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Help needed Everyone, possible 2 dads!!!!

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hoops997 · 24/04/2009 22:30

Hello everyone,

I am 5 weeks prego and unfortunately had a drunken accident with one of my mates!!! Now I am unsure who the father is......I feel very ashamed and don't feel very nice about the whole thing what the hell can I do about it?

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thehouseofmirth · 26/04/2009 11:54

You can have a prenatal DNA test...www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/science/article5581015.ece

PinkTulips · 26/04/2009 11:58

my MS with my last preg started at 5 weeks, lasted til 14 and i vomited everything i ate during that time, i actually lost weight!

if it keeps up this bad you need to mention it to your gp as some women develop hypermesis (sp?) and have to be admitted to hospital for dehydration.

fwiw, i think you sound like you're coping very well in a horrendous mess of a situation. good luck with the baby and with your dp

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hoops997 · 26/04/2009 12:04

thanks for the article house, quite interesting, will show it to BF

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Ohforfoxsake · 26/04/2009 15:15

Just wanted to say well done for being honest. It must have taken a lot of courage.

Being a single parent with no property or savings really isn't the worse thing in the World. IME is was lovely most of the time and my friends and family really rallied round and gave me more support than I could have ever wished for.

Good luck, hope you feel better soon and enjoy your pregnancy.

RFCMummy · 27/04/2009 08:41

Hey Hoops

I just wanted to say that I admire you for being so brave. Many wouldn't have been as concientious as you but I think you should be proud of the way you have handled a difficult situation.

I hope everything works out for you and that you end up with a beautiful healthy baby and a happy relationship.

Good luck to you

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hoops997 · 27/04/2009 18:22

thanks RFC, it wasn't easy but just had to take the bull by the horns, feel sooooo much better for being honest

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estelinha · 27/04/2009 19:19

Hoops, I do hope you're ignoring some of the less sympathetic, judgemental posts on here.

You have my complete sympathy, but congratulations by the way. You will love this baby and be a fantastic mother whoever the father is.

Please don't beat yourself up. I would keep quiet about your pregnancy until it's obvious (15 weeks with me) and just concentrate on looking after yourself.

YOu can get through this pregnancy without either of them if need be, and do a DNA test when baby's born.

Meanwhile please forget about dad's "rights" or your potential "deceitfulness" and "cruelty", put your feet up and get some counselling to help you decide how or if you ttell your boyfriend.

Put yourself and baby first.

preggers123 · 05/05/2009 00:43

Wouldnt your mate realise that there may be a chance that it could be his child? When he does i am sure he wouldnt keep the situation quiet as he would want to see it if it is his child. Im sure if you want any chance of your boyfriend staying with you it would be best just to tell him straight up as some where down the line he would find out off your mate and there is more chace of you staying together if you be honest instead of him finding out somewhere down the line that you have been lying.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 05/05/2009 01:22

preggers123, she told the boyfriend a couple of weeks ago.

preggers123 · 05/05/2009 16:59

i noticed that just after i left the comment but didnt know how to delete the comment i left lol.

fortyplus · 05/05/2009 17:14

Hoops I read the start of this thread and was really horrified that you were thinking about not telling your bf. So CONGRATULATIONS on being so brave and owning up. It would have been terrible fo you to go through pregnancy and birth keeping it a secret. It sounds as though your bf is taking a really mature attitude. One thing, though... make him promise not to tell anyone. Your future mil would hold it against you for years!

shellmc · 05/05/2009 17:45

Hiya hoops,

I have just read tru your thread, i wanna say a Huge CONGRATULATIONS on the pregnancy, and also the fact that right tru regardless to whether the baby cud be your boyfriends or not u wer 100% certain u wer having this baby :-).
You seem like a strong woman in my eyes and like a few others have sed on ere, HEY we all make mistakes, and u did mention u and ur boyfriend wer on a break at the time 2.
I dont agree with the fact u wernt gonna tell your bf, but thats just my opinion as everyone has thier own, but Hey again you stood up and uv told him, yeh his hed is gonna be all ova the place and he is always gonna wonder what if, but he has told u he loves u and wants to be with u. Sounds like one for keeps to me!! U will need to take things steady and talk and make sure he feels okay tru out the pregnancy too.
U av decided to wait b4 having dna testing which is a wise choice as u are still in early stages.
I wanna wish u all the luck for u ur bf and baby and i hope it all works out 4 u.

Take care hun xxxxx

Shell and baby bump

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