November 2010 Babies

[JosephineClaire]

Are there any others out there expecting November babies?

Our first baby is due on 15 November (so I'm 6+1) and I'm the first of all my friends get married and get pregnant. Would love to compare notes/worries/milestones with some other girls due around the same time...

Love Jo x

ah planner26 - a flat stomach... I remember that once... when I was about 10 years old

Feeling better today. I rang my midwife about the dentist thing as I still didn't feel 100%. When I told her how worried I felt, it all just came out, in a big pregnant lady boo hoo, about how I feel really worried quite a lot of the time really. I suppose my biggest fear is that somehow it's not alive in there anymore.

She popped round at lunchtime and let me hear the baby's heartbeat. I know I only had the 1st scan 2 weeks ago but oh my god, to hear it again was just so good. She ran all the usual tests, urine, blood pressure, and I'm OK so really nothing to worry about.

And maybe just maybe I have the teensiest weensiest of little bumps.... although it does just look like I have overdone it on the pies, or got bad PMT bloating. Or wind. Oh how delightful.

Anyway I'm going to wait until my usual dentist comes back from her holidays, as I don't think this is the time to see someone new if you don't have to. And I'm not in any pain with the tooth, so it can wait a week or two.

The midwife thought this was sound. But she also confirmed what was on the BDHF website, that local anaesthetic is fine, and that the dentist wouldn't do anything that wasn't necessary or that could harm the baby.

Well that was a big rant! I'm posting this in the hope that if there's someone else feeling a bit blue out there, they can read and know they are not alone.

It is up and down. Sometimes I walk around with a big grin! Other times I just want someone to give me a huge hug while I go boo hoo but not proper crying because I'm too worried that will hurt the baby!

Hey ho. Apparently all this is normal. Hurrah!

Wednesday tomorrow... so nearly the weekend...

PS I don't know if I've put on weight... I'm kind of hoping not because I was a bit overweight to start with

We don't have any scales in our house though. I tend to just go by whether things fit!

I had a bit of a shock though when I first told GP I was expecting. She weighed me and said you're overweight... I hadn't realised, or rather, I had just ignored the fact my jeans were getting tighter... and those tracky bottoms were just getting so much more appealing... tut tut.

Then I was weighed just before the 1st scan, and had actually lost weight! But I think that was partly due to trying not to overeat, in view of being told I definitely did not need to eat for two, and also because I just couldn't eat much. Nothing appealed for about 2 weeks except toast and cheese biscuits, and breakfast cereal.

Thank goodness that is now coming to a bit of an end. I still feel terrible if I don't eat something small every couple of hours but I am beginning to eat a bit more of a variety of things, thankfully. But still incredibly boring compared to what I used to eat. Cheese on toast still a major feature of my diet...zzzzz...

Ah well, I just try to think it will all be worth it in the end.

hi, ive been reading this thread for weeks and having had our first scan today i can finally join in.
my due date is 25th nov and im 13+5 weeks.
scan was great, saw the baby scratching its head and very active.
i have already put on 4lb and no jeans fit me so in inbetween clothes as maternity stuff still a bit big.
this is my 2nd baby, dd is 2.10 and is very excited to be a big sister

hello all, haven't posted for a while as have been busy getting my head round it all and generally feeling pretty rubbish.
my sickness seems to have abated which is very pleasing indeed - as being sick in the shower each morning was starting to wear a bit thin lol (sorry tmi)
had my scan 2 weeks ago and was great to finally see him/her and a relief that I hadn't imagined the whole thing. Ended up having to have an internal scan as they couldn't get baby to turn round to check it had a nose. slightly uncomfortable, but the quality of the scan pictures is really clear. My next one isn't until 22 weeks (14 July) so am hoping will be able to see a lot more and the staff are a little nicer than the last lot.
am 14 +3 today and have told people at work, haven't gained any weight but clothes defintely starting to get a bit tight- might be time to go shopping!

Hi Ladies,
Great that your sickness is coming to an end lainey - mine too. I have had loads of energy these past two weeks.
Welcome familyfun Congrats on the scan.
Fireflyz hope you are having a good week. I have also started crying for no reason.
Feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all. Also wondering if baby's still going strong in there of if I'm imagining the whole thing. A bit mental really. Put it down to the hormones.
Have now been refered by my GP for a suspected heart murmur. Very common in us preggers ladies apparently, but I only saw the Jnr Doctor who was hopeless and didn't know how to give an ECG so I have to go back next week.
ALthogether not reassurning.
Have any of you ladies had experience of this, or have heard of anyone with the same?
THANKS

Hi everyone

Artyparty
I found this on the internet about heart murmurs www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-first-trimester/38003-heart-murmur.html
I don't have 1st hand experience of this myself but hope this helps a bit. Hopefully some other ladies on here can advise further.

I keep trying to think positive. But like you say, artyparty I've been told a bit of worrying is natural and to be expected! I think we're developing the mother's natural worrying instinct!!!

I was saying to my DH yesterday how I think I'm worrying now, but when baby is born, there'll be a million new things to worry about!

Oh well, here's to our little ones safe and sound in our tums and not causing us too much icky sickness now... everyone says it SHOULD start to ease off a bit around 14/15 weeks! Here's hoping!

Hey thanks so much fireflyz
Your link confirms what I hoped - it could be a symptom of pregnancy; very common due to extra blood flow etc.
They are going crazy with tests as I have commited the double sin of being over 35 and overweight.

I am inclined to agree that as uncomfy as it is now, at least the baby is tucked away cosily. Am sturggling to imagine how I will feel once baby is out in the world... I get flashes of understanding but is really an unknown.

Am 17 weeks now and have quite a pronounced bump which seems to be quite high already. Very unlike the neat little bumps on the models in my pregnancy book!!

Anyone else showing?
Enjoy the bank hol

Oh god Artyparty, I am definitely showing. I'm 16 and a half weeks and have been showing since 14 weeks!

Today I pencilled in a christening at my parents church (advanced I know, but spaces fill up quickly!) - and suddenly it all feels a lot more real. Along with the scan, writing 'Baby's Christening' in my diary makes the whole thing REAL!

We've chosen a Boxing Day christening (if the baby is on time, he/she should be 6 and a half weeks), so the church and my parents house will be all decorated for Christmas, and we can serve mulled wine and mince pies at the reception - all very easy

What have you all done/bought/planned that has suddenly made the whole experience more real??

Love Jo x

I love that phrase, "commited the double sin of being over 35 and overweight", hilarious!! Doctors really know how to make you feel your best during pregnancy, don't they?!

Jo - setting a christening date, that's fantastically organised, I'm so impressed!! I'm one of the last in our group of friends to have their first, so although we've got lots of people we could ask about baby 'equipment', it's kind of special to figure it out for ourselves, so yesterday we started writing a list of everything we'll need to buy or borrow, and started looking up prices and options online... plus I've got my 16 week checkup next week so might, hopefully, hear a little heartbeat!!

As for showing, I kind of do when I've had a big meal, but the actual baby bump is very low, so really when I've had a big meal, the bump is just a food baby!!

Artyparty - I know what you mean about feeling like it's not real - the other day I tried to explain to a friend how great it was to have the scan, but then, with all the nausea gone, it's almost worse to have no real evidence that everything's ok in there, or that it's (touch wood) even still alive, then I felt like the worst mother (to be) for even thinking there might be a problem, and promptly cried. I think I put her off having kids for a while!

The most annoying thing at the moment is being in between clothes - because I'm not at that proper pregnant belly stage yet, maternity clothes look ridiculous, but all of my regular stuff (trousers mainly) is too tight around the waist - does anyone else have this problem?? And any solutions??

Wow, long message! xx

SGJ - I have the same clothing problems but one of my friends dragged me to Mama's and Papa's last week and I bought the best pair of maternity jeans ever and not too bad at £40!
I didn't think I was ready for maternity clothes yet either but the relief at wearing a pair of jeans which actually fit is immense!
My SIL had given me a load of maternity tops which are still far too big but my regular jeans and trousers just don't fit comfortably and the new jeans are a lifesaver. That and a couple of summer dresses with empire line waistbands.

I worry about the baby having died too. Wierd isn't it? I thought I'd be ok once I got to the 12 week scan and saw it for real but within 2 days I was back to worrying about something else going wrong! Now I'm living for my 16 week check up next week to listen to the heartbeat but no doubt I'll slip straight back into freak out mode until the 20 week scan or first kicks, whichever comes first!

Hi, I'm due on November 24th with my first and am SO comforted by what I've read from you all. Although I have put on weight it's mostly flabby (I'm not the slinkiest creature) and definitely not bumpy, and am still unbelivably tired I have no other symptoms and nothing (boobs, etc) has visibly changed, I have been worrying to myself that something is wrong with the baby or that it's not growing, or no longer has a heartbeat, or I'm not pregnant anymore. My nearest and dearest, although wonderful, think that I am completely paranoid and tell me everything is fine, I shouldn't worry. I have blood tests next week but don't think that I'll be happy until I have a bump.

So thank you all for not making me feel quite so alone.

It's good to read that so many people share my concerns - it makes me feel a bit more normal. Now that we've had the 12 week (at 13 weeks, am now 14+5) we're telling people, which feels really odd after keeping it a secret for so long. DS (nearly 4) is very excited about becoming a big brother, keeps telling us that the baby 'can use my spoon/highchair/toys'. Yep, my waistline is on the MIA list, and my ribs have expanded, so I've been using bra extenders, which have been good, but about time I moved on to maternity bras, I'm afraid. Bum. Anyone got any cravings? I don't, but I'm eating all the time, as I still feel sick if I get hungry.

Hi everyone
Agree with Kiwikat, reading these posts makes me feel so much better about how my feelings are up and down.

Re the inbetween stage with clothes - I'm going to try one of those bumpbands - website is www.bumpband.co.uk - will try and let you know how I get on

I went to M&S the other day because my normal underwired bra was feeling tight and I'd read at abut 15/16 weeks you should get remeasured. I'm not much bigger but wearing the non-underwired bra makes me feel more comfortable. It's not a maternity bra, at least it wasn't labelled as such, although it's got quite wide straps so hopefully will do for a while.

A Question!
A friend's child's toy was under the table on the floor by my feet. Without thinking, I bent to get the toy, and in trying to avoid banging my head on the table, I ended up bending hairpin-like, so I really squished my tummy in. I think it was already a bit uncomfortable because my jeans were squeezing a bit, and suddenly I panicked slightly - what was I doing?! But came back up again, didn't get stuck ;)
But now frightened I could have done baby some damage. Squished it. I know on one level that worrying about this is probably daft, but....

What do you reckon?

Fireflyz, don't worry about squishing your baby - at this stage it's pretty well cushioned, so will be fine. But I'd get other folk to do any bending for you from now on!

Thank you Kiwikat! I agree - I won't be scrabbling around to pick up stuff under tables any more, especially not in that hair-pin bend way!

I counted and it is 30 days till my 20 week scan.

30 days!!!!

Patience is a virtue.... wish I had some of it!!!

Is anyone tempted by those 3D / 4D scans as an extra? I don't think there's anything else visual after the 20 week scan.

Just sent off for my bumpband today. Looking forward to trying it out... just sometimes need to unbutton trousers and can't really do that at work without remembering to do them up before I get up!!!

Oh and I was sick again today... so much for everyone at work (and parents) cheerily saying, you should be feeling better now you're past 12 weeks.
I wish.

Fireflyz - poor you!

Hello,

I have been reading this thread over the last couple of days. I found out on Thursday - completely out of the blue as I had been told I would never be ale to concieve naturally due to medial condition - that I am actually 15+4 weeks already and I didn't even know! My due date is 26 of November!!

Since finding out though I too have turned into some sort of paranoid stress monster who keeps thinking I have harmed the baby! I'm glad i'm not alone in all my paranoia!

I'm going back for second scan soon - and all the blood tests I have missed - as well as test for downs etc. Am keeping my fingers crossed but honestly feel like I can't relax and celebrate till I know the results of these Obviously I wasn't doing all the things I should have been for the first three months - and was even doing things I really shouldn't have been so am very worried!

Hi giantpurple Congratulations on your pregnancy, that's amazing news, you must be so happy!

Don't worry about being a paranoid stress monster - I think we all are. I'm impressed you managed to get to 15 weeks without realising - in some ways, that's got to make it easier?

Got my fingers crossed for your 'catch up' tests - let us know how you get on xx

Welcome and congratulations, Giantpurplepeopleeater - although I think I'll be calling you GPPE from now on. We share the same EDD. Hope everything is fine with your LO, I'm sure it will be.

GPPE - try not to stress too much (I know it's hard) - I knew a lady at work who also thought she couldn't have children and didn't find out until 35 weeks that she was pregnant!!! Bit of a Sonia from Eastenders situation, but all is well now and she has a happy, healthy little boy, and we're all wishing the best for you too.

Had a lovely morning so far - since telling people 3 weeks ago, I've heard nothing but 'are you sure there's a baby in there?' as I'm still not really showing, (I know I should be flattered but it can be a bit depressing!) I can finally say YES I AM SURE, as I heard the heartbeat for the first time this morning, woo hoo!! Now roll on with the bump!

Hope you're all having a good day too x

Hello all, congrats GPPE!!

I had my 16 week midwife appt yesterday and listened the to heartbeat, which was really overwhelming - I was in floods afterwards!
The midwife, after prompting from me predicted the sex based on the heartrate and told me she gets it right on that basis 99% of the time!
I was hoping for a boy but she has predicted a girl and I'm happy to find that I'm not disappointed at all - just really excited!

Fireflyz - sorry to hear you're not well still, that is rubbish. Hope it gets better soon
xxx

Hi everybody,

My first post on this thread. I am 17+6 weeks and due on November 12th. I had my 16 week check-up a couple of weeks ago and heard a nice strong heart beat. Now counting down to the 20 week scan. We are also having a private 3D/4D scan. We have one at 20 weeks and then a further one at 26 weeks.

I definitely don't fit into my trousers. I haven't bought any maternity clothes yet but am surviving on dresses. I still don't have much of a bump. I have always had quite a flat stomach and reasonably muscly so maybe it's being held in. When I am bloated though, I look 7 months pregnant.

So far gained about 3-4 kilos. I think I will stop weighing myself soon because it's too depressing.

Is anyone else struggling with the changing body shape??

I've just returned from my 16 week midwife appointment - what a waste of time. I'm so disappointed. She didn't measure me, weigh me, take my blood pressure or listen to the baby's heartbeat! I was so looking forward to the heartbeat and my bump being measured! When I asked her about it she said ' there's no point'!! She didn't even want a sample(!) Apparently my appointment was just a 'hello'. I could have done that over the phone. I now have to wait for my 20 week appointment for the scan and hopefully a better midwife.

Do you think this is normal practice?

I hope you're all well

x

Frolie - that sounds like a pretty shoddy midwife. My appointment was quite brief but she took my blood pressure, went through my blood test results from before, asked for a urine sample and listened the heart beat. Didn't weigh me though.....I don't think they do anymore unless they think you are getting very very heavy or perhaps not gaining enough.

Can you complain? It seems incredibly unfair.