Help - Quintuplet pregnancy

[Quinty]

I have just found this forum - I need some support! I have a 13 month old son and have just found out I'm expecting again. Was getting v big v fast so had scan today to show Quintuplets due end of December. What the hell am I going to do?? How can I cope with this many children (I'm 21 and we have no family around). How will we afford it (DH is a self employed gardener and I'm a SAHM). Am scared DS is going to be overshadowed too. And how am I going to carry 5 babies for long enough for them to be healthy? Dr thinks bedrest from 24 weeks - but what about ds? This is madness it can't be real. DH is overjoyed but i don't think reality is sinking in yet. Please help me stay sane and think straight....

[bobbybob]

My Aunty nursed for some NZ Quins in the 60s and is still in touch with them. They are all grown up 40 year olds now.

[almostanangel]

skulks off.................

[HellKat]

Huge congrats!
Fab news!
Best of luck on having a long, healthy pg!
Bloody hell 5!!!!!!

[ChaCha]

Wow!!!!! Congratulations
5! 5! Oh my.....Wow!

[jessicasmummy]

im with u nemo - wasnt sure whether this was true or whether its a joke.... im sure we will find out soon enough.

[Flossam]

Am I the only one fed up of everyone questioning everyone all the time. At worse you risk offending a lady who requires five times the support atm. And if it does turn out to be a hoax, well I thinks that's more her problem than ours. It feels like there is a pepetual whitch hunt going on here atm.

[almostanangel]

sorry will keep my mouth shut when my foots on it from now on sincere apoligies to quinty.

[throckenholt]

I have twins, and a single - so no real experience of higher term multiples.

If it was me in your situation I would seriuosly consider reduction - it is likely to be a very risky pregnancy with so many - not sure what the chances of 5 healthy babies would be.

Have you talked to the consultant yet ? Do you know what combination of fraternal or identical you have ? That may well be important.

I know of a lady who is currently pregnant with id quads - I can put you in touch with someone who could pass on your details - CAT me if you are interested.

[Rachey1969]

Congratulations to you and good luck! I have a friend with triplets and I know they have had problems since birth, I hope you get good advice to make the right decision. There was a story in the media recently about a woman who had quads naturally after a singleton - she was as round as she was tall!

[Quinty]

Hi. Thanks for all the kind words and helpful suggestions. I'm sorry some of you think I'm a liar. I guess it seems quite unbelievable. I did know some abbreviations from reading other forums also as I said earlier I looked up the acronym thread too.

Been up most of the night talking to my husband about things. It seems that we have to face the decision of reducing or risk losing all the babies.

There seems to be an implication that having had a cesearian for my son only 13 months ago so many babies may rupture it well before they are viable. We have to think all this through before contacting Social services etc I guess - can't think of much worse than setting things up only to not need them.

The problem with reduction is I can't face the idea of some of the babies being 'chosen' over others. Especially with the risk that those remaining might be harmed by the operation. It may be better to have a complete termination. I can't believe I'm saying that.

Anyway I think I'll leave this forum for a while we need to make a decision and see specialists etc. I did realise its very unusual situation but its a horrible decision to make and I didn't prepare myself for the thought I might be questioned. Sorry that sounds very self-centred -thanks to those of you who have offered ideas/help.

[Janh]

Hi, Quinty - sorry to hear what awful choices face you - best of luck with everything, whatever you decide.

I hope you will rethink your decision not to stay on MN though, it's generally a great source of company and support and entertainment.

[Flum]

Quinty.

OMG - Oh my God!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations. Your gonna be a busy lady!!

Will keep an eye and help if i can.

[HappyMumof2]

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[Flum]

just read the most recent post. sorry Quinty - tough days ahead. good luck. sure you will make the best decisions for your family.

[almostanangel]

can i please add i actually thought you were someone i knew doing a wind up and if you check my history i am always amongst the mn ers who are the first to congratulate and also help people if i can i am embarressed to think that i have offended you..which is the farthest thing from my mind ,,i honestly thought you were someone i knew due to an email i had recieved ,,[i will not mention thier name] as im sure i have gotton the wrong side of the stick..im am overjoyed for you at your news and wish you all the luck in the world with the babies.......i have never meant to cause you pain ,,please stay on here there are some truly wonderful people that will give you so much advice and hints dont thow this away because of an idiot like me ..dont worry i wont butt in again ,,i wont be posting any more.............please accept my apoligies i wasnt calling you a lier i didnt know you wernt someone else .

[Quinty]

almostangel - please don't worry. I accept your apology and I know my story is very unusual. I'm just so caught up in my own emotions and hormones I didn't think everything through. When we have made our decision I will let you all know - you are right there do seem to be a lot of lovely people here with kind words and advice. I think I just need to let my head settle first - please don't blame yourself for me disappearing for a while. best wishes x

[horseshoe]

Quinty,

Me and Dp were only discussing this situation last night after watching a documentary on the lady in America.

I cannot imagine what you are going through and it must be an awful decision to have to make.

I wish you and your family all the best.

[Chandra]

I hope you come back Quinty, is not that we are unfriendly is that there have been some horrible trolls lately and people is a bit wary.

I can not imagine how are you feeling, it's a lot of responsability and the decisions to make couldn't be harder. Reading at your post about performing a complete termination because of the difficulty of choosing some babies over anothers, have you been given the option of letting nature do the choosing? though I'm not quite sure if that is a good option for your health either. Whatever you decide be sure that lots of people are already thinking of you, wishing you that everything comes to the best posible outcome {{{{hugs}}}

[Chandra]

BTW... is not that I have extreme views about the subject it's just that I'm such a chicken that I would be terrified to have to take such decision.

[Chandra]

terrified... probably "petrified" would be more accurate

Best of luck in whatever your decision

[sparklymieow]

wow!!!!! So are you about 12 weeks then??? Bet you are very overwealmed by it all.

[Kidstrack2]

WOW AMAZING, I WAS JUST THINKING THE OTHER DAY ABOUT THE FILM WITH THE SEXTUPLETS IN FRANCE. WHAT AN AMAZING THING TO HAPPEN TO YOU BUT ALSO VERY DAUNTING AT THE OUTCOME AND THE MANY PRESSURES YOU ARE UNDER. I AM 23 WITH 2KIDS WITH A 4 YEAR AGE GAP. I HOPE YOU CAN COME TO A DECISION THAT YOU AND YOUR DP ARE HAPPY WITH. I ALSO THINK IT WILL BE HARD FOR YOU TO TRY AND KEEP THE PRESS UNDERWRAPS AS ONCE LOCALS FIND OUT ITS A GOSSIP THING THAT EVENTUALLY REACHES THE PAPERS. I HOPE EVERYTHING TURNS OUT WELL FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HOWEVER LARGE IT MIGHT BE!

[Dahlia]

Hi Quinty, just wanted to wish you all the very best with your amazing pregnancy! Whatever happens, good luck to you and your family, and god bless your 5 little miracles....