hyperemesis and general unwellness...what can I do?

[pavlovthepregnantcat]

I am sick of feeling unwell. I feel really really unwell.

I have been signed off for 3 weeks with hyperemesis, this being my 3rd week, due back to work next week.

The sickness is improving somewhat at 13 weeks (today) This time 2 weeks ago, nothing was staying down. Now I keep down more than I sick up, but I am also eating less. I am fine for fluids now, much better than last week.

But overall, I do not feel better, I feel groggy most of the time, I sleep a lot, does not make a difference. I have an almost constant headache, most food makes me feel sick/be sick, bowels feel like I am going to have a tummy bug although I do not have a tummy bug. I am moody, grumpy, snappy, feel hot although no temperature. I do not feel pregnant, I feel unwell.

I have had 2 sessions of acupuncture but what with DH being out of work, can't really afford any more right now (£35 a session). I have acupuncture bands, am trying to eat as healthily as I can, but not eating very much.

I am quite sick of it right now, I want to feel just abit more human.

Any tips please?

I am not going to tidy up. I am going to not give DD any food for a snack so she is hungry and crabby before manager arrives and then let her run around the front room while manager is here. She wont come back again any time soon.

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Seriously, I cannot have a visitor such as her here in my home if its a mess. You know what? Let her come, let her do what she wants, and I will make sure I get from this what i want from this!

Pavlov, how did it go this afternoon?

hopefully your dd put on a grand performance

You know what? she did not fucking turn up!!! She called me at 5:55pm (55 mins late) to say she was at the end of my road. I told her to keep driving. Well, that is what I wanted to say, what I did say was, it is not appropriate now to meet, as it was meant to be at 5pm and we need to rearrange as it is now DDs time. In actual fact DH had already taken DD to friends for bbq! But she did not know that. She wants to come tomorrow which means I have to tidy all over again but she did at least tell me the point of it, and seemed very nice (union rep had a flea word in her ear I think).

But, cheeky cow eh? Not even a call before 5:55pm to let me know, and I spoke to her at 4:45pm to confirm she was coming and for her to get directions! BUT, at least DD is fast asleep in bed after running around with some other children at bbq and the place is tidy for a change. Spotless!

Still not stick. Have more energy (moosy that'll be the vits eh ) and feel generally better, apart from neusea and permanent headache, but I can live with this, its vaguely human!

Kathy - you want me to send you the lemon sherbets? Still not being sick?

yank and charlie (and all the other sufferers right now) how about you? feeling ok?

Er, i mean, still not sick, not stick .

Hi!
I love this thread, finally considering another baby - now or never for us since dd1 and dd2 are now 5 and 3, and had HG with both. So reassuring to know that you are all here. It's terribly lonely having HG, and so few people, incl. other pregnant women, 'get it'.

It's so hard not to rant. With dd1 I barely left the sofa/loo from 5 - 23 weeks, threw up everything solid and liquid. What made it worse is that no-one took it seriously, I was never diagnosed, the bloddy midwives/gps just kept telling me it would stop soon. Found it really annoying too, that people would say, ooh you look really well - meaning thiner, as I looked dreadful. Yes, I'm thoroughly enjoying my intensive weightloss programme!

With DD2, I got (by comparison!) lucky. All began the same way, and we moved in with in-laws as coping with dd1 wasn't an option solo. Then the local GP(in the sticks in herefordshire as opposed to central oxford), suggested trying acupuncture. Have to say it was fantastic. He did it to start with, 3x a week in those points on your wrist, but after a few weeks he gave me the needles and I did it myself. Made a massive difference to the glorious vomiting, just once a day usually, and was able to eat a little/often, but like others here, didn't help with that horrid, constant, nausea.

If i'm fortunate enough to fall pregnant again, will def. try the Vit b6 - does anything else reduce the rotten feeling?

My heart goes out to you all. Your babies aren't suffering at all, and it's highly unlikely that you will miscarry, so hold on to those positive thoughts. Mine were both 8lbs2, and are absolutely amazing, strong and healthy girls!

vanload, wow you're amazing, this pregnancy has really putting me off having any more, so i'm glad this is my second and i'll feel ok about stopping.

i really wanted to try acupunture, but it was so hard to schedule (and pay for!) the 3 appointments a week that my acu said i'd need iwth full time care of a toddler and feeling so tired and disgusting. i decided to just hold on and do the best i could. nothing else was working, so i just couldn't accept that acu would be the magic cure, even though i use it for most other things. so glad it worked for you.

Pavlov, thank you, that's so kind re the sherbert lemons; however the craving has passed now

Third day not being sick. I've had a really good, productive few days at work - not on top form all the time but am for long enough to get all the urgent stuff done and meet students or important visitors without letting the side down.
We're going camping to the Lakes tomorrow, a week ago I was dreading this but now I think it might actually be fun.

Vanload - LOL at looking thin meaning you look well!

We are meant to be going camping. But DH says its too cold. And as such he is refusing to go. He said 'you go if you want, but DD is NOT going'. We are meant to be going with some friends in Cornwall, great spot near the sea. {sad]

it's not that cold - pretty sure your dd would be okay, and probably be good for you all to do something different for a bit, if you feel up to it pavlov. can you convince him? the best thing i found (next to sleep) for dealing with my HG/MS was being around lovely friends.

is your manager supposed to be coming this afternoon now? i can't believe you tidied up! i hope she is just doing her job and not being nosey.

I thought the weather was meant to be lovely, especially in the south.

Kathy - you would think, what with him wanting to buy a newfangled tent and all, that he would be well up for it. But no, he is not. He is putting his foot down. I think, personally, he is afraid. .

and yes manager coming at 5pm this evening, allegedly. She said 'I will phone if I have to cancel' which means she is probably going to cancel .

If he is really offering to look after dd while you go on your own, can't you take him up on it? I bet a weekend away with no-one to look after except yourself would do you the world of good.

afraid of what? i'd be afraid of how ds would go, but he is not very adventurous and sounds a bit younger than your dd.

oh yeah kathy, i didn't think of that - pavlov, go for the weekend if you can, without those two. i am planning my first ever night away from ds at the end of june with some old uni friends. i am both excited and bit a bit fearful too!

Hi Pavlov and fellow pukers! I can't get on this thread so easily as I usually MN on my phone in bed and the thread is too big for my phone now!

I have started feeling better the last two days. I am 17 weeks today, so hopefully, will be like last time and pretty much gone by week 20. Still feel horrendously tired and just sleepy all the time, with no energy, but the overwhelming nausea is lessening.

Re sweets, I got the sweets I was craving (sasparilla tablets and fizzy colas) from the online shop www.aquarterof.com
I did spend abot £11 and they only helped for a week or so. Must throw them out now.

I cooked for the first time in 4 months yesterday! Getting tired of DP's beans and burgers!

Ah, too late, just presuaded him to go on the basis that his tent will arrive by midday tomorrow! He said, if we can get it for tomorrow, we go, if not, we don't! And guess what, we got the tent, 10 mins to spare! AND, I did not even think about going on my own . I just said to DH what you said and he said 'see, you should listen to the wise old oracles, I had no problem looking after DD if you wanted to go' while laughing his head off .

I just phoned my friend to say we are going after all as friends were all disappointed we were not going. She was jumping with excitement - going to stay just past padstow/watergate with a lovely lovely beach 5 mins down the cliff. I am going to go in the sea with my snorkel.

Oh sounds gorgeous! Is that the tent you were posting about wanting a while back?

I usually swim but it's always freezing in my various swimming holes and the mws I have asked have all been a bit about me swimming in seriously cold water while pg. I wonder if I can fit into dh's wetsuit, if not my own!

Kathy - Oh i did not even ask the mws about swimming in cold water - I have a shortie, it was a bit big, so will still fit I am sure (I have a small bump, but skinny elsewhere). My winter one was tight before I got pg, not even going to try it now. I know I was sick, but my uterus has grown at least!!

Yes, same tent. A SoulPad, its called, its just the best (i hope) I am going to have swathes in it (I have some lovely shiney muslin left over from our wedding) and take my throws to go over the bed, and we have mobiles to hang. DH wants to paint a green man on it (but he insists its not going to be a hippy tent yeah right).

I am pleased I persuaded him. Even if I feel tired, or off colour, its outside in the fresh air, will do us all some good.

Boss came round - 5 mins early - basically, she is understaffed and needs to organise groups and needs to know what work she can realistically get me to do (i am a programme tutor but can't do it right now), she is panicking as she has been asked to evidence her staff projections, groups, this that and the other for targets - thats the gist of what she said without saying it (other than all she talked about was what work I could do, would I be interested in xyz/helping out this team who are understaffed blah blah. She needs to be able to say 'pavlov is doing this that and cannot do this due to pg'. I worked it so that me returning to work, when I do will be doing her a favour! She told me that she wants me back and started by saying 'of course, because I miss you in the team...' and I finished by saying 'but what you really mean is you need me back right? and she laughed and agreed. Ha. Got her number! I told her I cannot say when I return.

Yank- just seen in your profile that you live in Warrington! I used to live in Liverpool and work in Widnes, one of my firends from Uni lived in Warrington. Am in London now.

I am continuing to feel better. In fact, I even feel up to resuming one of my faourite past times, reading cookery books and planning meals!!

Still feel a bit low though, maybe due to ong time of feeling sick. Have got myself a bit isolated in the meantime, if you know what I mean.

charliegal, it's good when you can actually start thinking about food again in a positive way. i've been cooking some yummy things lately - it's so satisfying after so many months of living on toast.

charlie i am so pleased that you are feeling better, and that is appearing to last. It will take time though, so pace yourself. I found this week, I have more energy, so I do more, then realise that I am in fact still exhausted, the last couple of months have taken their toll and its going to take a while to get my normal strength back, and i keep forgetting. I am not sure I could be brave enough to read about food though. I can eat it, but can't say I enjoy it that much right now.

My boss said to me when she came to see me, as we were walking to the front room 'pavlov you are so slim!' Er, yes, because I have been chucking up all day every day for the last god knows how many weeks what do you expect to happen?! After she said it, she then said 'oh i should probably have not said that should i? so I said, its ok, least I got a little bums showing still, and she said 'oh I was going to mention you showing too, but thought that was not appropriate either' !!! She was sooooooooo embarrassed!

Oh and I was sick this evening. Really acidy, not much, bit of acid liquid, it really really burned! I think it was the Yop that DH bought and I had some of. My body does not seem to like processed food atm (apart from, clearly, maccy d's ).

charliegal, we moved from London to Warrington a year and a bit ago for DH's job. So far not missing life down there too much, mostly just miss DH's family and our friends who are still there. Don't really know anyone up here.

pavlov, I'm telling you, processed crap is the way to go! Know what you mean about that acid stuff--that came up every morning (and sometimes in the evening) for ages.

I've not been sick since all the squirrel stuff (which is still ongoing, but not waking me up as early). Now just seem to have heartburn. At least I can eat bolognase again. For the longest time, anything tomato-based was completely off the menu. Am still a bit nauseous in the morning, but nothing like as bad as it was.

Seeing an osteopath for my SPD, and new dose of antidepressants have pretty well sorted out the AND. On the whole, feeling much more positive about the pregnancy, but can't believe I still have three months to go!