Please tel me baby boys are wonderful!

[VanillaIce]

Hello, I've just found out we're having a boy! I'm a litte bit shocked. I think I felt it was a girl. Today when I was out I kept seeing little girls with their mothers and feeling a tiny bit wistful that I wasn't having one. Is this awful? The thing is, I actually kind of thought having a boy would be cool and a bit different (it's all girls in my family) and I thought it would be lovely for my DH. Now I'm panicing that I know nothing about little boys (all sisters and only the one boyfriend - whom I married!) whereas I know lots about little girls.

Am I being very silly? I think I am. I also think I'm just the kind of fool who would have wished for a boy if I'd been told it was a girl. Maybe this is why people shouldn't know in advance!

I think I might just be a bit emotional. I could barely speak during the scan with the huge lump in my throat and the tears rolling down my cheeks. I actually had to hold my breath to stop myself from crying audibly when the sonographer showed me his perfect little arms and legs and wiggling bottom. I found it completely overwhelming and so I think feeling a bit down tonight is just those pesky hormones and also the sheer relief that all is well with our first LO.

Anyone who doesn't think I'm crazy, can you remind me why baby boys are wonderful?

"The end"?

So you get to barge into a perfectly innocuous thread intended to do nothing more than support a new mum who was feeling guilty for being a bit disappointed (an irony you seem to have missed) about having a boy not a girl, and then decide to end the thread?

Just how arrogant are you? Did you even bother to read LadyofBath's excellent post, which was addressed to you? Clearly not.

I'd just like to make it clear that I don't have a comparative opinion re. parenting boys and girls, because I don't have a girl. I have a boy whom I love more than life itself, and I hope I've said nice things about that so the OP feels reassured. I hope to have a girl one day, because I feel that that would be awesome too.

Yes I did read LadyofBath's excellent post thanks. And 'the end' comment wasn't meant to be an end to the thread, but an end to my opinion ie I think boys are great, I think girls are great, the end [of my opinion]. I would never be so rude as to try and end debate or a discussion. And no the irony of her disappointment did not escape me, if you read my original post on here I said I too was disappointed to find out the gender of my child.

I do not mind the bias. Not at all. Not a jot. Not a bit.

It's a brilliant and lovely thread for the most part. And I think the OP was utterly, utterly right to come here and seek encouragement and the truth about how lovely and brilliant little boys are.

All I said was that we don't need to be disparaging about girls in the process or the OP will be back in 3yrs time when she's having a girl and worried about all the pre-conceived notions she has about girls.

And LadyofBath's brilliant point was that boys should not be maligned and it's wonderful to see them being defended in this way.

I was pointing out the irony of having to aim that maligning elsewhere. Not necessary and does a lovely thread a disservice.

have dd who is complete tomboy, into bugs bigtime; and ds who is cuddly and complete mummy's boy. dd takes enormous physical risks, loves rough and tumble to the point of physical danger, ds loves cuddles and stories - you don't always get what you think it will say on the tin

I came across this topic today and decided to hear what everyone had to say, I am a mother of a 17 month old Boy and when I was pregnant with him I was secretly wishing very hard it was going to be a girl (selfish I know) once my son was born i loved him unconditionally more then i ever thought I could, until now....I love him even more and more everyday!!!.this little man puts a smile on my face all the time, now PG again I could care less of the sex because becoming a mother for the first time and second soon I know that what ever cutie I bring into this world is going to love me as much I love them!!! Never well be dissapointed I can't wait to meet my new addition
On that note BOYS are FANTASTIC!!!

This is such a great thread. It makes me want to get my DS up from his nap for a cuddle......Naaaa, only joking, don't love him that much, hee!
showofhands It's refreshing to get a bit of one sided opinion on boys being great for a change. I have a DS and am 25 weeks PG and if one more person proclaims "you'll be hoping for a girl this time" I will lamp them. It's so upsetting how many other mums of especially DD's or females with no children think you must somehow be disappointed in your second rate boy. One daft cow I know with 2 DD's said "you'll want a girl this time", I said Im not bothered and she said "ah, c'mon, you must, who'd want 2 boys, I would hate all that standing at the side of football pitches crap". What stopped me from taking her DD's barbie and shoving it down her throat.....the knowledge that she will never know what she is missing.
No bring on a bit of one sided praise for boys for a change.

bevlin SOH said "I do not mind the bias. Not at all. Not a jot. Not a bit.

It's a brilliant and lovely thread for the most part. And I think the OP was utterly, utterly right to come here and seek encouragement and the truth about how lovely and brilliant little boys are."

She didn't say don't praise boys and only boys she said don't be disparaging about girls in the process. Just like you don't like people being disparaging about boys.

This thread has made me sooooo excited about the little boy in my tummy. Especially the post about Peter Rabbit

I will have one of each come December and couldn't be more thrilled. But OP, I was disappointed too. As time goes on (I am 26wks now), I get more and more excited to meet the new addition to our family, regardless of gender.

And rest assured, dd is quite the girly girl, but she still won't let me do her hair!

Just been reading more of this thread..i have a boy..and he's wonderful..but i can't help feeling ShowOfHands has a point that some comments on here are gonna make mums to be who are expecting girls, and don't have boys, feel crap

There was a thread on here a while back about do mums prefer boys to girls and there were some really sad comments made by mums who were convinced that there own mums did prefer boys...so maybe we should all be careful what we say

Baby boys are the best. So lovely I want another.

That is sad, paddyclamp: my mum favours my brother over my sister and I, and always has done - he can do no wrong in her eyes, they go on holiday together, spend weekends together, and if my sister or I fall out with him, she never fails to take his side no matter how unreasonable he is being!

I am 23wks and we found out at the 20-wk scan that we were having a boy. We were so surprised - we had just assumed it would be a girl, for some reason. I think we could just imagine having a daughter more easily than we could a son. This may sound odd, but it also feels weird to think I am carrying a little penis around in my body!

Of course we got used to the idea of a son and are absolutely delighted. I'm glad we found out the gender, as it's given us time to get used to the idea.

I can relate to the OP's wistful thoughts about little girls. I am also a little sad that I am not having a daughter - not that I am disappointed as such, I think I am just being greedy and want both (I am getting on in years and we are not well-off: this will probably be our only child)! I look longingly at little toddler girls, but I just know I will adore my son when he arrives and won't want to swap him for the world!

I had a girl first and she was lovely in all the ways I thought a girl would be.

WHen I realised I as having a boy with my second I was suprised because I felt it would be another girl. In fact I felt that my body could only really make girls!

Now DS is here and hes scrummy and gorgeous just like other people have said. Honestly, boys and girls each have their own pros and cons. Boys do seem to be much more "teddy bear-ish". Girls just seem to be born as little adults- theyre so wize and independant, whereas boys seem cuddlier.

Can I just say a massive thank you to all of you mothers-of-sons who have posted here and made me feel ecstatic about the impending birth of my own little boy.

It's been a week now since I started this thread, a bit down-in-the-dumps, very tired and emotional (I know, you've been there) and slightly bewildered about the "penis in my tummy" (MamaLazarou!). A week on, having read and re-read this beautiful series of messages, I feel so joyful and excited and teary-eyed as I stroke my tummy and say "Good morning little boy" and count down the weeks till I meet him.

You are all so right, I know that when he is here he will just be my baby, neither boy nor girl, and I will look back and laugh at my penis-anxiety!

I chose to overlook the unnecessary little spat which developed. I wasn't for one second looking for criticism of little girls or a comparative study of the merits of one gender over another. I just wanted to hear wonderful things about boys - which I did!!! It wasn't meant to be a profound social study - just a moment of indulgence for a hormonal pregnant woman.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! And, I don't care what anyone says, I'm holding onto the thought that they love their mummies more - until I have a girl that is!

paddyclamp and showofhands, I have to agree.

I am expecting a little girl and (unusually, it would seem), I feel a little more nervous/dubious than I would if I was having a boy.

Coming here and reading that girls are devious, tantrummy, whiney, unaffectionate not as cute, their toys are not as fun (surely it's up to the parent what toys a child has, or whether they learn about trucks and dinosaurs?) etc- and these are all things which have been quite explicitly stated by posters- has made me feel more apprehensive. And quite sad for all the gorgeous little girls I see and meet, who don't strike me as any of the above.

It's lovely to celebrate your boys, but there's no need to slag off girls in the process. It's the specific and unfavourable comparisons between the two genders which are not nice reading for a mum-to-be of a girl.

I think that's the point of what ShowofHands was saying.

And surely the traits you are describing (which are lovely to read btw) are unique to your wonderful children, and not predetermined in the womb according to gender? After all, how many of the posters have had enough children of both sexes (a good sample size would be, what? Three of each at least? ) to determine what's down to gender and what's down to the nature of the child themself?

To me, it's sad and a bit damaging to assign traits to the different genders at such a young age.

Cheers for trampling all over my thank you card blushes. Can we just let this go now? I really appreciated the lovely things that were said and I am sure no-one meant any ill-will towards little girls. Although, to be honest, if you're expecting a girl, why would you read 90-odd posts on "why baby boys are wonderful" - they are bound to be biased and you are asking to be upset!

Congratulations on your baby girl - we were all one once so, naturally, we should think they are wonderful!

We cross-posted VanillaIce, no trampling intended at all.

You're right about the fact that I shouldn't have read the thread.

Hope it all goes well for you.

Have just looked at the timings of our posts at they're far too far apart for us to have cross-posted. I guess I started writing my post on my lunchbreak then went back to it to finish it later without checking the thread.

Wouldn't have posted if I'd seen your thankyou note. Apologies.