The boring/annoying things that other people say

[Tigresswoods]

Hope you feel like venting within this thread about the things that people constantly say that you find boring or annoying. Mine are:

Them: "And how far gone are you now?"
Me: "24 weeks" (For example)
Them: "Oh, you don't look that far gone..."

Every time!!!

"Hello fatty"

Them: "do you know what it is yet?"
Me: "A boy"
Without fail this is always followed by:
Them: "Thought of any names yet?"
Me: (quietly in my head) "No, baby won't be here for WEEKS!"

I get regular comments about my size, usually that I am big and many of these comments are from midwives that I work with Occasionally I get told that I don't look very big though.

The other day I did a tour of the labour ward and birth centre at the local hospital that I am a midwife in and I got about five comments of 'are you doing the tour or on the tour' ha ha not even funny the first time.

Am always getting, what have you got already, a boy and a girl oh well doesn't matter what this one is then, as though I would send it back if I already had two of one sex and went on to have another the same.

Have had the it must be twins comment a fair few times too, annoying in itsself especially when the person follows it up with - are you sure?? when you say no just the one through gritted teeth.

Am looking forward to not having size of my body parts commented on so much!

I don't like people touching the bump either, so when I am feeling particularly grumpy, I do have a T-shirt that says "Hands off the bump" - I never usually wear slogan-type tops but it really does the trick!!

Do u know what aswell i CANNOT stand scaremongering and wives tales....

"oh no you cant do that your midwife or a book hasnt told you to"
Drives me wild that people who have had babies think they know everything there is to know about children and if u dont bring them up the way they have then ur just rubbish...

My MIL said to me both the last time I was pregnant and more recently: "You can tell you're having a boy, you're massive all over"
me- "No I'm not, look" (doing a small twirl)
MIL "yes you are , you're carrying it all behind you as well."

And my particular favourite:

"Are you going to breast feed Nesta?"
"certainly hope so MIL."
"I expect DH will have a little go on them as well. His father did when I was breastfeeding"

Aaaargh! TMI! TMI! TMI!

Not quite about being pregnant but the morning following the difficult birth of DS1 Well a few hours later - he was born at 4.10am the midwife/nurse/doctor/ who ever it was asked how I was feeling ('rough' was the answer) and then went on to ask if me and DH had thought about contraception ? I did manage to say I am 31 not 13!!!! I remember them baacking off rather quickly!

Nesta you made me laugh so hard!

A few days after my miscarriage, I got (from one of DH's aunts whom he hardly ever sees) "So are your cycles back yet then?"

WTF? Who says that? Funny now a few years down the track but awful then!

At lunchtime today, the chef in the canteen asked, when told I was pregnant, "So how did that happen then?"

?! I mumbled somehting about a stork, took my jacket potato and fled!

Glad I am not alone - think I have had all of the above over the last 9 months. I deliberately didn't tell people my due date to stop them calling saying - have you had it yet?
Am due this week and in hindsight better to tell people 2 weeks later! Had a million texts this week because we didn't turn up at the school gates cos No. 1 child wasn't well - all asking if i was in labour? If I was - none of your business!
Sister in law phoned cos she was having feelings i was in labour - duurr - not even a blood relative just a nosey cow!

Never mind - it won't be long before i give birth then everyone will ask - Are you having any more?!!

Omg Nesta Fiesta's comment....!!

I'm 18 weeks, I quite like most comments from about 6 weeks ago someone said I was getting bigger already.. I'm pretty sure I hadn't got any bigger..

I will never understand why other women have to tell me horror stories about awful things that can happen while you're pregnant or long, painful labours and other scary things. Surely women should all be supportive of each other?

This is my first pregnancy and it is quite scary and exciting and I'm loving it so far!

Oh and if one more person tells me I should get rid of my cat... ggrrrrrrr!

I will have a 15 month gap between mine when this one is born so I'm used to
"was it planned"
"you're going to have your hands full"

Also as I'm 40 people seem to think it's fine to ask if it was IVF!

Thanks Nesta for the funniest comment on this thread - I nearly laughed out loud but because I'm at work just about managed to hold it in.

Me = green and pale. Them = "Have you tried ginger biscuits?"

Loving this- have been told to take peoples random comments as they're excited/happy for me but hearing the same things over & over does drive me mad. I'm expecting twins & my dd will be 18months when they arrive, I constantly get:

"are you mad?" - didn't plan for twins but we're pleased!
"aren't you carrying low?" - funny the fact that I have 2 heads wedged under my ribs kind of says different & what makes them more qualified to tell me the opposite to the consultant who's had so much training etc...
"is you're partner pleased?" - wtf of course he is!
"what do you want?" (usually mil who thinks we've found out & aren't telling)- two healthy babies actually!

I LOVE THIS THREAD.

this is my first post but I have someone who works for my husband ( I do too) who always says "hello fatty" when i walk into the office.

I mean there are sooo many reasons not to say this 1) I'm pregnant, 2) I'm your work mate show a bit more respect, 3) I process your wages every month, 4) I'm your bosses wife, 5) I thought you were a grown up, loser now go and earn some more money!!!!!

anyway, i finish work the end of next week and CANNOT wait!!!

there, feel much better now!! hahaa

you're all so lucky! I wish I was pregnant and could moan about the annoying things people said about my bump.

Last time it was stuff like - 'are you sure they've got the right date? You're very big!'

And texts - 'is it here yet?' practically every day for the 2 weeks i was overdue...

Nevermind... It was all worth it! And can't wait till next time...

Loving this thread. In answer to the question about names I always reply with the name of the person I am speaking to.

Oh god.

SIL delights in repeating ad nauseum that I waddled by 20 weeks.
People saying 'ooooh you look ready to pop! How long now?'
Me: 3 months
them Are you sure it's not twins?
This from random strangers stopping me every single farking time I went to the shops.

Being told to eat ginger biscuits to cure Hyperemesis. (I couldn't even keep water down)

DP telling me to try going for a walk, and I'd 'get used to it' and stop being sick.

My sister telling me all the way through that I was having a girl. THen when DS arrived she's telling my mum 'I've said all along that it was a boy'

Oh no, remember a worse one - on the tube random lady asks 'is this your first?'

I wasn't pregnant
Although I had recently had mc.

What annoys me most is when people say "she turned around and said.........."when there was no turning around at all

Just remembered when I went to tell the boss that I was pregnant with DS2 he said 'Well Mrs Upahill, What have you been up to' Fortunatley I was comfortable to say 'well I've had a bloody good shag!! Thankfully he's got a sense of humour. Especially as I said I did it to get the Millenium shift off ( I was working in a place where there was always somebody on duty 24/7 so by June 1999 people were getting edgey about the Christma/New year rota!!

"Did you have any trouble falling?" (it took me a while to realise what this person actually meant), but how rude, and how upset might someone be if in fact they had been trying for ages?

"Was it planned?"

"Let me tell you the best thing to stop stretch marks" (cue a long list of everything from cocoa butter to standing on your head with no actual evidence that any of it works....)

lol at Nesta

I think i will start replying to people with their name when they ask about names - that's hilarious!!

I hate 'Are you pleased?' Im married, Im 30 and its none of your business!

I am also beginning to dislike 'Are you excited?' yes, I guess so but I think I would have issues if i managed to sustain any high level of excitement 24/7.. but i cant answer 'no not really' can I?

And the absolute worst from mother of 2 boss - 'Youve got this all to come' as she sorts out another phone call from school/ DH about brats..

No, I will not get rid of my cats either!

Yeah with my first as well people kept on asking me what I was going to do with my 3 cats...

...er, nothing? Other than continue to treat them as part of the family?

It used to really annoy me when people felt the need to give advice about contraception because we had decided to have a large family :"Don't you know how it works" snigger..."You two are like rabbits"..."Are you trying to populate Australia single-handedly..." because we were having our fifth.My personal favourite was from FIL:"Well done you two, much better to have more of OUR kind instead of those immigrants..." OMG!

My DH and I went away for a weekend when I was 33 weeks, and everywhere we went people commented on how large I was and how I must be going to drop the baby any minute.After about ten times of saying I had a few weeks to go I decided to say,"yes, it is due tomorrow..." I got so sick of those types of comments.I am very short, my little boy was 8lb13oz, and I had a lot of fluid, so I was umcomfortably large by the end, but the worst of it was the look on people's faces and the comments on how "HUGE!!" I was, and "OMG, you are humungous!" I was ready to deck the next person by the time I got to my maternity leave.
People are so bloody stupid aren't they!?
I know I will never comment on someone's size.We don't if they aren't pregnant do we?Well, we shouldn't.It can be quite hurtful.Don't people realise women who are pregnant are hormonal?

Last time I was pg i went into work in a pink flowery top (subsequently binned) and my boss at the time said to me "wow you look like jabba the hut (sp?)". I think he was trying to be funny and this junior staff member laughed nervously. But I was mortified. He was a tw*t though...