Pregnant again after multiple mc, VERY cautiously excited

[HeighHo]

Hello Panda, Rainbow and anyone else in this situation. Let's hold each other's hands through these first few terrifying weeks

thanks for the thoughts ladies i mustnt have said on this threadsorry i had all of the tests and as i have 1 DD i dont qualify for funded treatment. i have a blood condition which is linked to anti-phospholipid syndrome called Lupus Anticoagulant, this is loosely related to the disease Lupus Erythematosis. i am on 5mg folic acid and 75mg asprin indefinitely and there is the risk that i will never be able to carry another baby to full term and i may develop LA in the future i need to get my prog checked as it never has been and i think that may be the reason for the early losses as LA causes losses after 5 weeks.

thanks for the advice though it is very much appreciated.

PandaEis - google :"Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN)" it is a treatment for Systemic Lupus Erythmatosis and recurrent miscarriage..... Google with Dr Chris Steele too, from the morning am tv program, he is very much for it as a treatment. I have a family history of rhumatoid athritis, and I was going to start on LDN, even got the meds from the chemist, but was ill so did not start them before getting pregnant. I was put on asprin for the same reasons as you.... LDN was the next step for me...... please do email me if you want more information as I offered before. I feel that there is a good chance that you could get help without having to go through any expensive fertility clinics. Your GP should be able to give you all the help you need. I hope so.

thanks rainbow that is very nice of you to offer i will take you up on that if you dont mind as i have never even heard of that treatment plan and it might be worth going to the gp armed with info
i am at work at the mo but if are you on facebook at all?? if so search for eistacko and you should find me

Panda - tried FB search, could not locate you, you could try searching for me with thingingoftrying at yahoo dot co dot uk.?

Thanks for all your kind thoughts. Still sinking in - am utterly utterly exhausted though, so am sort of coming round to believing it

Hope Rainbow has found something new for you to try, PandaEis.

Let us know how things go tomorrow at the hospital rainbow. Keeping everything crossed that your HCG levels are rising nicely.

Just back from getting blood test done, they have told me to ring at 11am tomorrow for results, so have to be a bit patient.

Heigh-ho - how are you today, still in shock? I am really excited for you.

Wendywoo2 - thank you for the support here, really do appriciate it. You are an inspiration to have had 7 m/c's and now be about to greet your baby. How are you feeling?

panda sorry to hear i just had the same problem and was refered and they did a scan and test and said my bled was a mc really upset{sad}but can anyone tell me how long you should leave it before you try again?

Tiggergirl - sorry to hear about your m/c. there is no right answer to say how long you should leave it before trying again. There is no physical reason why you can't try again straight away, but emotionally and mentally, leaving a little time can be wise. Also most doctors like you to have had a period before trying again, so that they can date any new pregnancy. Make sure you test in a couple of weeks to check that you have a negative pregnancy test before trying again is also a good idea, as otherwise you could still be getting positives from a previous m/c and be thinking it is a new one. HTH.

the hospital did test there and came up negative thats why they say it a mc and would scan me just to check . got home early and was asleep by 7 could off done with today and tomorrow off but not a chance of that happening slowly getting there all i know is is when i have one it going to be loved so much and even thinking about leaving work and getting gov to support as it supports every one else and been working 13 years straight so think i should get something back after all these years. so if hospital staff did test and was neg does that mean we can try again?

Tiggergirl - sorry to hear about your loss. OUr hospital always recommended that you wait until you have at least 1 period before you try again as it makes it easier to date the preganancy when it happens but I know lots of people who didn't wait and got pg that first cycle. When ever you feel ready go for it.

How is everyone else today?

Rainbow - fingers crossed your bloods come back hugely increased.

HeighHo - how are you?

Hi Oops, doing OK, not really sunk in yet, but hearing lovely stories on a multiples thread I started, so that's cheering me up.

How are you feeling now?

Rainbow, hoping your blood results were good, let us know x

Tiggergirl, so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it is devastating, isn't it.

it is bit deflated at mo
we try again soon but not just yet been crying on my sis as she has one 18 months ago
but now has beautiful baby girl

My blood results have come back, they went from 750 to 1478 in 48hours, so spot on increase for a bubba. I have now been asked to go in for scan tomorrow, will see nothing but the sac I know, but I think at least it will show it is in the right place. I will update again tomorrow!

Great News Rainbow - will keep fingers crossed for tomorrow.

I am really sorry for those of you have just experienced miscarriage. Its so sad. I just wanted to let you know there is hope. I had a healthy baby then went on to have six recurrent miscarriages. I went to St Mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic in London and saw Raj Rai is who under Prof.Regan. Fantastic consultants who do pioneering research in recurrent miscarriage. They did some specilaised tests on me called TEG studies and found I had an raised clot strength. They prescribed 150mg Aspirin and I went on to have a healthy baby. I am now pregnant again 13 weeks and following the same advice and so far so good. I felt I had to go to St Mary's to get the best advice. I wish all that have or going through similar experiences every sucess for the future. Please don't give up. I'm glad I didn't.

Thanks, Imopop, how lovely to hear your good news after so many miscarriages. Good luck with this pregnancy.

Yay, Rainbow, excellent news. Let us know about the scan. To be honest am a bit freaked by some of the women on our 40+ thread worrying about how they'll cope with a baby at 'our age', when I may have to cope with 2 (if all goes OK) and 3 older ones - eeek

HeighHo - I spoke to a friend today with 6 kids including 2 year old twins and she said anything over 3 was a doddle with 3 older ones they should be of some help with babies and each other.

Hi rainbowdays, ooopps, sorry not been on for a couple of days.
As you know from my other thread, I'm still not facing the fact that after 7 mc's, no.8 will be ok, even though I'm now on my way to 34 weeks.
You'd think every week I'd get a little bit more confident, but I'm afraid, I'm still as scared as I was when I found out all those months ago,. . . . it's no easier at all. Still not got the courage to get any baby things, I don't want to create any bad luck. I'm so scared that as soon as I accept this one will be successful, I'll loose this one too !
I think it'll not sink in, until I'm holding my little one, god knows what I'll take it home in though??!!

praying for you. just wait till you have it then send daddy out to get car seat or borrow one of friend then you can chose yourself good luck

Wendy - I had absolutely nothing for DD when she was born - DH went out when I was admitted and bought a few little babygros and we ordered a carseat and DH picked it up on the day DD was born. We had the carseat tried out in our car and ordered one for DH to pick up when she arrived. This baby has all DD's things from those early days but I will not buy anything until she arrives. DH has sneakily been shopping as I found a little outfit in the cupboard today, but I just can't bring myself to buy anything yet.

Rainbow - hope today went well.

I have had an emotional 24 hours. I went for my scan, assumed with my hcg levels being 1500 the day before, it would be a routine, find pregnancy sac and go home happy. But they could not find the sac..... suddenly they were declaring possible ectopic. I had another blood test, which showed hcg had doubled exactly to around 3000, so they really should have seen the sac. They decided not to let me home, and kept me in hospital overnight - fasting. I was starving hungry but nauseaous too due to not eating. And absolutely exhausted. The morning doctors rounds did not take place til the afternoon.... arrgggg. However they then took me in for another scan and low and behold a pregnancy sac measuring 5 weeks, and in the right place..... phew. Now back home and trying to be calm again. Have been told to go back in just over a week for another scan.

heigho - ignore the "at our age", we are both young at heart, and will have plenty to give our babies. Twins will not be easy, but it is not at any age, and you will have a few pairs of extra hands around at times to help too, so you will have it easier than a first-time mum with twins. Do you have to go for extra scans now?

wendywoo - it is hard to accept that your dream will be coming true when you have had your heart broken so many times. I have said on the other thread that you should just do what you can do only and not push yourself. But having thought about it, I want to try to encourage you to try thinking about enjoying some of this pregnancy. You are now at the stage that, even if your baby was born tonight, your baby is now viable, there is no reason why it would not be ok. So how about talking to your baby about your fears????? might sound strange but I think now is the time to start your communication with your baby and allowing yourself to start loving your baby while it is still in your tummy. Allow yourself to enjoy the kicks and squirms, don't try thinking ahead to what might be, but just enjoy the moment. You and your baby in pregnancy.
If you are not comfortable with this then just ignore my comments, but I just wonder if when you look back on your pregnancy in the future, you might feel sad that you did not enjoy any time of it????? The future will have worries enough of its own, I hope that you can take in the moment as it is now?

Oh Rainbow sorry to hear your have had a terrible 24 hours but very they have found a sac measuring todate and in the right place. Try and keep calm and hopefuly next week you will see a little heartbeating in the same place.

We are away for the next 3.5 weeks enjoying some sun. Will keep you all in my thoughts whilst I am away and hopefully when I get back I will hear of little Rainbow growing well and Babies HeighHo waving on the scan. Wendy fingers crossed for the next few weeks - let yourself relax and love your little one try and go and buy a little something for him/her and keep it with you as a reminder that you will hold your baby this time.

Oh Rainbow, what an awful worrying time. I'm so glad that they found the sac, but what a miserable night you must have had in hospital - be as calm and gentle with yourself as you can (with 3 children ).

I think those are wise words to Wendywoo. Try to enjoy the moment and try not to think about/worry about the future. Actually I should take that advice on board and enjoy still being pregnant, without worrying about now having a high-risk pregnancy - can't do anything about it anyway

Hello Oops, Imopop and Tiggergirl and anyone else. Are you lurking, PandaEis? Hope you are doing OK

Missed your post, Oops. Wow, 3.5 week holiday - I hope you have a really brilliant time. Bring some sunshine back for all of us . Have a lovely relaxing time, you deserve it x

opps - hope you are away having a fantastic time on holiday

Heighho - how are you doing? Is the shock beginning to settle?

Where is everyone here?

I am still trying to remain hopeful for next weeks scan for me. Please let this one get the heartbeat going good and strong, to be clearly seen on the scan.