you doing Maybebaby76? I hope you are getting through the day ok - have been thinking about you.

I have found that actually doing some work seems to help - the morning has just flown by! lol

Hi Maybebaby76, how are you getting on? I'm so sorry that today is significant in the way that it is for you, and hope it all goes ok.
How are the limited loo trips working out for you mrsjc2305? I've been to a course this morning and have been so distracted I spent 4 hours not worrying about mc. Wow!! Back to normal now though!

Thanks for your kind thoughts ladies.

I have been up to some pretty insane antics this morning...I shall share so you can laugh.

I called my GP and asked for a referral to our nearest EPU. I am so scared but, in his words, avoiding a scan will not change the outcome, good or bad. Very pragmatic, how dare he not be trained and equipped to deal with hormonal, neurotic women on the edge, ha ha haaa

Anyhoo, found myself calling the MC Association and had a very surreal but comforting conversation then found myself in Boots with a digital test in my hand. Then I freaked out as it said 2-3 weeks...even though it had only said that 4 days ago!

Have I gone to the dark side? He hee. Oh, I have to laugh or else I would cry (which I have also done today).

But that's enough rambling about me for today, how are you?

Hi,
I also had a MMC last fall and have just learned I'm expecting again. I'm really scared to be happy, much less share the news with friends and family. My family didn't know how to react after the loss and never talk about it. I don't want to get their hopes up and kind of don't want to get mine up either. How long should I wait to tell them?

Welcome to the group LondonL - my plan is to keep it quiet for as long as possible, ideally until after the 12 week mark (not that I have ever reached that before....). Trouble is I have my sisters hend night, wedding and a few other traditionally boozy nights out over the next few months so I don't see how I am going to manage to keep it a secret.

We tried to keep the last one a secret too but that became a little bit difficult after I was admitted to hospital with a suspected ectopic (it wasn't thankfully but miscarried anyway).

Glad you made it through the day Maybebaby76 - did you get an appointment at the EPU? Hopefully that will put your mind at rest. I love the CB Digital tests but I am a bit scared to do another one just in case the "time from conception" has gone down (that's what happened the last time with me). Somehow I don;t think 4 days is enough to expect it to move though so I'm sure you are fine!

Being busy at work really does help doesn;t it naitimum! I am proud to report that I only had 5 trips today (and some of them were even valid trips!). I call that success!

hi girls

a message of hope for you all....it can all be ok after EP....i started a similar thread back in october i think after my a MMC in april last year followed by a EP in august. I lost my left tube and 8wk baby and was so devastated i couldn't even begin to think i would be ready to try again EVER. Amazingly only two months and a lot of support from the thread later i fell pregnant after ovulating off my 'good' side and am currently 26wks pregnant with a huge belly and even huger hands and feet!

I have no tips for not obsessing about being early preg after EP as i was ridiculously obsessed - i found the website www.betabase.org really useful for checking my beta levels as i had blood tests every three days for a while as had a very patient and understanding GP who tried any means to reassure me this time it was going to be ok...

4 weeks and 2 days , no symptoms yet, very tempted to get a test and see if the line os dark, but im so scared it will be faint

Hi LondonL - welcome to the group. I totally understand you about the feeling scared rather than being happy, I spend most of the time like this too. We have decided to tell some people, partly cos I know I will tell them anyway if we mc again so I would like to tell them good news too if I have it. Plus it might help to talk things through with people (it seems to help writing it down here quite a lot!).
Maybebaby76 , what a day you've had!! If you've headed to the dark side, I think I'm somewhere pretty close to you. I bought a digital test today but still ended up cracking the stupid thing open so I could check out what my line looks like!! That sort of defeats the object of spending over a tenner on it I think.
mrsjc2305 5 times is a definite success!! You go girl!
Thanks for your words of encouragement boodleboot and congratulations on your pregnancy! Hope it all goes well!
xkatyx I don't know what to suggest, as you can see I can't stop testing at the moment but I plan to not buy any more after this last digital one. Could you manage to wait a few days and maybe test again to compare?

Hi there. I've juat had a positive test today, after 3 miscarriages over last couple of years. Really mixed feelings as I can't believe it will be OK this time and not sure I can go through the trauma of losing a 4th baby. The saving grace is I do have a lovely 3 year old - but this feels like our last chance for a 2nd as I'm 42 already.

To others I'd say do push for an early EPU scan. They were really supportive to me on last 2 pregnancies - even though ultimately unsuccessful. Also, they may suggest other things - low dose aspirin or progesterone pessaries (messy!) Also, I'm having acupuncture this time which a friend recommended. May or may not work but I'll try anything. My acupuncturist - who is great - advises lots of rest, try and sit rather than stand, lie rather than sit..! I'm already feeling v tired so taking chances to rest when I can.

All the best to all of us

Hi everyone,

I'm glad and not (if you know what i mean) that there is people out th" and my lovely DH keeps calling me!!!

Had very light ache in lower tummy this morning and was all in a state aske DH to get me another test and low and behold a lovely dark line apeared as soon as my pee got to it so strangely enough i think the aches have gone

I went to see my gp yesterday and asked about a early scan she said they dont do it at EPU unless there bleeding pain etc!!!

So im going to book me self in for a private one about 7/8 weeks i dont know how on earth i can wait that long though!!!

Still not many symptoms but my line has got darker so not going to freak about that too much for now, im sure i didnt have any with my last baby.

hopingtoo i heard acupunture is supposed to be brill good luck.

xx

Hi LondonL, welcome to the group. I just wanted to say that I feel very similar to you, I don?t want to get my families hope up again, or mine, but sometimes the thoughts of what could be in the future shine through. I have decided not to tell my parents yet as I do not want them to worry unnecessarily, my last pregnancy was an ectopic so a bit of a shock.

My GP has booked an early scan for me next week so, regardless of the outcome, I will share with my family and close friends then. So scared though. xkaty Hooray on the darker line!! I am really shocked that your GP has been unable to refer you for an early scan. The NHS website encourages that women who have had previous loses be seen for early scans for reassurance. Do you have a direct contact number for your nearest EPU? I contacted mine initially, explained my history and they suggested I see them asap.

mrsjc2305 congratulations on the 5 trips, very impressive, mine went into severe double figures yesterday! I sympathise with your upcoming social events as I have a lot too, and I am partial to a glass of wine, so people will know straight away if I am not drinking! My plan is to drink lots of virgin marys and apple juice in the hope that nobody spots the difference!

hopingtoo I think your acupuncturist sounds wonderful, great advice, I think we all need to rest and 'relax' as much as we can at the moment and take care of ourselves. I had acupuncture after my miscarriages and ectopic and she really helped me out of a void.

Thank you boodleboot for your positive story. Hearing your story gives me faith that wishes can come true.

Hi ladies,
Just went to the loo and had a tiny bit of something pink. Have awful stomach pains today (was hoping I was just hungry) but I feel like this might be the beginning of the same thing that happened before. Do you think maybe there's something wrong if I can't get beyond five weeks without mc'ing. I do have a son who is nearly 2 but maybe something has changed since I had him. I'm really worried now, have been out for the day but just feel like I want to cry now. Good luck to the rest of you and glad your line is getting darker xkatyx!!

natimum dont panic, it's so common to have bleeds. you 5 weeks today? it could very well be implantation bleed and thats why the line had been taking it's time to get darker.

I really have my fingers crossed for and thinking about you and sending a massive hug, i know the horrible feeling of seeing the blood it crushes you inside, but please try not to panic.

When this happend to me my Gp suggested i do aanother test and see what the line is like.

xxxxxxx

Hi thanks xkatyx but I've checked again and have had more, and I think this is more than implantation. I think I may be out of this thread from now though, girlies, so I wish you the best of luck and hope that your journeys continue more successfuly than mine.

i'm so sorry, i really do hope that it isn't bad news and wish you the best of luck.

xxx

naitimum, I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I understand if you want to leave this thread but please stay if you want to talk some more. Thinking of you and sending you the biggest hug x x x x x

I am so sorry naitimum but don't give up hope just yet. We will all automatically think the worst is happening if we see any blood because of what has happened in the past. There are so many stories on here though about people who have beld and continued on to have healthy pregnancies - stay strong, we are all rooting for you!

I caved in and did another test yesterday (which was still positive thankfully!). The conception indicator increased to 2-3 weeks which I guess is good.

Still stressing out and trying hard not to think about it too much. Got a busy day at work today so hopefully that will help.

Have a good day ladies.
x

Hi,
couldn't resist coming back, I missed you all already!!
Thanks for your kind words ladies, but I woke up this morning with more of a bleed and clotting so I think it's a bit of a done deal. It might sound wierd but I feel slightly relieved now that at least I know what's happening. I've been to the drs this morning and she was really gentle and just talked me through it again but they won't do any tests unless it happens a third time.
i'm really glad your your tests are progressing mrsjc2305, that's fab news!
So I'm back to square one again, but who knows maybe if things go well I'm come and try and find you all in a few months. I'm sure I'll check up on you all from time to time and I genuinely wish you the best of luck!!

Oh sh*t - looks like I might be the next to drop out - the dredded pink has arrived this afternoon. Not much, but enough to freak me out. No pains or anything but then i didn't get that until the very end last time.

will let you know how it goes......

Thinking of you mrsjc2305, I know what must be going through your mind and how awful you must be feeling but things could be ok...I really hope so. Biggest hug x x x

I did another test this morning and the conception indicator has gone up to "3+weeks" (was at 2-3 on Wednesday) so I am clinging on to that at the minute to give me hope that things might be ok.

Going to hold off going to the Doctor - i am 5 weeks today so it would still be too early to see anything on a scan which would just worry me more.

Thanks for hug Maybebaby76 - it really does help to have other people who understand