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39 weeks and anxious, worried, tearful ...............

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spilla · 01/05/2005 08:07


I'm 39 weeks pregnant and feeling very anxious about the birth and when it will start, feel worried all the time - even when nothing to worry about and also very tearful and emotional. Is this normal? I really want to have this baby so I know it's not worry of changes, being a mum etc. Just can't seem to relax.

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blueteddy · 01/05/2005 08:16

Is this your first baby?
I was REALLY anxious about the birth when pregnant with my first & also felt worried about facing up to the responsibility of caring for a child.
I wanted the pregnancy to be over, but really didn't want to have to give birth etc.
I think it is very normal!

blueteddy · 01/05/2005 08:17

Is it the pain that is worrying you?
If so, I reccomend an epidural, as I had one & it was wonderful!

charleepeters · 01/05/2005 08:17

Ah spilla honey its completley normal i think nost new mums worry about the birth and you have to remember that you have had 39 weeks of pregancy i was so fed up and just cried at everything when i was 39 weeks because i was fat and uncomfortable, i was permanantly being kicked in the ribs i hated it i just couldnt wait for the baby to be out! But its normal to bwe worried about the birth labour is such a scary time for a woman i found i was scared unitll it actually happenend, but i found the midwifes to be really helpfull and friendly and if its pain your worried about they will tak you through pain relief ( i recomend epidural!) its ok to not beable to relax because your ind is full of babies! but you will be fine good luck x

Katemum · 01/05/2005 08:18

It is very quite on here this morning. You may get more replies if you try in the evening.
I have two, a 4 yo and an 11 mo. I remember getting quite tearful and anxious with my first on ocassions when it would hit me that I had to actually give birth! But I got through it and you will too.
Do you have a sympathetic midwife you can chat to?
Have you seen the antenatal clubs on here? Plenty of people due the same time as you and probably share all the same worries and concerns, really worth saying hello to them all. I was part of a birth club when expecting my second and it was really helpful.

kerfuffle · 01/05/2005 09:12

Try to relax and enjoy the end of your pregnancy.Everyone dreads giving birth for the first time, you wouldn't be normal if you didn't. Think of it as a normal physiological process that your body is designed to do, you just need to trust that this is the case and you will be ok. It is actually the most exciting ride of your life and although it is painful (I won't pretend that it wasn't) I wouldn't have missed it for the world. I actually feel sorry for men and women who can't give birth vaginally as they miss out on so much. The amazing high on adrenaline you get afterwards when you hold your baby for the first time is the best feeling in the world. Don't dread it, look forward to it!

triceratops · 01/05/2005 09:46

I just kept trying to convince myself that, as there are more than six billion people in the world, it can't be that hard. And no one would have any brothers or sisters.

Good luck, it may be another three weeks anyway (as it is your first) and by then you will want it out no matter what!

18mumtobe · 01/05/2005 11:31

hi spilla

i know excatly how your feeling at the moment as i am the same but im only 36+4 wks pg and im already starting to get worried and anxious. people keep telling me theres no point worrying coz its got to come out some how, but that really dosen't make you feel any better. im like you i am not worried about afterwards when the babe is here coz i feel as ready as i can be for that part its just the labour and birth that scares the hell out of me. but i surpose like alot of the others have said, people have babies everyday and people have more than one so it can't be that bad. and if the worst caomes to the worse then we can just have an epidural and feel nothing i surpose.
well i just wanted to let you know that your not only one who is feeling like this and its totally normal to be emotional, im always tearful and most of the time its about nothing at all.
well take care and i hope everything goes well for you. just keep reminding yourself about what your going to get from this experience and it will all be worth it when you get to hold your baby.

prettyfly1 · 01/05/2005 16:28

mee tooo. I am due on thursday and petrified!!! I really want my baby but cant help tormenting myslef with the most stupid things!!

We will both be fine and have gorgeous little monkeys and fabulous midwives with great pain relief!!!

Newbarnsleygirl · 01/05/2005 16:41

I think everyone feels anxious at that time of PG.

You know that it's really going to happen now, you are going to be a mum to a ds or dd and have a child. There's changes that maybe you never really thought about before and now it's all becoming a reality.

Who wouldn't be anxious about that?

As for the labour, I personally was petrified as I am such a wimp and didn't think I couldn't with the pain. When it actually happened it was fine. I coped and I think for me alot of it was because I knew what was happening, it wasn't a scary pain. It's what part of the nine months is about.
I had lots of people tell me that I would forget the pain and I was like, Yeah right, as if! But it was sooo true. As soon as I had dd I said I would do it again.

Enjoy it, it's a fantastic experience, one that you will never forget and treasure forever.

Use these last few days you have to yourself. Enjoy nice long baths, lots of sleep, watch your favourite films and just relax

I look forward to seeing your birth announcment

spilla · 01/05/2005 17:32

thanks everyone - I do feel a little more cheery now I've read your supportive replies.

Will let you knwo how it goes!!!!!!!!!!

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fisil · 01/05/2005 18:41

and come and join us on the due in May 2005 thread - there's a lot of people feeling anxious and really good support for each other. I felt really pooey at 39 weeks. Right now (nearly 41 weeks) I'm feeling pretty chilled, but it comes and goes! It's the unknown, isn't it?

tab · 02/05/2005 23:40

Hi Spilla, Im due in 3 weeks with my second. I was absolutely petrified the first time and its very hard to rationalize because its the unknown. Its completely normal not to be able to focus on anything else. Second time around you still have all the same fears but you can tell yourself you've done it once. Ist time you have to keep saying to yourself "this baby wants to come out and it is the most natural thing in the world for that to happen" Once contractions start and you become dilated the adrenalin really kicks in -I found it was almost a relief cos you know then that it will really happen and its happening to you. The wait is awful I know but you will get through it and as everyone has said - the midwives are brilliant, they will look after you and they will guide you. There is a lot of pain but you know what its leading to. Its such a huge achievement with a wonderful wonderful gift at the end. Leave a message on the due in May (ante natal clubs) thread or please let us know. Lots of luck and a big hug. you can do it!!

Lizzylou · 03/05/2005 11:57

I was exactly the same, I was soo nervous and soo impatient all at the same time.
You will be fine, before you know it you'll be wishing for a good nights sleep and wondering if you'll ever have a nappy free house!
Put your feet up and read a book, watch the TV whilst you can!!!!

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