Please tel me baby boys are wonderful!

[VanillaIce]

Hello, I've just found out we're having a boy! I'm a litte bit shocked. I think I felt it was a girl. Today when I was out I kept seeing little girls with their mothers and feeling a tiny bit wistful that I wasn't having one. Is this awful? The thing is, I actually kind of thought having a boy would be cool and a bit different (it's all girls in my family) and I thought it would be lovely for my DH. Now I'm panicing that I know nothing about little boys (all sisters and only the one boyfriend - whom I married!) whereas I know lots about little girls.

Am I being very silly? I think I am. I also think I'm just the kind of fool who would have wished for a boy if I'd been told it was a girl. Maybe this is why people shouldn't know in advance!

I think I might just be a bit emotional. I could barely speak during the scan with the huge lump in my throat and the tears rolling down my cheeks. I actually had to hold my breath to stop myself from crying audibly when the sonographer showed me his perfect little arms and legs and wiggling bottom. I found it completely overwhelming and so I think feeling a bit down tonight is just those pesky hormones and also the sheer relief that all is well with our first LO.

Anyone who doesn't think I'm crazy, can you remind me why baby boys are wonderful?

I remember feeling like this after my 20 week scan. To be honest, it took me quite a long time to process and I'm really glad I had that time before the baby was here. I got more into the idea of a boy when I bought a few bits very late in pregnancy and, four months down the line, find it hard to believe that I ever felt like that!
Enjoy him. Boys are great!

I have two boys and a girl, and my boys have always been FAR more cuddly and affectionate. My gorgeous DD has wanted to be independent from a much younger age, and although she still gives cuddles, it's a huge rarity so I treasure each one, whereas my boys are always giving me cuddles and little presents/drawings that they've made. My 18 month old little man is just THE cutest squishiest thing; oh, and they're far less complicated and stroppy than girls IMO!!

Ladies, you have made me cry. Again. In a good way. I'm so glad I posted now. It stopped me from saying these thoughts out loud and risking my little boy hearing me! Isn't it great that we can talk to each other and offer reassurance and not feel embarrassed or trivial? I'd hate myself if I'd said any of this to DH, or anyone else actually.

Feel much better now - happy and excited in fact.

You and your little boys are all wonderful! I'm off for more Kleenex...

MrsJamin - we have 'duddles' too!

VanillaIce - completely understand where you're coming from. Got 2xDS and wanted a girl both times. Pregs again and would dearly love a girl but know it will be another DS although I also know when it comes out I honestly won't care. Think it's good you found out now so you can get your head round it all - go and buy some cute outfits and you'll get into the idea before you know it.

All the posters are so right - boys are soooo cuddly and just love their mums so much. My friends daughters' seem so much more independent but I suppose that's just me looking in.

The only thing is the train obesssion is getting quite wearing now and we haven't even properly started on it with DS2. I was actually singing the Thomas theme tune all through my labour with DS2 (NB. I was off my face on diamorphine at the time)

When I found out DD was a girl, I think I kind of grieved a bit for the little boy she wouldn't be. (DS was 2 at the time, utterly adorable, and we thought finding out the gender of the baby would help him with the whole concept).

Finding out in advance is IMO a bit weird.

I have one of each.

Boys are easier to dress IMO. No faffing about with tights or skirts & dresses. Just dungarees or jeans / combats & t-shirt.
I look at dd's wardrobe and think 'what the hell can I put her in!' .

You just try and keep a straight face when they discover their willies .

And if you have another dc its easier to dress a dd in her big brothers hand-me-downs. I'm not sure it would work the other way round.

I thought all along I was having a girl - even called the bump 'she' - then lo and behold, DS arrived. He is the most gorgeous, smiley, cute and cuddly baby ever He is so active now and everything he does is adorable and he loves being cuddled by me too. You will adore your little boy!

Can't really say as I have two dds, but totally understand you being nervous. To be quite honest, all teh boys in my family are a bit of a handful, so you might do a fair bit more of running and catching than with a girl. Also, no discussing glamour magazine with your 2 yo, I suppose, but, uhm, dinosaurs can be fun...ha,no, just joking, I bet he is fabulous and once you have him in your arms you'll be just as besotted with your child as every mum is with theirs, girl or boy. Seriously. You'll love it.

Can't really say as I have two dds, but totally understand you being nervous. To be quite honest, all teh boys in my family are a bit of a handful, so you might do a fair bit more of running and catching than with a girl. Also, no discussing glamour magazine with your 2 yo, I suppose, but, uhm, dinosaurs can be fun...ha,no, just joking, I bet he is fabulous and once you have him in your arms you'll be just as besotted with your child as every mum is with theirs, girl or boy. Seriously. You'll love it.

What everyone else said

I have a DS aged 13 and 2 younger DDs. All are delightful but DDs are so full of drama and full of themselves and their own issues.

My DS is and always has been such a simple creature (not meaning he's daft because he's really not lol), feed him, hug him and play with him and he's happy. He is still lovely as a teenager and gives me such joy.

Aside from the fact that he doesn't like showers we never have any issues!

I'm pregnant with DC4 and hoping this one is a boy!

Boys are wonderful
We were told 70% boy at our 12 wk scan then confirmed at 20 wk - I was always so sure I would have a girl and really wanted a girl. But have to say my DS has changed my opinions. I sort have had a feeling as soon as I got the BFP that it would be a boy and it took a little bit of getting used to but I am glad I found out as it helped me get used to the idea/ bond with him and also get excited about boys stuff!

I also am from quite a small "girly" family - no boisterous boys around! DS (now 20 months) has enchanted everyone (esp my Dad)
He is a brilliant easy going baby/toddler - always has been - a lot less high maintenance than my friends' little girls of the same age. He gives the best cuddles and kisses

We are TTC #2 and if it happens I will not mind what we have but would be over the moon if I found out it was a boy

Boys are lovely! Me and DS ( age 5.5 ) have such a bond..he's so loving and cuddly ...as a toddler he was SUCH a handful, v lively and like a bull in a china shop, but still adorable..DD (age 3) is cute too, and a tomboy, but she saves most of her cuddles for daddy!

My boy is very cool. I love him to bits. And you will love yours too.

I've got two boys - the second of which is just 11 days old - we didn't find out either time what we were having. When the midwife told me that dc2 was a boy I was utterly elated, not because I minded what I was having but because i've enjoyed DS1 so much I am happy to do ht boy thing all over again.

I think once the baby arrives, for most people, the sex just becomes irrelevant. You're going to fall in love

I desperately wanted a little girl and had one (she's now 5), but having seen my friends with their sons, if we were going to have any more (we're not) I'd love a boy.

DD's best mate has a little bro who was 7 months when we first got to know the family and is now nearly 2.

He is absolutely adorable. Full of cheeky grins, very cuddly and really comical with it. TBH I think I'd clone him if I had the chance !

Can I also add that my DS is a work of genius too? SO cuddly and frankly, the idea of having a teenage girl in the house one day fills me with dread - much better having a boy teenager who just sits on the sofa with his big smelly trainers on (i think)!

I agree with all that has been written, boys are delightful. Mine certainly is and at six is still so cuddly and kissy - heaven.

Is it really any wonder the majority of our mils are so nutty? Especially those with only boys!

I was petrified of having a boy. I had absolutely no experience of little boys, there having been generations of girls on my side of the family.

When ds1 was born I didn't find out the gender beforehand and was shocked when they said he was a boy, but I needn't have been.

I now have 2 boys ds1 is 7.5 and ds2 is 5.5. They are the lights of my life they make me laugh, give me cuddles and I treasure them both. Having grown up surrounded my females, I have found that my boys offer me an insight into the world of little boys and it has been such fun to share with them.

I also now have a dd, she was eight months last week. This time I did find out the gender (we had a lot of scans because she was breech). Bizarrely I had exactly the same panic all over again, but this time I was worried that I would't know what to do with a girl! Once again, total claptrap, she is my baby, it wouldn't have mattered if she was a boy or a girl I would adore her just the same.

I second what others have said, you have time to adjust to the idea of having him so at least you won't have a shock on his 'birthday' like I did.

Also, girls are definitely fiddlier to change and dress than boys (the traumas I've had with dd1 over daft things like what are frilly baby pants for and do you put the bodysuit under or over tights etc etc) and a imho boys toys are far more fun for mum to play with than girls toys.

Baby's have no sex when they are born. They're just babies. By the time they turn into a 'boy' or a 'girl' you love them unconditionally and would never give them up for a baby of the other sex.

baby boys, and toddler boys and little-bit- bigger-than-toddler-boys are divine. Cute, affectionate, bright, cuddly, squishy, active, EDIBLE little things. I have 2, aged 2 and 4, and they are just sublime. Plus, when we went through duty free last week with a friend who also had a DD aged 4, I emerged with 2 tin airplanes, at 5 euros each. Her daughter came out clutching a bright pink Longchamp handbag. Circa 60 bills. Dh and I looked at each other and thanked our lucky stars we have 2 boys. Actually, I'm pregnant with DD1, and REALLY nervous of how she will turn out. Everyone says girls are MUCH harder work, esp emotionally, so I am a bit wary of how it will all go. Give me boys, and their simple loves of rubbish trucks, spiders and bubble bath beards..

As you all know I have 2 boys and I wouldn't change it for the world. they are fab (actually I wasn't thinking that at 3am but hey ho) and lovely and amazing.

I was never a girly girl, and while I didn't have any longings either way, I just felt that DS1 was a boy (never found out, didn't want to know and hospital refused anyway)...and he was. Same feeling with DS2 (I would have been totally shocked if he'd been a girl).

They are very typical boys (lego, scooting, bikes, climbing frames and lots of cuddles)- although DS2 is pretty keen on pink...but so cute and you don't have to dress them in those awful (imho) princess dresses!

Cute cute cute... and he still gives me kisses and tells me he loves me everyday and that I'm the best mum in the world

Meglet I just laughed out loud at your comment... wait til they discover their willies

Don't worry OP boys are fabulous.

... oooh, meant to say DS will be 15 next year!!!

I'm glad to read this thread as I have a DD already and always thought two girls would be nice, but looks like we are having a boy this time round, and I'm trying to get my head around it, too.

I'm not disappointed - I think it will be great to have one of each (sorry, I know that is a cliche!)

But I do think that when you have had a girl, and when you are a girl or are surrounded by baby girls (as I am, too), having a boy can be a bit of an unknown territory and the idea can take some getting used to.

So vanillaice - don't feel guilty or anything, I think it is just because it will be different and unknown to you (and me ) but I'm really bouyed by the responses to your thread so thanks for posting it

Babies are wonderful, fullstop, their squidgey thighs and the cooing faces they make and babygros .

Have only had 2 boys so can't compare properly, but mine were wonderful babies and are lovely boys (in the main). I have 3 brothers though and love football, so am good.
Though if I never see a tractor/train again it wouldn't be a problem

Congratulations