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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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how long did take to concieve your babies?

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xkatyx · 12/05/2010 17:03

Hi,

i was just woundering how long it took with each child you had (if you have more than 1)

Me and dh concieved 1st and 2nd children first month of trying, also concieved first time 2 months ago but unfortunetly had a early MC.

Me and dh are ttc baby no 3 and i seam to have missed this month

Silly me really asumming i would be lucky enough again. I know i was extremly lucky as i can take some woman months.

So do you think there is something wrong why i didnt fall pregnant first time this month?
How long did it take to concieve your babies?

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AndieWalsh · 12/05/2010 17:06

I think it's fairly standard to take up to a year to conceive. I certainly wouldnt be worrying if I were you.

To be honest, I don't know how this thread will be taken by some MN-ers who have been trying to conceive for a long time and/or have genuine fertility problems. I'm sure you didn't mean it to come across badly, but it could be construed as an insensitive thread, I'm afraid.

ktwiltshire · 12/05/2010 17:10

i fell pregnant by accident with my first two children, i was actually on the pill and still got pregnant. when i remarried and my new husband and i decided we wanted another child we started trying at christmas and fell pregnant in september, so it took 9 months, which was really worrying as it was driving me mad considering how easily i fell pregnant with my first two children.

EccentricaGallumbits · 12/05/2010 17:10

about 20 minutes for DD1 and 5 for DD2

LuluF · 12/05/2010 17:11

We conceived the first 3 each on first attempt. This time round it has taken about 5 cycles and we had a very early mc about 3 months ago.

Like you, I thought it would be easy, but it's been far from it.

I felt that there must be something wrong with me - I bought ovulation kits, all sorts of supplements and was turning into Monica from 'Friends'. I was convinced I'd got everything wrong with me. Or that because I'm now 36, it was so much harder.

So this last time, rather than aiming for my fertile period (because even with OPKs I was obviously missing it) we went for the 'having sex every other night' technique and trying to relax about it. Also, a GP friend advised both of us to go teetotal for a bit. It seems to have worked so far - I'm nearly 6 weeks.

Good luck - it'll happen for you.

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xkatyx · 12/05/2010 17:13

It was never ment to come across that way at all, and no way intended to upset anyone, i posted on pregnancy and defenetly avoided conception. i have recently had a MC and was worried that maybe i might have trouble concieving. I have no one else to ask

As i said in my first post i know how extremely lucky i was to fall pregnant so easily and that some woman have a horrible struggle.

I just wanted to know in genral how long it took for woman to concieve out of genral interest and thought i would put my stats down too.

Appologise if i have upset anyone but i certainly never intended it that way.

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Nyx · 12/05/2010 17:13

It took us around 2 years for dd, and she's an only.

littleducks · 12/05/2010 17:14

I also conceived the first month of trying both times, i also think of it as 'normal' i suppose you do if thats your experience

I would just concentrate on the fact that actually its not that normal and was just lucky, try not to get worked up about it but relax and wait and see for a bit

DuelingFanjo · 12/05/2010 17:15

it took me 2 and a half years, though I did get pregnant after 1 and a half and then miscarried. In the end we had IVF. We had 'unexplained infertility'.

BessieBoots · 12/05/2010 17:16

I don't think this thread is offensive at all.

DS1 took about a week.

DS2 took 18 months. I got an appointment for the gynae clinic to discuss our infertilitya few days before I took the positive test.

Good luck!

Kittykatzen · 12/05/2010 17:16

I am 11 weeks pregnant and shell shocked - got married 27th Feb, started trying straight away, and conceived on honeymoon. My mum took 10 years to have me so I thought it might take somewhat longer! However everyone is completely different - a quick review of my friends reveals everything from honeymoon babies to natural conception after a couple of years and IVF even later than that. However most people WILL conceive within a year of trying. I think it's very unlikely there is anything wrong with you, I think you have just been very lucky in the past, and the fact that you have conceived easily already suggests that it is likely to happen for you again.

Good luck!

Emz1980 · 12/05/2010 17:16

I concieved the same month I started trying with my 1st two with 1st husband. Had coil out NYE and had LMP 18th January, so same thing happened again with new partner!! think im super fertile!!!

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xkatyx · 12/05/2010 17:17

Thank you all very much and a big CONGRATULATIONS luluf , im going throught the whole "oh my goodness there must be something wrong with me" i suppose the early mc has put that in my head.

We went for the everyday approach (obviously doesnt work for us) so going to relax abit now knowing that just because i fell pregnant easily last time doesnt mean there is something wrong now.

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LuluF · 12/05/2010 17:17

AndieWalsh I'm sure that xkatyx was not meaning to be insensitive, and I don't think it comes across that way either. OK she and I (and many other people, come to that) have had no problem at all conceiving previously - and believe me, we count our blessings. So are our concerns about fertility any less valid? Does it mean that because we have children already we can't be worried or ask questions about fertility problems?

DuelingFanjo · 12/05/2010 17:18

PS I'm not taking this the wrong way

I didn't ever look in the pregnancy topic when I was trying so don't worry.

MumNWLondon · 12/05/2010 17:21

I didn't really have a problem conceiving but did find it a little insensitive - ie to be worried after such a short length of time and to take it for granted about conceivibng quickly the first 2 times.

DC1 - around 6 months

DC2 - in first month of trying

DC 3 - around 4 months.

KaraThrace · 12/05/2010 17:22

Pretty quickly with DD and now nearly 2 years of trying and 1 mc later no sign of DC2.

bambipie · 12/05/2010 17:26

Good luck OP! Not an insensitive thread at all, you're worried about something so why shouldn't you ask about it?

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xkatyx · 12/05/2010 17:28

mumnwlondon appologies that you found it insensitive, it was never ment to really it wasn't.

But i never had or will ever take for granted falling pregnant so easily, i was very lucky indeed, there wasnt a day that went by when i was pregnant that i didnt realise how lucky i was.

Yes i may sound insensitive to be worring after such a short time but that is mostly down to having a MC as i had never had one before either and thinking maybe my body isnt responding as well as it had before.

I just wanted advice not to offend anybody i appologies again

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AndieWalsh · 12/05/2010 17:31

xkatyx, I hope you don't think I was being nasty in my original reply. I genuinely didn't think you were being deliberately insensitive at all, I just wondered if some MN-ers might feel a bit miffed that you are worried about fertility problems after one month of ttc. But you are totally entitled to have your own worries and voice them. Please don't think I was attacking you, just pointing out that you might get a few faces from those less fortunate than yourself.

Nattynar · 12/05/2010 17:39

There is a 20 year age gap between myself & DH. I came off the pill in September, and fell pregnant in July. So it took 10 months, which I'm told by my MW friend is the average.

I really wouldn't worry if it's taking a bit longer. I was worried as I was 24 and in theory this is when I'm supppose to be at my most fertile. We decided to stop trying, and that's when I fell pregnant. Relax & I'm sure that it will happen soon!!

capricorn76 · 12/05/2010 17:55

I honestly don't believe OP was being deliberately insensitive. However, I think AndieWalsh was right to think of those like me who aren't so lucky (it took about 18 months plus fertility treatment) I was a little uncomfortable with this thread but understand you do have a genuine concern and have a right to state it. Nevertheless surely most people know it's pretty lucky to get pregnant first month TTC especially twice? To happen a third time would be a near miracle!

TulipsInTheSunshine · 12/05/2010 17:59

dd - 2 years
ds1 - wasn't even trying, hadn't had a period after having dd and found out i was pregnant again
ds2 - got pregnant in the second month, so one period between starting to ttc and being pregnant.

guess once my body learned what to do it was easy.

belly36 · 12/05/2010 18:03

DS first month of trying. Then 18 months to conceive next, lost to miscarriage at 10 weeks.

Then three months to conceive again.

nunnie · 12/05/2010 18:24

4 years for dd, and 2 1/2 for this one.

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xkatyx · 12/05/2010 18:25

I'm sorry capricorn76 that you felt uncomfortable

It's not so much the not falling pregnant first time as i know i was extremly lucky both times, it was more i had a mc then this so was a tad worried that my body may not be up to it and just wanted to know other womans exsperiences, and a general interest in how long it took diffrent people.

I know it can take a normal healthy couple a year to concieve, i'm just a little upset seeing a bfn im almost defently over reacting .. can i blame my hormones?

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