I am shocked but very happy for them.

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My brother has just been round to tell me that the lady he has been 'seeing' (I say seeing cos he says they are not in a relationship although clearly to an outsider they are men hey) is pg.

I am really happy for them both, I have not met her properly yet and would like her to know that she has my full support. My brother tells me that she only has her mum from her family and a friend that she rents a house with.

I would like to be there for her. My brother will be but I know that I will have to keep on at him to make sure he does the right thing. He just doesn't think like normal blokes IYSWIM.

I was thinking of sending her a card or getting her a gift, do you think that would be OTT and that I should wait until my brother wants her to meet the family properly.

I am so excited about being an aunt

I got a card on announcing the pregnancy news. I hid it in a drawer because I thought it was bad luck!

If you were me I'd be nagging brother for a meeting! For the sake of humanity, I hope I never become an aunt! My sister is so downright odd.

I hadn't met my dp family until pg and must say wish they were as nice as you. Im sure she will love a card or a gift of congrats if you need anything e.t.c

I think a card or gift would be ott at this stage - wait 'til the baby's born!

It's sweet that you're so excited though

Hawkmoth, I have been nagging him for a while to meet her properly, but when he told me this I asked him for her mobile number lol so I could ring and chat to her. Apparently she only lives 10 minutes walk away from me, but I don't know if it would seem too OTT or stalkerish to pop round to see her.

Slushy, my brother is really worried about telling our mum, mum hasn't exactly let go of her apron strings yet (where my bro is concerned anyway lol). I am determined not to let my mum become the MIL (ish) from hell.

Dad will be fine, he is so laid back, nana will be deliriously happy lol. I am nearly 30 pg with number 2 now so it will be nice to have DC at a close age.

I mean nearly 30 weeks pg with number 2 although I am nearly 30 and pg with number 2 as well lol.

I did wonder if it would be too OTT. I think I will see if my bro wont mind me meeting her first and then see if she wants anything for the baby or for her once he/she is born.

Being someone who was REALLY ridiculously worried about meeting my OH's family I would have been so pleased to have a SIL like you. I don't think a card's OTT at all. You could maybe pop your number in to give you chance to catch up without your bro having to be around?

I think you maybe shouldn't expect too much from her, she could after all be very different from how you expect? But I think it's lovely that you are offering your support x

Maybe some nice pregnancy pampering stuff would be nice? Don't think a card is appropriate though.

i know you're excited, but think you might have to hold back until they are both ready to do the family thing. other people's families can be really intimidating- even more so given the pregnancy. just go with the flow- once you have met her, you will be able to ascertain what help / support (if any) she wants or needs.

Why isn't a card appropriate?

It doesn't have to be a WOW I'm so happy you're preggers card does it? Maybe just a nice card with no greeting slashed all over the front, just room for a nice message of support.

Some people could see it as bad luck. It really depends on the person and as she doesn't know this woman it might be better to be cautious about it.

I got the mil from hell my dp was supposed to pay for her to have a retirement villa in spain and support the life she deserves. She also upon finding out my news suggested he get a job with the RAF. But I would def have been happier if his sis had been more supportive. If your mum is likely to scare her away I would get in there first and make a bond.

slushy, my mum wouldn't do it intentionally, but I know how she can come across IYSWIM and I wouldn't want that to happen.

My brothers 'friend' (don't know what else to call her at the minute) might find my mum pretty intimidating and I would like her to know that she has my support someone in my family that she can talk to. Cos I love my bro but my god he is useless sometimes a lot

I think I will hang back until she knows whats what after the first scan maybe and then send her a card with a message of support and my number.

Thank you.