Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

Original poster

When people claim they knew all along - grrrr!

25 replies

VanillaIce · 03/08/2009 21:04

How annoying is it when you tell someone you're pregnant and they just have to make sure you know that they absolutely, categorically knew, maybe even before you did, that you were pregnant. We're just announcing our news now and it's such a lovely time, why does there always have to one or two friends who seem to want to take the excitement away from you by recounting all the occasions when they suspected something?

We went to a wedding recently and I thought I'd actually hidden it really well and now the bride tells me "everyone was speculating", it was "really obvious". Well, maybe. But isn't it nicer just to say "Congratulations" and leave it at that? I would never say "ha, ha I knew all along". Even if I did.

To be honest, she's bloody lucky we went to her stupid wedding at all.

There. that's my rant over. Anyone else?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

olivo · 03/08/2009 21:08

congratulations, vanillaice! yes, had that many times when announcing this one. it varied from 'oh yes i thought you'd put on weight" which i hadnt due to bad ms, to "we thought it was about time" -

ignore and accept the congratulations of all those who will be so happy for you and let you know it!

Meglet · 03/08/2009 21:09

Some people just aren't very diplomatic are they. It is nice to be able to break the news yourself.

princessmel · 03/08/2009 21:11

I have had this everytime I have been pregnant.

Very annoying I agree.

NellyNoKnicks · 03/08/2009 21:14

When I announced to a colleague I was expecting, he said he thought i was either pregnant or I'd put on a f* load of weight..... I was speechless.

Congratulations

AngelaCarleen · 03/08/2009 21:15

Could be worse, when we told our family they all said 'we never thought Angela wanted kids', or just plain 'oh, are you pleased?'

Very tempting to say 'actually we've been ttc (read having lots of sex ) for 2 years and YES WE'RE VERY HAPPY!!!!!'

Okay, going to eat chocolate to calm myself down...

foxinsocks · 03/08/2009 21:17

lol nellynoknicks!

I also think a lot of it is people who have to be right all the time.

There is someone at work like that and he is infurifuckingating.

Every time someone is pregnant at work he says 'ah I knew it, I knew it, I said she was pregnant, I did, I did!'

I feel like saying 'give that man a medal and shut him up please' lol.

Just enjoy the time and think how vacuous their lives are that they had to know before you

CantThinkofFunnyName · 03/08/2009 21:22

V annoying yes. Thing is when you're pg the hormones rage and we find things like this even more annoying! I'm 17 weeks pg and yes, it was a bit of a shock to us - but WHY did everyone else including family, have to react with such shock, horror and the MIL, who is usually fab, say OMG, not another one to buy for?! The SIL shrieked saying you're joking? But I thought you'd be done - to my DH!!

maybebaby23 · 04/08/2009 07:48

Ive had this too, my nan told me she had had a dream that i was pregnant, this was when i was only 5 weeks and dont see her that often so that was a bit wierd. All she said when i told her at 14 weeks was "i told you" grrr.

Also a friend really really annoyed me, she suddenly emailed me when i was 10 weeks and said there is something different about me, could i be pregnant? we didnt want to tell anyone at that point as i had been bleeding so i emailed back saying that we dont know yet but we are keeping fingers crossed (didnt want to say no and she knew we were ttc) so she then emailed her congratulations!!! Started going on about it saying i have to tell her EVERYTHING so i emailed saying we didnt know yet. Next time i saw her she started again, "so do i say congratulations then?" I was so mad, wouldn't you get the point if someone kept saying they didnt know yet?? Even if i thought i knew someone was pregnant i would never keep pushing it til she told me!! I ended up telling her at 10 weeks because she had decided for herself. She then went on to spread our news to all and sundry at the park!! She doesn't even talk about my pregnancy now, doesnt ask how things are going or anything its just like she wanted to be nosey and find out before i wanted to tell her.

Deep breaths..lol..these hormones!!!

Deemented · 04/08/2009 08:13

And don't forget, oncee everyone has told you that they knew you were pregnant, next comes the 'Oh i knew it was a boy/girl'

Oh joy....

katster37 · 04/08/2009 08:56

Deemented I am already sick of that one! I was at a work do the other week and there were literally 6 colleagues stood prodding me saying 'yes it's definitely a boy/girl, look at the way her hips have got fat/she is pear-shaped oh yes, I looked that awful when I was having my daughter/son' blah blah blah. I was nearly in tears!!!! So yes, am fully expecting, come November, a tirade of 'oh yes, I said it was a boy'. Well, you did have a 50/50 chance of being right, didn't you?! Grrrrrrr.

FlightofFancy · 04/08/2009 13:42

This really annoyed me as well. I didn't mind so much my DH's friend who said 'We suspected you might be because I've never seen you manage to make one glass of wine last all evening' as he did have a point (hic).

It's my friends who've just gone for the unspecific 'I had a feeling...' that annoyed me. I find you can make them really uncomfortable in return if you ask 'Oh, why... tell me the moment you thought you knew' and make them get really specific about why exactly they thought you were - weeds out the people who really had guessed from those who are just pretending to try and look clever!

sjbj · 04/08/2009 13:54

People can be very strange!! My MIL keeps going on about how we are expecting a boy and she's never wrong - not what the sonographer says!!!

CantThinkofFunnyName · 04/08/2009 14:45

SJBJ - teee hee... but you do know that if the sonographer says its a girl, there's still at least a 1% chance they're wrong....??? Maybe MIL is a witch after all....

notjustapuppymum · 04/08/2009 15:50

Yes! This is annoying. But even more annoying is what often follows "was it planned?"........None of your bl**dy business!!!!

maybebaby23 · 04/08/2009 15:57

Oh my gosh, the was it planned thing... why on earth would you ask that?!! Ive been asked sooo many times and i just act totally shocked that they have asked that, and say of course it was planned!!

Im also getting totally annoyed with people saying its a shame im having another girl, and not to worry because i will surely have a boy next time.... I couldn't be happier about having another baby girl!!!! strange people

notjustapuppymum · 04/08/2009 16:24

I know - why would you?!! Or the other way it's been worded to me is "were you trying for long?"...why not just ask how much sex we have?!!

Oh the another girl thing must be annoying too...

Sn0wflake · 05/08/2009 05:19

Just to bring in some variety....about a year and a half ago when we told our close and very good friends that we were getting married rather than congratulations it was "oh we thought that was coming up...ha ha....had a spread bet going." How lovely I thought. Then similar with pregnancy some months later!

They are nice people but just a bit tactless. In their defence I think a few of them are single and a bit bitter about it and so even though they are happy for us they also feel pain at their own situation. So basically I try and feel OK about it.

If they were not close friends who I knew loved us both I'd probably not bother with them....but perhaps I am being harsh.

Mumcentreplus · 05/08/2009 05:32

I usually know ..can't help it..women have a pregnant look..

No one knew I was pregnant though

Mumcentreplus · 05/08/2009 05:35

I usually wait for them to tell me first then I say 'Congratulations!'I knew it!'

mum27 · 05/08/2009 05:35

Oh I HATE the DP must be so happy you're having a boy. My DP is stepfather to 3 boys and 2 girls, so we get a double whammy. First up we get the " what not another one" or "i thought you'd have stopped by now" or " don't you know what causes it yet" OF COURSE WE BLOODY DO we're both in our 40's then the " he must be so pleased it's a boy" gets on bouth our nerves he was very happy with the 2 girls he fathered and he'd have been perfectly happy for another girl as he thinks of the 3 boys as his anyway. It gets so tiring explaining that all the time GGGRRR

stuffitlllama · 05/08/2009 06:16

you should say "I knew that you knew! you had that look! can't hide it when you think you know a secret!"

mils take the prize for this

lynniep · 05/08/2009 07:47

Oh there are so many things that irritate me LOL!

First time around I was in the pub with my friends and I started to say 'I've got some news' at which point one friend started shouting 'youre pregnant - youre pregnant I knew it!' which kind of stole my thunder. This was swiftly followed by other friend going 'But you're drinking - what are you drinking for?' so I was left trying to justify a spritzer rather than happily discussing my news.

Reaction from stepmother this time around was simply 'oh no - DS will kill it'. Gee thanks. Congratulations would be nice. And DS will not kill it.

Neighbour beckoned me over when I was about 16 weeks this time and and asked if I was expecting. When I said yes, she said 'I thought so - you're face is really chubby isnt it'. Cheers. That makes me feel great. Yes, I am both fat and preggers!

Reginamygina · 05/08/2009 11:02

Ahhh I so agree with you, it is extremely annoying. I'm yet to figure out something witty to reply when someone says that.

When we told Mil, she beamed and shouted "oooh congratulations!!", which was nice, then waited till Dp went to the kitchen to make a cuppa, leant over to me and whispered "I knew it anyway" followed by an evil laugh.

WTF?

All I could say was "I don't believe you for a second", then proceeded to ask her the details of when and how she knew. She eventually said she knew on such and such date, I wasn't even pregnant then!

But I was quite fuming at the fact that she waited till Dp had gone to say it.

mogend77 · 05/08/2009 13:27

OMG I feel awful now. When my friend recently told me she was pregnant I admitted that I had had my suspicions. She didn't seem to mind & well if she will suddenly start ordering Ginger Ale! Another friend I guessed & asked before she told me. She didn't mind either.

Plenty of people guessed with my pregnancies even though I came out with it pretty much straight away & some of them admitted it in retrospect when I told them & some asked me before I told them & it never occurred to me for a second to be upset by that! I know it's obvious when I am pregnant - I look really dreadful really quickly!

lal123 · 05/08/2009 13:30

the "I just knew it was a boy/girl" think really annoys me. One of the secretaries in work is convinced I'm having a boy - she says that "you're different" this time.... Could be becase DD was born 6 years ago, and whatever stomach muscles I had at the time are buggered? Oh and when I told her that we knew it was a girl (very clear from the scan) she just said "no, no - its a boy - you wait and see". If she is a boy I don't know how I'll face her!

Flip