OK, here's the dilemma:
We have a first name that we love for DD2 (due Sept). Haven't been able to find a middle name that we can get excited about, till yesterday when I started to think about her 2 grandmothers' names. DH and I have both always liked both our mums' names, but didn't use either of them for DD1.
DD1 is named after DH's aunt and my grandmother, as follows:
DHAunt MyGrandmother MySurname DHSurname
My surname is one of her middle names, not part of her surname. (I have both surnames combined as my legal surname but only ever use one or the other - mine for work, his for home.) So she is mostly known as "DHAunt DHSurname".
So back to DD2: we both like the idea of using our mothers' names as her middle names, but if I also include my surname, that gives her 5 names! Which seems a bit much. So do we do:
DD2Name MyMum DHMum MySurname DHSurname?
DD2Name MyMum DHMum DHSurname - i.e. omit my surname?
#2 goes against all my feminist principles (which I've compromised already by taking DH's name on getting married). I always intended my children to bear my surname but I'm so excited about the prospect of using my mum's name (which I love, plus the idea of it as a tribute to her) that I'm trying to convince myself that using Mum's name instead of my surname is actually more significant because my surname has nothing to do with the female line in my family anyway .....
BTW the three first names that we're considering (DD2Name, MyMum and DHMum) have 2 syllables each. The two surnames have 3 each.