oh my god!

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hi all, i am happily married and we have 3 children 7, 2 and 4 months. after birth of dc3 i went to docs about contraception and he advised me to wait b4 going on pill until periods returned. (this took 9 weeks) in eantime we have only had sex about 3 times all of which we have been careful. however, period was late and about a week ago i took a test which was positive. i am beside myself with worry as we did want to have a forth child but not for another 3 or more years! husband is very supportive but due to me still having to work and raise 3 very young children i cant see that i can go through with this pregnancy although it breaks my heart to even think about the alternative. so confused

big hug Yes a fourth pregnancy with a baby will be hard work, yes a fourth baby with a bigger baby, a pre-schooler and a primary schooler will be tough, yes money will be stupidly tight, yes you will be ridiculously tired, but you know all that.

My second child was a 'surprise' and she is the most delightful ray of sunshine - I sometimes call her DC1's echo, they almost seem like two halves of a whole. They are 18 months apart.

I think your heart will tell you what to do. If we let our head rule these decisions I don't think anybody would have children ever