I'VE HAD ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!

[newmomma]

and I've still got weeks to go...

Due date is either 8th or the 17th May.
DS1 came 2 weeks early so could be anywhere between, say, 1 week from now until the END OF MAY!

I physically can't do this any longer.

Can someone tell me I won't get that much bigger/more tired/more uncomfortable in the next few weeks - even if its LIES!

I didn't have anything like this with DS1 - it was a breeze. This time it feels like its such a slog and the thought of another 6 weeks... I could actually cry.

Sorry - someone slap my face and tell me to pull myself together.

Thanks for remembering first1! Scan went ok - baby was head down (again!), but back-to-back. You'd think the doctor would be able to tell the difference?!? And 3/5 engaged, not that means much with a second baby I understand.

I have asked them to scan me again next Thursday for peace of mind, and they said they'd happily do a sweep for me too - even though I won't be 40 weeks until the following Monday.

Have had an awful nights sleep - really bad sore throat, swollen glands, bad cold, feeling so sorry for myself today - have asked my Mum to look after DS, as just can't cope.

I keep wishing for a contraction! I must sound nuts.

Not sure why things should be so much worse 2nd time round, munchkinland, I suppose it must have something to do with the fact that you can't just relax and put your feet up life you could first time round. Had two bad nights with DS, and feeling poorly on top. And I think also the fact that my gap between the two DC's will be 16 months must mean my body was still returning to normal and so maybe isn't coping so well this time round.

Made meatballs and spaghetti as a pick-me-up - I can't wait!

newmomma - seems we have a bit in common!: Baby is spine to spine, 3/5 engaged and due 17/05 here too :D. Got a consultant appointment at 1.30pm today. They've changed my named consultant literally at the last week (grr) so gotta rehearse my entire speech to go through my whole pregnancy again with this new guy. Reallllly fed up now. Had a takeaway curry on Saturday and bought 2 pineapples (buy 1 get 1 free at Sainsburys right now!!), and it's done sod all. Boredddddd!

What a coincidence! It'll be fun to see who goes first - can't believe our circumstances are so similar!

I just put two pineapples on my Sainsbury's shopping too!

Have utterly 'done' pregnancy now - I am ready for the next stage, it would be just nice to be able to get out of bed without rolling and to shave my own legs!

Fingers crossed your new consultant is sympathetic - what is the speech you're giving him?

Oh my, my legs are a disgrace , I've just given up now! Still putting my face on every day though just to look a tad human, but every day that goes past I seem to be caring less and less!

Saw new consultant, chatted all about my asthma and possible CPD that another doctor put on the cards.

Also had an attempted sweep though it failed so I just walked out the room feeling totally undignified for no reason. Having another one on Friday but I'm not hopeful that that one will work.

Been told I'll be induced at the latest of term +7 rather than the standard 10days if I go overdue. Lordy though, 7 days over even - that's 2 whole weeks from today . Come on baby!!

Ooh - how was the sweep first1??

I'm having one on Thursday after they double check the baby is still head down. I'm a bit scared as everyone keeps telling me how awful they are... But surely it can't be any worse than being HEAVILY PREGNANT?!?!

Why did it fail? Can they tell it won't work straight away - though they just did it and then you had to wait and see if your labour started?

At least you have a date for the end of being pregnant! And 7 days over isn't too bad - I think they induce at 14 days with us...

I had almost no sleep last night - DS slept through, the problem is my hips! They just scream at me every time I move, or even if I don't move. I can't win.

Fingers crossed for some news from us two soon, looks like there will be some more arrivals on the May thread before too long too!

Can I join having a moan?
I am 37+6 and so fed up I have DD off school with chicken pox so we cant go out. DS 25 months with a snotty nose and very grumpy at the moment We are just waiting for him to go down with Chicken pox.
I have had backache and BX contraction since Sunday night so bad that I thought I was going into labour.I have to wake up to turn over at night and need to pee so much now.
On Thursday I have a training day that I really do not want to attend as it will be so boring.

Of course! The more the merrier!

Sorry you're having such a hard time with your other little ones. I'm struggling with my 16 mo and he's not even poorly!

You must be hoping CP are all gone before bub arrives?

I officially have less than a week until my due date - and it can't come soon enough.

DS was born at 38+4 so I'm already more pregnant than I've ever been and can't bear the thought of going two weeks over.

The clue is in the title of the thread!!

newmomma - I'd say the sweep wasnt any more uncomfortable than a smear. The doc just kept telling me to take really deep breaths so you don't tense up down there. My sweep yesterday failed as my cervix is still closed and 2cm long - though that figure doesn't mean anything to me. They won't know the state of your cervix until they attempt the sweep. Going back for a second go on Friday morning, so fingers crossed! I'm having a scan later as been told it's likely to be a big baby so I want to know just how big! She measured 4lb14oz at 33weeks so I imagine she's gonna be a big'un. And I'm only 5'4 so I look stupidly whale-like!

Sorry to hear you're struggling with your hips. Pregnancy waddle is bad enough without extra strain. Still, we're due in less than a week! Wahoo! I've figured I've got 2 countdowns: 6 days til due date, or 13 until induction. I can cope with that.

swangirl Sorry to hear you're kids are poorly. I'm pregnant with my first and struggling, so I cant imagine what its like with others to contend with. The end is in sight for you too!

Had my sweep this morning.

Cervix was 1.5cm dilated which is nothing apparently given that this is my second baby.
They had a good rummage and said wait and see although I don't hold out much hope - baby is only 3/5 engaged (same as this time last week) and I've had absolutely no signs that anything is imminent.

I feel really quite cross about some of the 'sweep' threads I've read - people have been making out that it's appalling, worse than labour, but it really was no different to a slightly longer/firmer smear. And I got myself quite worked up about it.

So; they booked me in for an induction too, which put the fear of god into me considering my due date isn't until Monday! DH got quite cross saying its over 2 1/2 weeks away and so they should have left it for a while, rather than wind me up with the literature they gave me. Higher chance of c/s and need for an epidural. Not the water birth in my MLU that I wanted then...

Back to the waiting game; they didn't seem to think anything was imminent so just going to have to waddle struggle on a bit longer. I can't believe my first came out 2 weeks early with no hassle, 12 hours, natural birth, no intervention or problems and this one is being such a pain... My little girl - high maintenance already and she's not even born yet!

moan over!

Yeah I agree newmomma, my "trialled sweep" didn't hurt hardly at all, just smear-like. I was crapping myself having read these horror stories but it really was fine! Saw consultant today as I had a growth scan on Tuesday and baby is already 8lb 9(SHIT!). Also not engaged any more than last week and flipping fed up now. Got through my 2 sainsburys pineapples, and God forbid I might actually see if DH is "up for it" - I'm really really not but hey, at this rate, bring it on

8lb 9 - good god!

still - i've heard that they're not always accurate these growth scans.

one of my closest friends had a c/s at 38 weeks - she's 4'11" and her husband is huge and they said her baby was massive - and he came out at 5lb14...

try not to worry tho because apparently the head circumference doesn't change that much between a 6lb-er and a 9lb-er... if that makes sense.

When has your induction been booked for? I haven't had anything formally booked. I was told on Monday they'd leave me max 7 days over, but the consultant I saw yesterday was like err no, more like 10-12 dammit!! We need some sort of vacuum cleaner, newmomma Get these babies out of us!

lol vacuum cleaner!!

Booked for 31st May (bank holiday?!?) at 6pm...?

Two weeks to the day over so I guess I have to just start trying all the cliches and keep my fingers crossed something happens.

Did you manage to get the consultant to agree to 7 days then or will it be 10-12?

Well this week I've seen two different consultants for silly reasons. Monday's guy who tried the sweep, said 24th May for induction, but the guy I saw yesterday said more likely 27-29th. Am seeing the second guy again on Thursday where he said he'd finalise the decision. Don't know how they can disagree with each other or really overrule each other if they're both consultants?? But hey.

Just walked about 2miles, no distance at all really, but my legs ache big time. Passed a million people who felt the need to comment on my bump including one total stranger who felt she could tell me to "bonk, that'll get it out". Why are pregnant women public property!?

what a cheek - mind you, the ancient old midwife i saw at the hospital told me to put my husband to good use over the weekend - i though she was going to tell him to do all the cooking/housework - but she said:

"three times a night - he got you in this mess he can get you out!!" and then proceeded to tell us about the hormones/whatever in semen...!

you should have seen dh's face!!! classic!

Bless him, my other half would have been mortified!

Feeling gutted this morning. Superficial reason but I feel at this stage of pregnancy we have the right to moan about anything, yes!? I'd been feeling really smug that I'd got all this far without a single stretch mark. Now 2 days before due date, and I've woken up to a purple road map snaking over my hips and under my bump. Not happy! Still, I think this has driven me on even more to get baby out. So I've spent all morning cleaning my house to within an inch of its life. It's so sparkly But I just know as soon as DH gets home later, it'll get messed up within five minutes.

Have you had any signs at all of your LO making an appearance? I haven't apart from a pressure type feeling these past few days on my pubic bone, so am hoping it'sher squeezing her way further down. I'm weirdly desperate for a contraction now though!

Any decision on names? This bubba has been Chloe Grace since we found out she was a girl at 16 weeks. There's lots of names we've since heard and liked but feel we can't change it now, it's been her name too long!

Right, next fun thing to do today...Sainsburys!

So sorry to hear of your stretch marks.

I escaped completely first time round and this time seem to have one area that came up a few weeks back (I was picking up a heavy box; naughty) and have been slapping on the bio-oil ever since. I just keep praying it doesn't get too much worse. If the baby would HURRY UP and arrive I might escape it spreading any further.

Still having absolutely NO signs whatsoever of anything happening soon. Due date tomorrow (you also, no?) and actually feeling a bit more positive than I was because the run up to due date has been so slow I though it would never come. And also seeing as DS came at 38+4...

Can't believe you managed to clean your house from top to bottom - ours is a state - I'm just so tired and my hips hurt so bad its all I can do to just run around after DS all day. Kind of looking forward to being able to do anything more when LO has finally popped.

I am desperate for a contraction too!! But then I remember saying after DS was born (found labour mildly addictive ) that I was really looking forward to getting pregnant again and feeling that first contraction. Strange, I know...

No names here - I'm in love with Lydia, but it sounds awful with our surname so its had to be crossed off the list. We didn't decide until DS was about 10 days old as he just didn't 'look' like any of the names we'd both liked up until that point.

I'm keen on Zoe, Ruth, Laura, Lottie, (Lydia ), Alice and ivy... all with mixed responses from people, but I'm past caring what they think!

Any sign of something happening soon with you??

Hi do you mind if I join? I need to have a serious whinge/moan or my brain just might explode!!

I suffered with severe Hyperemesis until about 16 weeks, had been in bed solidly for 8 weeks with this.
When I got out of bed I discovered I have very painful SPD and now have to walk with crutches.
My DH had a breakdown the weekend before Christmas.
I've had numerous MW appointments cancelled due to lack of MW's in our area and have basically had crap antenatal care.
I've had to sleep on the sofa for the last 5 months as my bed is too hard and too painful for me to lay on.
I haven't slept properly due to pain for last 5 months
Pain is now so horrendous that I am not comfortable during the day and I dread night times as it is unbearable.
My mother has been a total bitch to me (nothing new there really) and has made this bad pregnancy about 10 x worse.
DH's toxic parents who we haven't spoken to for 3 years want to make contact now that we are having a baby and I'm worried about that.
I'm shitting myself because I have to have a CS.
I haven't seen most of my so called friends for months and feel they have totally abandoned me in my hours of need.
I'm fed up with people who say "not long to go now".....they want to try doing absolutely nothing for months on end because they are not physically able to.

And breathe........

I'm having an elective CS on 25th May which I know is only 9 days away but I don't think I can cope anymore.

newmomma - no sign at all either and yup, due date tomorrow too! Last night was sat watching Britains Got Talent and felt the most biarre scurrying feeling right down below, thought hmm is she trying to come out and got funny pressure type pains there, got a bit excited. But that all stopped.

Just saw from the antenatal thread, you're in Reading? I went to Reading uni, even had my appendix whipped out at the Royal Berks! Apparently it's a good maternity unit there? I'm booked into Kingston and they're always sooo busy, won't accept you unless contractions are precisely 1min long every 3mins. I'll just camp out in the car park if they turn me away.

Lydia and Lottie are lovely names Yeah we've restricted telling other people our name choice, just kinda think like it or lump it!

mampam Hiya! So sorry you've had such a crap time. Is this your first baby? I've been fortunate enough to have not suffered with SPD or sickness, but have had other problems with my asthma along the way. But you really sound like you've had a really rubbish time Do you have other close family apart from both of your parents who have been around for you? I know consultants dont like to medicate sleep in pregnancy, but sounds like you really could do with a bloody good kip. And you're right, it's crap hearing people saying "not long now", after 9 whole months, baby's birth can't come a day too soon in my opinion. I'm due tomorrow and flipping fed up. I know it's not the same as RL friends, but we're always on here to moan too

Oh and PS...just decided to depress myself even more by getting the tape measure out. Bad move. I'm on 43inches which sounds mahoosive. Please tell me I'm in normal range and not going to give birth to a toddler!?

Hi - haven't actually posted on this thread (although I am frequently posting on several other "please let this baby come" type threads) but I am a constant lurker so thought I might join this one too. I've probably spoken to a few of you on other threads about the last weeks of misery. Am 40+12 today and have tried lots of 'natural' ways to induce with no luck. Tried walking, clary sage in the bath (although only once as I read conflicting information on this one), had a sweep, reflexology, bumpy car rides and even sex with no results. Have elected for expectant management as I am so desperate to avoid induction but as the days tick over I'm starting to wonder if induction isn't a better option than I first thought!

Mampam - so sorry to hear you've had such a dreadful time. It's horrible to hear you can't even rely on your mum. As for friends, are you the first to have children? I found none of my 'child free' friends were or have been particularly sympathetic to my pregnancys - I think you have to have been there to understand the horror highlights of pg. You can't explain the discomfort with words!

As per usual, sending labour vibes to all (and any returned ones gratefully received)

Hi

first1 this is my 3rd PG and every time it has got worse!! I'm fed up with people saying to me "you'll be getting even less sleep when the baby's born"........errr no I won't, I may not get any more but at least it will be more comfy and eventually less painful!!
I hope you don't have to wait too long after your due date....anytime now, how exciting.

madcatsazz no I'm not the first out of my friends to have kiddies, they've all got them but have sailed through their PG's.....typical!!! I guess they find it hard to imagine when they've had it so easy.

Just hoping and praying that I go into spontaneous labour before the 25th.

mampam So sorry to hear you've had such a hard time - makes me feel somewhat guilty for complaining about such silly things.

Not going to go into specifics on here (you never know which family members are also on MN ) but I know how you feel about having 'family' problems. I seem to get it from both sides (mine and DH's!) and I had a complete meltdown yesterday. Which resulted in DH and me not talking for most of the day which is crap because it's his birthday today (and my EDD!).

first1 SNAP! I'm 43 inches too - and actually quite surprised as I measured not far off that about a month ago - but then I think bump has dropped a little recently which probably has made it seem a bit smaller.

Pyschologically I feel a bit happier (!) now that my EDD has finally arrived. 4 weeks ago it felt like I'd never make it, but at least now I know the end is in sight - 2 weeks max, and if it results in an induction, so be it. I think by then I'll be ready to try anything.

Not long now for you first1 either, if nothing happens spontaneously. 7-10 for your induction, right?

Its all so exciting!!

(Cripes - that was a bit positive for an "I'm pissed off with being pregnant thread"... hehe)

Happy due date!! Feeling quite smiley today, we've made it! Now if our LOs would only hurry up now :D.

I'll find out about an induction date when I have my hospital appt on Thursday. Obviously don't really want to be induced, but if it comes to it, so be it. STILL no signs whatsoever of anything happening though so quite sure I'll end up being induced. Baby is still back to back I'm sure, can still see the dip over my (lost) belly button.

Had a busy weekend which flew by and I just know now this final week or two of waiting is going to drag more than ever. But I can't motivate myself to do anything significant to pass the time.

Happy Due Date to you too first1!! (for yesterday)...

I'm so happy it's here - sometimes it seemed like it would NEVER happen. Okay - DS1 was born at 38+1 so its been struggle psychologically, but its here now.

40+1 today and STILL nothing. DH won't budge on the DTD - it was his birthday yesterday and I still couldn't hand it to him on a plate!! Not great for my confidence...

Picked up my pink moses basket from my lovely brother who got it as a surprise (last one was neutral) so can now have pink one downstairs and leave the other one upstairs - which will be great - no lugging it up and down the stairs twice a day!

Getting some awful pains really low if I don't sit down carefully. I can't lean forward when I sit down or else it feels like someone's stabbed me in the uterus. And I'm tired so I keep forgetting!