Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

[dan39]

New one! Thought I would make my mark!

Thanks herbaceous, good luck

Thinking of you herby ! Labour vibes to you.

Just back from lovely trip to Cornwall and wanted to wish Herb and Cromwell loads and loads of luck

Will be thinking of you missus - just think how far you've come!!!! Loads of vibes coming your way overnight, can't wait to hear a happy birth story from you.

A big hello to everyone else, will post again soon

Hi, just saying hello as I haven't been on the site for a while. Thanks for the support when I went for my scan at 9 wks. I m now 12 but am feeling anxious all the time. Still have sore breasts and still not a great appetite and feeling tired all day long.

My colleague at work gave birth a week ago and I feel so sad because we would have been similar date. I m finding it hard to be happy even though I want to.

Hope everyone is doing well.
I don't post often but find it comforting that you are all there. x

Ruby, congratulations on getting to 12 weeks. I know the anxiety doesn't really go away, although hopefully it will lessen over time. It might get easier to feel more positive when that awful tiredness wears off a bit.

Hi all Ruby well done also on getting to 12 weeks, and you know we're awlays here if you need to chat. Problem shared is a problem halved and all that. FWIW I have always taken the view that any pg symptoms (tiredness, sore boobs, sickness) mean that the pregnancy is progressing well so even though it makes me feel rough, it's bizarrely comforting!

Herby thinking of you and sending happy baby vibes to you, looking forward to hearing about Cromwell's arrival!

Alana ooh not heard of the foot thing, poor you!

Sydneysuze hiya, glad you had a good break. A good holiday really does make all the difference eh.

Wheely I think you've just answered my question as to whetehre I will ever stop worrying in the back of my mind about whether this pregnancy'll all be alright! Does the worry get worse or better once the baby is actually here?

Now, where has everyone disappeared to? Tamlin Ashleighbee Jardins Ciara etc???

I told work earlier in the week, they were really nice about it. First meeting with HR today. Having not suffered too much from the sickness so far, since about 5pm last night I've been feeling constantly queasy and carbohydrate foods/sips of cold water aren't making it go unfortunately! Ah well...

Blondie have you tried acupressure bands? I don't know if they worked or not, but I wore them for while (although was easier in the spring as they weren't on show, look a bit silly). They weren't as effective as marmite straight from the jar, but perhaps I'm odd. Swollen foot has gone down considerably so might just have been pressure from the baby - who spent most of yesterday doing somersaults so has perhaps landed in a more suitable position!

Hello to everyone ((((waves)))))
Im still here, have been reading but not having time to reply as only got internet at work and its a bit manic at the moment.

Well im now at 14+2 weeks and (fingers crossed) the nausea seems to have gone but now blondie you have me worried that something has gone wrong. Hmmmm!!
Although i still occassionally feel tired so i suppose that helps

Your'e right about it going quiet, though, perhaps people are on holidays.
But we should soon here about the arrival of Cromwell eh Herby

I now need to pluck up the courage to tell work [hmmm] a) not sure how they are going to take it and b)because im now struggling to hide it

((((Hugs to all))))

oh hun I didn't mean to worry you Ciara, sorry - I think the symptoms are supposed to ease off a bit as you go into second trimester (well so it says in the pg books I've been reading).... I was really worried about telling work too but they have been really nice. My tummy is sticking out and by the time I told my boss 3 people had asked me outright and I was getting lots of looks from the others! Plus, as soon as you tell them your lovely news, you are then protected by the employment legislation eh? Oh - I posted a Q on the MN employment issues board earlier and they were very helpful.

Alana thanks yep have been on the marmite toast in the mornings! Am hoping that the nausea should start of ease off around now but if not will investigate those bands - thanks! Good news re your foot! Sounds like you have a little gymnast in there!

Thats ok Blondie, i will let you off this once hee hee but your right the symptons should be easing off, so i suppose i would be worrying if they werent - you cant win can you?

My tummy is also sticking out and im wearing very loose clothes, which is unlike me and probably drawing more attention [hmmm]

My aim for this week (well tomorrow) to tell my boss (knees start shaking)
But i need to say something as got first midwife appointment on monday and not sure how long it should take, so if havent said anything before, gonna have to explain about that.

I wonder why its so quiet on this thread at the moment, we used to fly through the people didnt we?

Evening ladies

Just popped in to say a quick hello. Just back from 11 days in Majorca hence the absence. Was bliss

Off to catch up on sleep now but will check back in to say hi tomorrow.

Welcome back Scarlotti hope you have lovely weather (i.e. a bit cooler than here!).

Woke up this morning to a surprise return of morning sickness. Hopefully not start of swine flu (we have now got lots of suspected cases amongst students at work) which wasn't worrying me at all, until my boss started checking several times a day that I was still feeling alright. Can I make extreme tiredness and a bit of nausea dramatic enough for some time off, I wonder

Had first 2 comments about my size yesterday [groan]. First a student said they were worried I wouldn't make it to the end of term (I'm due in October!) then someone I haven't seen for a while said they thought I had just put on weight (with a perfectly round, toned beer gut???) until someone told them the news. Summer holidays can't come soon enough.

Hello all

Apologies but I won't remember all the specifics of what I've caught up on but I'll try..!

herby hope Cromwell is now here and you're ok. Look forward to hearing from you when you're back online

ashleigh sorry to hear you got caught with the redundancy, hopefully the fact that 50% of your team did softens the blow. Great silver lining in that you can now afford a whole year off though

tamlin you should have had your scan by now - how did it go?

sydney how was Cornwall?

All those with disappearing symptoms - mine eased off around the 12/13 week mark so breathe a sigh of relief!!

Our hols was brilliant, lots of activities for the kids and great quality time together. Made me realise just how busy our normal lives are and reinforced my desire to cut down from full time hours. Now if I can just think of a way to carry on paying the bills then .....

Went to the accountants this morning, maternity leave looks as though it's going to have to be cut short at 6 months unless we can really cut our spending from here on. have the joyous task of looking at the family budget tonight now

Have a great weekend all!

I'm here! After two visits to the hospital physio, I rather feel as if I should carry a warning sign - 'Structurally Unstable and Unfit for Human Habitation' - but the baby is still kicking up a storm, even if my joints are gently falling apart. I wish they would make Calpol in medicine bottles without childproof caps, as I'm really struggling to open bottles nowadays - my knuckles seem to have loosened up along with the rest of me.

I finally have an appointment with a consultant to discuss the unmitigated nightmare that was DS's birth, and then a doula visit in two weeks to sort out contract and start discussing birth plan. I'm rather dreading both of them because I don't even want to think about how this kid is going to get out of me, but suspect that denial is not the best of policies...

Speaking of kid eviction - we must have a Cromwell by now? Yes?!

evening ladies - haven't been in in a while so just saying hello. Had 24 week midwife appointment last week - baby is measuring big for dates - don't believe her!! Getting lots of kicks, have discovered the joy of zantac as opposed to rennies/gaviscon and generally life is reassuringly boring!

DDs been at her grans for a few days - getting her (and gran) back tonight, there goes the peace!

Tamlin sorry to hear you're still struggling - are you coping ok with it all? Calpol comes in sachets too

Good that you have the consultant appointment, hopefully this will help.

lal good to hear from you! Lots of kicks here too now, at 22 weeks (I think!)

Just got out all the newborn clothes from when DS was little and put them on to wash. Nesting can't start this soon surely?!

Back to work tomorrow after my 2 weeks off - yuk.

Hello everyone - I am sorry I haven't been around much, I think since I went past 30 weeks I have felt a bit more invincible, I don't even knicker check very often any more, it's incredible really!

Love to everyone on here I was chatting with a while back - dan, ashleighbee, sydneysuze, tamlin, scarlotti and youknownothingofthecrunch - good vibes all xx

Tamlin I had the first wobble on how to get it out yesterday when DS1 (6) found a pregnancy book with anatomical diagrams and has finally realised your belly button isn't the baby's escape route. Don't mind the conversation with children at all (he is now starting to accept I might not actually need a willy to wee out of, at last, and has stopped asking where it has gone) but didn't really want to have to think about it myself. And I only had normally painful births rather than anything traumatic. Hope consultant and doula help.

Popping in to see if there's any news from Herby ? Hope all is well and you're just too busy cuddling Cromwell...

Blondie - I think the worry does lessen a bit once they're here although doesn't go entirely. I think there's always something to worry about - whether they're eating too much/ too little, sleeping too much/ too little (certainly not the former here !), whether that snuffle is turning into a cold (or swine flu), are they teething, are they going to roll off the bed, will DH let go of the pushchair when he's got L on his own Aaarrrghhhh ! Perhaps I'm just a little bit mad though .

But, at least when you can see them you can judge things a bit better !

Evening all

Hope all is well with Herby...

Tamlin oh goodness poor you. Can you transfer the calpol to another bottle instead so the cap's less of a bugger? Good luck with consultant appointment...

Scarlotti welcome back from hols. Yep we're doing the sums about how long my mat leave will last here too. Loittery win'd be great wouldn't it

Alana hope you're feeling better today. Yep the "how baby comes out" bit is scaring the wits out of me. So many mums I know ended up having emergency c-sections with their first babies I'm half tempted to just ask if I can have one, gotta be calmer for everyone even if there is a longer recovery time...

Wheely heh, bit mad here also so ummm... thanks though!!!

Hope all are keeping well and as Lal put all is reassuringly boring!!

Hello all!

Thought I'd drop by with the birthing story I thought I'd never get to write. My beautiful baby boy Samuel was born in the early hours of 8 July, by emergency CS. 3.7 kilos, which I think is about 8lb 1oz in old money.

Induced by prostin gel at 4pm, and hyperstimulated, so went straight into painful contractions. All NCT class guff about lavender oil, humming or massage out the window, as it got worse and worse, with no pause between them. TENS machine worked for a bit, but after that gas and air didn't even touch the sides. Blood pressure through the roof, so straight to labour ward, with no poncing about with birthing pools. Wired up to monitor, BP machine and drip. Hideous agony.

After an hour of requesting it, a blessed epidural arrived, which was the biggest relief of my life. In my delirium, I embarrassingly said to the lovely anaesthetist (the appropriately named Dr Breeze) 'aren't you young'.

By then, 3cm dilated. A few hours later, still 3cm dilated, hooked up to syntocin (sp?) drip to speed things up, monitoring clip attached to baby's head, cathether up me fannage, so wired up like a robot.

Then it all went even less right. The baby's heartbeat dipped right down, a machine went BEEEEEEEEEEP, and suddenly the room was full of doctors, saying the baby had to come out NOW. DP was white-faced, saying 'it will be alright', but I was convinced it was all over. We'd got this far only to lose him at the last minute. Thought I was going to be sick.

My epidural was topped up, I signed the consent form with my left hand while being wheeled into the theatre, and 10 mins later Sam was hoisted from my belly. I couldn't see him, as the screen was so close, but after a few agonising seconds heard him cry.

He's the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. Over the past few hormone-addled days, I've just spend hours staring at him, and crying about how much I love him. I've only just got home, as the hospital wouldn't let me out, both because he had lost too much weight, and because my blood pressure is still through the roof. But being home is great, and he's doing very well. And because I was alone with him in hospital, having to be up and about, I'm nearly recovered from the CSection.

herby wow, what a trauma you went through. I hope that you've managed to put that to one side now in order to spend all your energies gazing at your adorable son Big welcome to Samuel (gorgeous name)

gently nice to see you

alana leave it to a 6yr old to get you thinking eh?!

wheely this will be my 3rd and I'm already worrying whether he'll have enough if I feed him myself I don't think the worry ever goes, I still worry about my dd and she turned 15 this weekend

blondie good to see you and that all is well.

As for me, my little man is kicking away inside which is good, but is also making me think that he's kicking to tell me something is wrong Will I ever relax I wonder? I've had strong crampy pains lower down in my tummy the last two days so that's been adding fuel to the fire. My latest paranoia is that I will go into labour really soon (I'm 22 wks now) and that my little boy will spend months in a neonatal unit. Sigh, let's hope he decides that he's far better where he is than with his neurotic mother at the moment.
My sums are showing I can have 6 months - am trying to eek it out to 7 months so that I can wean him before sending him to nursery (sob) but I won't manage the 9 months I was hoping for.
On the plus side though, we're decided now that we'll move nearer to family next summer which hopefully will enable me to reduce my hours so I'm hoping that even if I do have to go back to work in April, by September I might be able to drop the hours down.
This motherhood lark has such far reaching repurcussions!!

Wow herby! Congratulations! Sounds like you've had quite an experience there, your mind is probably still in a whirl, we will be here as many times as you want to retell it. Welcome to Samuel! It sounds like you are recovering well - remember to do less than you think you can!

Herb, how bloody frightening for you. I hope your recovery goes very smoothly (and if you want someone to talk to about it later, I've heard good things about the Birth Trauma Associations). I am so glad they got little Sam out safely - congratulations on your boy!

Scarlotti, I can't believe you're washing newborn kit already! I haven't even started to think about it... (And thanks for the reminder about the sachets, DS is cutting teeth and I'd completely forgotten that they do them!)