The boring/annoying things that other people say

[Tigresswoods]

Hope you feel like venting within this thread about the things that people constantly say that you find boring or annoying. Mine are:

Them: "And how far gone are you now?"
Me: "24 weeks" (For example)
Them: "Oh, you don't look that far gone..."

Every time!!!

"Hello fatty"

Them: "do you know what it is yet?"
Me: "A boy"
Without fail this is always followed by:
Them: "Thought of any names yet?"
Me: (quietly in my head) "No, baby won't be here for WEEKS!"

"Are you excited?" Err... not at the moment, I'm too uncomfortable. Ask me after the baby's born.

"What are you having?" A baby, you numpty

"Do you know what you're having?" Yes, a baby... you numpty!!

"Have you thought of names yet?" No, we probably won't bother until he has to go to school...

Why, oh WHY, does pregnancy bring out the IDIOT in people???

How many have you got in there?
When are you due? Any day now? (34wks)
Your going to need some assistance with that one.
You're as big as my friend who had twins.

Yes I am expecting a big baby! It hadn't escaped my notice without having it pointed out on a daily basis.

"Not long now then"

Reall, gosh, for a minute there i'd forgotten I was going to have a baby. Lucky you reminded me. For the third time today.

"oooooooooooo you are getting big, it's going to be a big baby". No, it's exactly the measurement it should be and bearing in mind you knew me before I got PG at a size 18 the tummy didn't just migrate somewhere else you know. And having 2 children 40 years ago doesn't make you some sort of obstetric effing expert.

And from the same woman "ooh, it's neat bump it's definitely a boy, I'm always right". Not according to the sonographer it's not, hahaha.

Oh, and this one from DH "can I wake her up" followed by shaking and poking of bump.

No you cannot wake her up just so you can feel her kick a couple of times, it's not your foof she will spend the next hour kicking and trundling about in. Next time I call you to tell you she's kicking actually come rather than sit there playing on the internet.

oh doh just realised this thread is about pregnancy Erm........well the mosst annoying thing ever said to me was just after the birth "have you got another one in there?"

Two women at work (in their fifties) love to stand around clucking at me for being so 'huge' (I am normal-sized for 30wks) because when they had their babies they were tiny and fitted into their size-8 clothes and didn't even look like they'd had a baby. They do this daily and I want to kick their scrawny behinds.

Another colleague addresses me as 'Tubs' although I have asked her not to, and steps dramatically out of the way to allow me to pass, and then laughs loudly at her extremely witty joke.

Three colleagues mocked the way I walk (waddle) all in one morning this week, and when I explained that it's because I am in constant pain with the SPD they just laughed.

Every day, someone asks me: 'Do you know what you're having? Oh, of course - a baby! No, really, though - what are you having?'

I have been told a couple of times now by my very wise childless friends something along the lines of "Better make the most of your time now, once the baby comes it will be a whole different story" ... to which I feel like replying "What? No-one told me that?!"

This thread makes me a bit sad because I love talking to pregnant women and think most of the comments you get when you're pregnant are just because it's so lovely to see pregnant bumps and people are excited.

When I'm pregnant I always think it's nice how people are so interested and excited.

But having said that, my sil did really upset me when I was pregnant with ds1 as she was always saying with glee - "you're so fat" (but then she's obese and I'm normal sized).

Definitely comments about size should be avoided!!

DEFINITELY comments about siz should be avoided. My mum, who is lovely, told me the other day that I have 'muffin tops' - and I expect I do, but why tell me???

DH's best friend's GF says to me, every time she sees me: 'you look WONDERFUL!', which is just lovely to hear. I would heartily recommend this as something for a non-pregnant person to say to a pregnant person.

I think I made a rod for my own back re: comments. In the first pg, I was tiny throughout - I looked like my normal self except I'd swallowed a big cushion. everyone professed themselves as being dead jealous of this. Now with pg number 2, I am showing really early and quite massive (normal I know) and everyone is taking great glee in telling me how massive I look!!!

I've been reminded about the cats thing

"How are the cats going to cope?"

Sure they'll be fine.

or

"You'll have to keep the cats away from the baby"

Actually, I was thinking of getting each of the cats a grobag and putting the two of them in the Moses basket together with the baby. It'll be nice and warm.

I did find one of the cats asleep in the cot the other day - fortunately on the old mattrss which is to be binned. Once new mattress purchased, cat will be shot for that sort of behaviour. Or at least given a stern talking to. That should sort it.

I've had another crop of "are you hoping for a boy?" "it will be like shelling peas for you!" "oh your brave!"

Oh yes had the cats one too, we have 3 and my Mother exclaimed that we would have to get rid of them when I was pregnant the first time as her Mother had told her that cats like to sleep on babies heads and suffocate them.

Fast forward 5 years and I can assure you near a baby is the last place any of my cats would be.

"this is the easy bit - just wait til they are older, then it gets ALOT worse" from a neighbour.

Got this comment when coming home from the hospital with DS. Thanks very much, makes me feel great.

oh yes and the comment "is that twins you're expecting? you're huge!"

nope, wasn't expecting twins. was a singleton pregnancy.

My personal favourite on telling a friend that we were expecting our 3rd...

"Big hugs, very exciting. .....ane next time let me tell you how wonderful an IUD is!"

Urm... it wasn't a mistake. We were trying. And not that it matters particularly but an IUD is about the last form of preventing a baby I'd use barring the morning after pill every time I have sex......

If it consoles any of you, people always tell me that I am getting huge/enormous/massive, and seems to think I must be due next month, even though I have hardly put on any weight, just the baby bump really, and midwife always confirms my fundal height as normal. People are just not thinking how it might make you feel.

What annoys me most if they react surprised when I tell them I intend to work x more weeks, or even say "why don't you just get a sick note" (I am struggling with walking due to pelvic pain since week 14 but as long as I can still do my job, I don't want to go on maternity leave and bore myself to death, sorry!) Comments like that really don't help and at times really make me feel depressed.

This thread, on the contrary, really cheers me up, tells me not to take any of these idiotic remarks seriously!!!!!

Thanks, Girls!

With 1st pregnancy, I was very sick and drinking lots of ginger beer: "Be careful or your baby will end up ginger"

This time "it's so big you must be carrying a big bruising boy" er 3 sonographers would disagree with you on that one and actually I measure just fine at the moment.

Dd keeps saying "What will happen to your tummy when the baby comes out?" Erm, slightly worried about that one myself actually. A big jelly mummy tummy I think...

why, after hundreds of thousands of years of humanity, do people still think they can predict the sex by how your body looks, when there is NO LINK. If there was, midwives would look at you and tell you, straight off, there would never have been any surprises in history.

Ditto morning sickness:

"have you been sick?"
me- no not at all
"ooh, must be a boy"

or

"have you been sick?"
me- no not at all
"ooh, must be a girl"

Rant finishes

On having a 19 month age gap - 'You are brave', 'are you mad' and 'was it planned?'! Yes it was bloody planned.

Im forever being told that I must be wanting a boy this time to 'complete' my family - Are we only allowed 2 children these days? As it happens I know I am having a girl and am over the moon - Know one else knows that though!!

And, how the same women in work tells me every bloody that I have 'exploded' and that this baby will be huge - Um, fuck off. I was fat to start with, its more cookie then baby.

Ahhhhhhhhhh. Rant over!

LOL think I have had most of those but thankfully not the breastfeeding comment Nesta LOL.

To the was it planned one....I always reply no, I never wanted kids and the morning after pill failed...this is true but obviously am very excited about being a mum now. I just get such a kick out of people's faces when I say it that I just can't stop myself LOL. I think it is such a rude question to ask someone that I really can't hold back especially when they add is your partner okay about it...again damn rude really....I add I had only known my boyfriend 6 weeks when it happened, the faces then are a picture as well

I'm due tomorrow and so get more phonecalls/texts than I have ever had asking if I have any signs yet so me and boyfreind were lazing in bed this morning and decided to send a text to a few relatives saying my baby was 10lb 2 and time to see how long it would be before they called......childish I know but boy did it make us laugh. I may be going to hell but at least I have lauhged along the way.

The most annoying thing I can think of is:

"When is your baby due"

... the thing is. I'm not pregnant. Would like to be but definately not .... I just don't have a washboard stomach )

We are IVF and so the comment we get most is.... "oooh it could be twins - fertility treatment often produces twins you know"
Well only if you have more than one egg and only if you have more than one embryo put back in (unless it splits naturally which are same odds as anyone else!!)

sharon123 I get the 'oh it won't be a surprise!' when I say I've found out the gender.

It does irk me a little, so I usually say, 'in my experience labour required no further jazzing up with surprises'