The boring/annoying things that other people say

[Tigresswoods]

Hope you feel like venting within this thread about the things that people constantly say that you find boring or annoying. Mine are:

Them: "And how far gone are you now?"
Me: "24 weeks" (For example)
Them: "Oh, you don't look that far gone..."

Every time!!!

"Hello fatty"

Them: "do you know what it is yet?"
Me: "A boy"
Without fail this is always followed by:
Them: "Thought of any names yet?"
Me: (quietly in my head) "No, baby won't be here for WEEKS!"

goldensnitch and minimilk I have had nothing but gasps about how large I am

"Do you REALLY think you'll go til the end of November?"

as well as the 'it's a boy, I'm never wrong' as I am large and carrying low. Er, well, 2 sonographers and a midwife would testify against you, actually.

I don't mind the inane repetitive comments (know I've been guilty of them and people are excited and want to know) but don't be so bloody RUDE about my 'size' please.

People that think they know better than a highly skilled sonographer and threaten you with twins

"are you SURE it's not twins, one might be hiding you know?"
"what if it's twins?" like they expect you to give one away or something
"are you sure it's not a boy, your carrying for a boy" "no we have had 2 scans that have said girl" "yes but you are carrying for a boy, that's a boy bump, I think it will be a boy" FFS it's a girl!

Apparently I have had a boy bump 3 times now but yet to produce a boy, of course this brings a whole new set of silly statements.

I am going to get a t-shirt printed with "WE ARE NOT HOPING FOR A F BOY SO STOP BLOODY ASKING"

"Not long to go now!"
"Oooh, one of each, is that it then?"

And my current favourite, "Do you think this is going to be a big one?" Well, you obviously f*ing do, so why are you asking me.

[grumpy emoticon]

I want a "Do not comment on the bump" t-shirt. Actually, I need 2 so I can wear one while the other is in the wash!

I get the "ohh, one of each" too Pinkjenny.

I'll be so glad when she's born and I can get on without the constant comments from strangers again!

I kind of like the daft comments...does that make me weird?

My favourite was when I was struggling with DD and shopping in the supermarket while DP messed about doing whatever it is blokes do, and some woman ran up to me saying "oh, you poor thing! You look like you could go into labour any minute!" and suddenly DP was all attention, carrying all the bags and so on I think he had forgotten!

Or when I tell people that DD will be having a baby sister - "oh, so do you know the sex then? What is it?" well, if it is DDs sister, that would traditionally mean it is a girl...and then it's "oh well, you can always try again!"

And the amount of people that seem to think because I have a section booked that somehow means I can't possibly go into labour before that date...

Fizziwizzle I get exactly the same as you! And have the same worries about just how big I WILL be by then...

The other one I keep getting from people at work is "What, you're pregnant again already?" Er, DS will be over 2 by the time this one comes so it's hardly that quick!

I get so annoyed by the "gosh aren't you big". Are you sure it isn't twins (oh yes, thats original), etc.

NEVER TELL A WOWAN SHE LOOKS FAT!

May I join with the "opposite" set of comments, i.e., the ones that REALLY annoy me as I am TTC (or rather trying not to miscarry), and I am always amazed at how naive/insensitive people are. sorry, a bit of a rant, but cannot help it...

"oh I bet, your parents must be putting a lot of pressure on you" (no, in fact they are not, as they are kind enough to understand that we have not just for the fun of it been TTC for 3 years)

"you shouldn't waste any time, why wait" (did it ever occur to you that most people who got married many years ago do not just WAIT)

"it would be so nice if you joined us, otherwise they will be really far apart" (yes thank you, I realise they would be already in any case -- as if it was ever under our control and we are just twiddling our thumbs and cannot decide what to do)

Just gotten back from Toddler group. I thought I had made it through a whole session comment free, then on the way out of the door.... "How many weeks are you?"

I've begun rounding up!

Sorry to hear about your experiences Joesgirl. At least we're only getting comments for a few months and know the end is in sight. It must be even harder for you

?Are you excited?? ? cue shocked look when I say, ?Sometimes, but there?s a while to go yet.? (I have now given up and just say yes)

?Do you know if it?s a boy or a girl?? ? no, for the millionth time!

?Wow, you?re tiny for x weeks!? ? I immediately start panicking that the baby isn?t developing properly.

?Wow, you?re HUGE for x weeks!? ? thanks

?Well, my daughter is a month further along than you and you can barely see a bump at all!? ? yes, I know that already. I am not sticking my tummy out on purpose

?Have you thought of any names yet?? ? sooo boring! Wait and see!

Random person who I barely know puts hands on bump ?Ooooooooooooo? ? 1. Get your hands off me, you crazy person! Feel your own tummy. 2. Oooooooooo what?

?How are you feeling?? with pained expression ? arrrrrrrrgh!

?You?re blooming!? ? right. I have a cold, I have enormous shadows under my eyes from lack of sleep because of said cold and random nightmares, I haven?t bothered to brush my hair, I have spotty teenager skin...

Glad to hear I am going to get some sleep when the baby's here! Why do people all of a sudden feel it's ok for them to ask or give opinions about normally private stuff!

I'm no prude but someone, ok MIL, asked us what country we conceived in, at home or on holiday (was around that time), and both me and DH shrugged and said, could have been either and answered like she had a right to know! Then later it hit me, she must have sat and counted it out! I so wish I'd said something clever like, wait and see whether we name it in the Beckham way... "EasyJet Loos" has a really unique quality!

But I always think of clever comebacks about 3 days later

Hey joesgirl I feel your pain. When we first were telling people (about 13 weeks) I almost wanted to tell everyone about my extended 18 month journey into Clomid, PCOS etc but that just prompted more ridiculous questions.

Why do people think you will have a name for a child already? We have taken to answering, "We are torn between Tiger and Wolf..."

People don't know how to take that.

"Ooh, your bump is very... neat"
(what do you mean, I'm too small, I'm going to have a tiny baby? Should I eat more... panic...)

"How are you feeling?" accompanied by super-concerned look. Don't respond well to "Fine, really enjoying being pregnant thanks" (honestly - no trace of sarcasm). Tends to get response of "are you sure, aren't you tired/aching/struggling with work" etc like they're wishing something bad on you!

"Your parents must be very excited" Code for: we all thought you were never going to have children you hearless, un-maternal person...

I got asked once if I knew what condoms were for, I answered well DP were together for 10 year before DD1 came along so we are pretty sussed on contraception.

I hate all the "oh was it a surprise?" I think it's a wee bit rude to ask people if their chosen method of contraception failed, suppose it was a failure and I was devastated and just coming to terms with the fact I'm pregnant again

One person asked me outright when did I find out, so I answered the day before my period was due, she was so shcoked that I had planned a fourth baby.

Not as bad as my mother who when I told her DD2 was due 9 months after DD1 was born, she said "well I will have to tell everyone that was a mistake then" I said no it was planned "well I will tell them it was a mistake" as if no one could ever plan a baby less than a year after having another one.

Personally I would never ask anyone if their pregnancy was a "surprise" or "are they mad?" it's none of my business but it seems the minute you are pregnant you seem to elicit the very personal questions.

37 weeks with my first. Usually in response to how any weeks left I have "oh...really? gosh you don't look that big". Me: "yes I know, I am actually measuring 2cm small, I rather like it as it's easier for me".

Or, people who haven't seen me for a while "wow , its enormous!" (none of my friends have had babies yet) Me: "well actually I am not, measuring 2cm small, it's just that you haven't seen another pregnant woman close up". They don't mean it but telling anyone they're "enormous" (even if preggers) isn't going to please them!

Also, the "was it planned" question (usually from complete strangers, or people i don't know well - I'm not THAT young - 26 1/2 and married for 18 months). I usually reply with, "uuh yes, I don't really see how it can't be - I think you usually have to stop taking the pill etc to conceive a baby" (I know, I know, it's not 100% effective but their faces are funny when I say it )

Last but not least: "are you scared?" i know people are only trying to be polite but I usually reply with "well there's no point being scared is there as it has to come out somehow so being scared won't help". They usually look a bit disgruntled. Would thhey prefer I said "yes actually, am shitting myself, not sure how I will cope with giving birth and having my nether regions ripped to shreds"

That felt good! Am not actually bitter at all - I do just laugh this off and realise people are only trying to take an interest but just thought I'd wade in to this post as it makes me laugh. Sorry for it being long!

argh - apostrophe missing from "it's" - the shame. I blame it on hurried typing

Just before DC3 was born, the dad of one of the other children at my childminder's asked me 'if I had worked out what was causing it yet.' For one of the few times in my life, I had the put-down ready - 'Well, if I have, I've managed it quicker than you did!' He has 4 DCs, and at least had the grace to laugh and say he deserved that.

I'm getting the 'so the baby's not here yet then?'

• err no, last time I looked it was still inside me, tempted to say 'oh my god, thought I'd left it in sainsburys but no, its still inside!'... lol

I'm 25 weeks and have virtually no bump in certain kinds of clothes.
Cue everyone, and I mean everyone, from little-known work colleagues to maternity ward midwives (who should know better)... "oh you're tiny, look at her Jean, isn't she tiny, oh you want to make sure you're eating enough, oh it's only a small one in there......"

Yes, thanks. I'm not showing much - I get it. I would actually quite like to be a bit bigger if I'm honest. I AM worried about having a small baby, and I AM concerned that I've put on virtually no weight despite upping my food/cake/pie intake. But your daft comments don't make me feel any better about it! The baby is normal and everything is going well and that's all that matters!

This thread really cheered me up. Mine isn't so funny but I felt annoyed. After my darling daughter passed away, so many people said "don't worry, you will have another child" . Well, I am having a missed MC now. They still say the same thing.

I'm 38 weeks and get almost daily on the nursery run - 'Still here then?' like when I have the baby I'll disappear in a puff of smoke!
The worst for me is 'not long now!'. It's such a cliche. It really doesn't help when the last few weeks are dragging!

Laughing at the post about the "you look well" comment. I get that SO much - in 'women speak' it means "my god, look at the size of you!!!"

"gosh, you're showing already" (14 weeks and second baby), "you're going to be ENORMOUS by the time you're due!" thank you. I do know this.

my favourite from a neighbour "my god, your boobs are HUGE!!" really, I hadn't noticed, even though I've gone up 2 cup sizes and my bras won't go round me anymore.

I hate, HATE women running their eyes up and down me and going "oooo, you're going to have a big one!" Listen, love, I'm 5 foot and my dh is only 5 foot 5. Just because I'm fat does not mean I'm going to have a 12 pound whopper thank you very much....

"have you thought of any names?" nooooo, I'm only 14 weeks, and even if we have, I wouldn't tell you!!

and from men "I know what you were doing a few weeks ago" nudgenudgewinkwink. As if I was 14 years old and doing it behind the bike sheds. My dh and I have been married 5 years so yes we do occasionally get round to "doing it" thank you.

ohhhh I'm all grumpy just thinking about it..

To follow on from sarahlou, my two will be DD15 and DS12 when this ds is born... I've had quite a few 'You must be mad's and several 'Oh, you're starting all over again just when you nearly have them off your hands'

However, I also have had a few 'Ah, you've got a ready made babysitter!' and whilst I don't plan on using DD as slave labour a babysitter, I can see that, actually, there are some advantages to a huge gap between sibs. Ok, so there's at least one

I've been told by several people that my bump is very petite...tbh I'm loving it!

I'm 38 weeks, fairly large myself (well, size 16 usually) feel like a whale, measuring the same size as I did with DS (in terms of fundal height etc) but for some reason my bump does seem smaller...

SOmeone I see fairly regularly didn't even realise I was pregnant until 2 weeks ago - not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing!