Is it true that all pregnancies are different?

[BorgLady]

Hi there,

Had my DS in July 2008, so he's nearly 18months. Am starting to think about having another baby, specifically after my wedding in Aug.

However, I had a HORRIBLE pregnancy before, incredibly sick and then breathless and basically lost nine months of my life. Motherhood has been a breeze compared!

My mum told me she thought I was being stupid to think about having another at the moment. She doesn't think I could cope and it would all be left to her. I live in the middle of nowhere and I don't drive, so I would be left by myself while my DP goes to work.

However, loads of people have also said that every pregnancy is different, and I might not be so ill next time.

I really don't want to leave five year gaps between kids, I'd like three at least and I'm already 32.

What I would like to know is if others have had similar awful pregnancies and then been fine the next time round.

Is my mum right? Am I being stupid and a bit selfish in wanting this?

TIA

Go for it!

I had an awful first pregnancy, and as you say, motherhood was a breeze in comparison! I became pregnant again just 10 months after my first baby, and the pregnancy was a lot better. It was still hard of course being pregnant with a lively toddler, but I don't have nay regrets.

My last pregnancy was the best - very enjoyable.

There is no guarantee of course but think about the baby, not about the pregnancy!

When I had dd 6 years ago I was sick for the full 9 months, anaemic the lot and it was a miserable time, fast forward just under 2 years and was pg with ds, absolutely no sickness, loads of enery, god iron levels sailed through in comparison.
I am pg again now and am admittedly pretty tired but I am a bit older, have 2 dc's already and a part time job so I suppose to be expected but so far this is the most well I have felt out of all 3 of them so you really do never know.

Yes - I am currently freaked out because I am on my third pregnancy and not feeling too bad!!

DS - awful sickness, exhausted, felt really ill the whole time. Used to lie on the sofa crying. Couldnt walk far.

DD - ditto but had a toddler to look after

This pregnancy I feel dizzy and nauseas but ok - can walk about. I am only sick once or twice a day most days! I would never have believed I could feel like this in pregnancy. I have colour in my cheeks, can laugh, sometimes even feel like I vaguely have energy. Its most odd.

This so far (touch wood) is definitely my easiest pregnancy.

yes my second pregnancy was AWFUL I was ill pretty much throughout from sickness, chest infection, then high blood pressure and preeclampsia with dizziness etc throughout. My first pregnancy was normal and my third I barely noticed!

they are all different although I have found sickness to be constant throughout all of them.