Pregnancy after miscarriages and ectopic...eeeeeeeek!

[Maybebaby76]

Hey ladies, I think the topic says it all! Anybody want to share in the rollercoaster world of feelings? x x x

That sounds really positive mrsjc2305

I did the same thing this morning too with the same results as you! I allowed myself to feel happy for a whle but I still can't seem to get my hopes up, do you know what I mean?

Totally know what you mean Maybebaby76 - I don't think I will be able to get hopeful or excited about this pregnancy until I have a huge bump and can feel the baby kicking! Anything before then just seems still too uncertain and risky.

I haven't had anymore bleeding today so I am slowing trying to convince myself that it might still be ok. Like you though I am finding it impossible to look on the bright side. I actually feel really low at the minute - all this worry really takes its toll (and I can't even have a glass of wine to help me de-stress!).

Fingers crossed everyone is continuing to do well - I am really looking forward to the point when people can start sharing positive news from early scans etc - that will really give us all hope!

Have a great weekend all!

May I join, I had a mc at the end of March and just found yesterday that I am 4 weeks pregnant. Felt quite numb, I guess because I don't want to get too excited, last time I had my mc at 11 weeks and was at the time so excited about 12 week scan, really hard not to be scared again. Plus I was due a smear in Jan but then got pregant and was meant to have one 2 months after my first period after mc but now pregant again.

Wishing you all succeful pregnancies this time round!
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welcome to the mad house brokleyD! We are all dealing with the rollercoaster of emotions of being pregnant after having mc - feel free to vent - that's why we are here!

I really am finding it impossible to feel anything at the minute - i am 5 weeks and had a small bleed at the end of last week.It only lasted for ann afternoon and seems to have totally disappeared but it is still enough freak me out even more.

My current stress is that I am 5 weeks and don't have any symptoms at all. Last time around I'm sure I had sore boobs by now.

Does anyone lese have any symptoms yet?

Hi MrsJc, thanks for message. I don't really have any syptoms yet either except period like cramps, which seem worse then last time but quite normal, I think. Have you been to doctors small bleed? My midwife told me last time to always check out any bleed just to be on the safe side.

But on the other hand women bleed all the time so maybe waste of time. I keep on thinking I am bleeding but not yet, paranoia!

Good luck! X

So glad i found this website! Hi ladies.......i had a mc in early march, Some crazy things went thru my mind but finally had to think positively and it paid off..last week I found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant. But apart from super sensitive sense of smell I don't feel pregnant, I must have done 5 or 6 tests and worry every time I go to the toilet. The most worrying thing is for the last week I've had really bad period type pains. Is this normal? Would be lovely to put these worries to the back of my mind!!!

Hello brockleyD and Katecool, welcome to the mad house indeed (mrsjc2305 you make me smile)

I've not been on here for a few days, trying to stay calm and positive and not think about being pregnant, yea, who am I kidding! It's 24-7 paranoidsville!

Katecool, I've had period type pains too, since before I found out I was pregnant. Probably like you, I am sensitive to every little pull, twinge and ache so I have googled the entire world and have been reassured by many, many women saying that this is a very common and normal symptom of early pregnancy, so I try and remember that when I'm worried.

As for other symptoms mrsjc2305, I've not had many, just tender boobs, on and off, nausea and insomnia (although I think the last two are induced by the stress of it all). Like you at the weekend, I have been feeling low at times?riding this roller coaster sure does take it's toll!!

Thanks so much maybebaby76. It's so lovely to be able to chat to people who know how you feel. My partner doesn't want to talk about the pregnancy and says we should take each day as it comes, he is afraid to hope I think....but I don't half feel lonely..wishing I could chat to him about this, he is just scared. He doesn't want to tell anyone yet! It makes sense but thank god I've found this website and you lovely ladies.

Hi Guys,

Am feeling a bit happier today - I am finally getting tender boobs! Not sure that should make me happy but I am seeing it as progress!

I have an appointment with the doctors tomorrow. I remember last time thinking it was such an anti-climax - all they did was fill out paperwork and they didn;t even confirm the pregnancy with some sort of super doctor test! Don't know what I was expecting but it wasn't "well if you say you are pregnant then we believe you!". Am going to ask to be referred to the EPAU for a scan so well see how that goes.

How is everyone doing today? Hopefully today has been a very non eventful day (in the nicest possible way!) for everyone.

Big hugs to everyone!

evening all (gosh, I sound like a policeman there!), could I join in? I had a mc in December, and am delighted to find myself pg again (4 weeks). It's my first. I feel elation but really scared the same thing will happen again. My DH is pleased, but I can see he's not getting emtionally involved in the pg as he doesn't want to get upset again.

Last time, I was really ill with pg, and kept being told it was good as showed the pg had taken well - and then look what happened! So this time I find myself with symptoms again, went to the docs (as my job involves cooking and I'm totally off food) and was shocked that she signed me off for 3 weeks to give the pregnancy the 'best chance' (her words). SO I find myself alone, at home, bored and sicky. I'm trying to get as relaxed as possible, as I worry muyself that it was me to cause the mc by getting really stressed (can you tell I'm an anxious person?!). I'm looking forward to the future, but just feel so scared and nervous about everything.

We told our parents, and whereas before they were super excited, they were really muted this time with a 'it's early days' reaction - it feels like my past mc has dented my whole experience this time around...

this is a bit long, sorry, but it feels better to vent
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Hi everyone,

Oh Angels1 i know how you feel about being bored and alone! The same thing has happened to me..no work and the days seems to drag on and on! i wish i had some pregnancy symptoms tho...i only get period pains but my boobs are getting rather sore today so i guess thats a good thing lol.

mrsjc2305 you did make me smile talking about your super doctor test and thanks at least i know what to expect when i go to see my doc on friday! Last time i saw him it was to confirm my mc so atleast i am going with good news this time.

Big soft hugs to everyone. xxx

Hey Angels1

Vent away! I know exactly how you feel about the whole experience being dented because of your previous mc, this is a natural feeling and one I think that we all share.

I hope that you can find some moments to relax but please be assured that stress alone does not cause a mc. Many films and tv shows would have us believe this but after several miscarriages and an ectopic I have been reassured that this is not the case.

As to how to remain relaxed, well, they had no words of advice there! I'm just trying to take each day as it comes, although with a scan approaching the stress is making me more cuckooooo than normal

You may be feeling a little bored but you are not alone here x x x

thanks maybebaby76

I can't believe it's only wednesday....time is going so slowly!

I've found some free audio yoga podcasts, so I'm going to try and do one of those every day to help me relax. I've also got reflexology booked this week end (and also had it last week end). I know some say not to do these things in first tri as they arn't sure about it, but i've been seeing this lady for some time and she says she will only do people in 1st tri if she knows how they react to reflex and she avoids bits and is very gentle, so I'm hoping this will help too.

I enjoy sewing, so I can see myself going embroidery mad in the next few weeks assuming all to plan - usually it's cooking I turn to when I'm stressed/bored - but there's now way I fancy baking!!
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Oh ladies, I think I'm having a melt down, can I vent??

Nothing has happend but with my scan approaching I'm feeling very nervous, anxious that something is going to be wrong as this is all I have known so far.

Well, that sounded depressing but do you know what I mean?

Just feeling very low, had lots of cramping today with a 'heavy' sensation and finding it hard to stay positive. My DH is a wonderful support but I can't help this niggling feeling in my teeny brain!

Oh maybebaby76 my heart goes out to you.. i know what you mean...its a feeling thats with you all the time and no matter what your doing to keep your mind off it, it just wont go away!

Im feeling rather similar to you right now apart from i wish i had a DH..i have a pain in the butt BF who is non comunicative male! How unusual!!

I just want you to know that i am thinking of you and sending you a big soft hug

Thank you so much Katecool

That was a good hug...I must be close to melt down as your message made my eyes well up!

It's just so comforting to talk to you all, knowing that you understand.

Sorry to hear about your BF, it may be that he is not sure how to communicate at the moment so he had closed up? Hope so...in the mean time, you can always talk on here...I certainly do enough of it, he heee!

Thanks again and a big soft hug right back at you x x x

Time for my latest rant......

I went to the doctors on Wednesday evening - explained that I have had spotting several times over the past week and so was obviously worried and wanted referred to the EPAU. As my appointment was in the evening and the EPAU was shut the docutor said he couldn;t refer me and if I thought I was miscarrying I should go to A&E that evening. Now in my view (and experience) there is a huge difference between spotting and actively miscarrying and there was no way I felt I should be going to A&E.

His issue was that you can't "book" to go to EPAU - the doctor has to phone while you are in the room with him and get you referred over. He couldn't do that as the EPAU was shut!

All very very frustrating! We left it that I would go back to him next Tuesday and try to get referred to EPAU then. Needless to say the minute I got back home from the appointment I found out I was spotting again!

I am finding this so hard - intellectually I know that a small amount of spotting is fairly normal and I have not been bleeding in the same was as I did when I miscarried but I desperately need to know whether there is even anything there!

Has anyone else considered / gone for private scans?

Sorry for the rant - I hope things are going well for everyone else!

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Hi all, thought I might pop in here to vent if you don't mind?

I am currently 5w+1d, and in loony-ville with cramping and wondering if if if if ....
I have had 7 miscarriages in the last 2 years (yes been investigated, just been put down to "old" age). But here I am again, wondering why I put myself through all this. With all 11 of my previous pregnancies, I have had early scans, and have now decided they are more stress for me than reassurance.

Also having had a pregnancy where I got to see the heartbeat only for it to stop a week later, means that even seeing an early scan and getting that magical heartbeat now means nothing to me. I am opting for the totally unscientific route of daily pregnancy testing watching to see the lines get darker and stay dark. Other than that unless I have to, I am avoiding the epu's until I have to go.

Anyway, sorry for having a little rant, I just needed somewhere to put it!

Hey mrsjc2305

I'm really shocked and quite frankly angry at the way you have been treated by your GP.

I don't expect GPs to be all knowing in the world of pregnancies, and the anxiety that surrounds them, but I think in our cases where we have suffered previous loses, we should be offered support where we need it. I'm not surprised you feel frustrated, I'd be in pieces!

If your GP is unable to refer you to the EPU I would consider looking into having a private scan, I understand that they vary in price but to ease some of the anxiety you are going through I think it would be more than worth it.

Out of curiosity, what county are you in?

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Hi babyfour

Welcome to loonyville, you are in good company here.

I undertand you not wanting to have an early scan but are there other things you could do for reassurance? Have you had blood tests to measure levels of hcg for example?

Is time going slowly for everyone else here, a day feels like a week at the moment for me.

Maybebaby -thank you for the welcome. To be honest I have been at the epu having hcg blood tests so often, I really feel that it is a waste of my time. They do the test, "reassure" me and all that, With the one where I saw the heartbeat, we got fabulous doubling times with the hcg levels all the way to the scan with the heartbeat. But I knew when things went wrong, just gut instinct. I waited another week then went to be told that the baby had stopped growing exactly when I thought it had. Over the years I have gone and been reassured at epu's for it all to go wrong a few days later, and I have also been and been told it is all over, when it wasn't. So I have sadly lost all faith in EPU's. Sorry if this sounds very negative, it is just born of experience . Anyway, how are you doing, when is your scan booked for?

MrsJC - how are you? are you still having spotting or has it settled down? hope things are ok.

Where is everyone else? Anyone feeling positive?

Hi Everyone

How are you all? How are you feeling maybebaby76?? and babyfour wow i cant imagine what you have been thru so far you amazing woman. xx
Ive been cat sitting over at my parents house and tbh its been lovely to get away and spend some time on my own with the cats and my dog!!
My pregnancy symptoms have almost ground to a halt today and im starting to worry.... only tender nipples...thats it!! Im almost 6 weeks pg and not due for my scan for another 9 days. Oh why do we worry like this when its totally out of our control? Its not like getting stressed will help!!! I feel another session of pg tests is due!! (confused)

Ha Ha this is how un-tec like i am....i want to put a confused symbol at the end of my msg but it just comes out as durrr

Why is all the info on the internet saying that there is a correlation between lack of morning sickness and a higher rate of mc! Im i just looking for answers that just are'nt there!! Im really starting to stress today and i feel totally helpless!!

katecool - seriously there is absolutely no real direct corralation between m/c and symptoms or lack of them. I have had a successful pregnancy with very little symptoms and equally well I have had several miscarriages with very strong symptoms of morning sickness. Morning sickness often does not kick in until 6 weeks with many women. So please try to relax and enjoy your cat/dog sitting time, and dream baby thoughts!