Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VIII - Knicker Checkers and Pad Patrollers welcome

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Is that ok?

hobnob great news on your scan and that you seem to be stuck in the same mundane boat as me. Agree that good parenting does wonders for children but I know first hand that it can come from just one parent if need be.

crunch my counsellor reckons I need to have drama in my life as that's all I've ever known (mum married 3 times, lots of drama in early 20's) She said the same as you, excitement can come from other avenues and that I need to find some to fulfill the drama element I'm lacking. All I need to work out now is whether being with someone who doesn't want to share that is enough - just a small poser for the day!!

My parachute is firmly fastened and am raring to go!

scarlotti hmm, very interesting. Have you tried finding it elsewhere?

Do you go back to Wales much? Whereabouts are you from? We could meet up hang-gliding over a field of sheep one day

scarlotti hmm, very interesting. Have you tried finding it elsewhere?

Do you go back to Wales much? Whereabouts are you from? We could meet up hang-gliding over a field of sheep one day

Fab news on the scan Hobnob. As unreal as it feels right now, trust me, it'll sink in

Please may I come skydiving too? It may scare nipper into putting in an appearance.

I'll even provide the picnic hamper for afterwards, complete with smelly cheese and wine and lots of cake.

bee definitely! Ooh and can you please bring loads of stinky, crumbly stilton with a really rich, dark red wine?

Mmmm, heaven

crunch yes, I have done the hobbies and going out with others etc. It does work but just means that we then live quite seperate lives. Seems to negate the reason to be in a relationship then I think. We have other issue-ettes (who doesn't) but a lot of it stems from me having the oomph and him not, but him wanting the things the oomph provides e.g. I earn more than he, not an issue, but he doesn't want to live somewhere cheaper for snob reasons. So I end up stuck having to contract to support the lifestyle we have. he wants the lifestyle but doesn't earn enough for it - in my book that means you either go without or buck up and change your fortunes!

Am from Cardiff originally but been away 19 years. Mum back there now living near Llanelli so we go visit. Plan was to head back that way but the recession might have put paid to that idea.

Yes, let's go scare some sheep by handgliding over them!!

bee hang in there hon!

I'm a hangin!

Smelly cheese aplenty crunch, and I only drink red. And some nice runny brie... and if I could work out how to keep them hot I'd bring runny boiled eggs too...

I've told dh that the first thing I want when I come home should nipper ever arrive is a nice runny boiled egg and soldiers. I've missed runny eggs! oh, and for dinner a steak that's still mooing in the middle

And I bet you all thought I'd want scones

scarlotti 'Tis a tough balance indeed. The whole "wanting the lifestyle if you work for it" is hard if you feel taken for granted. Sounds like he needs to move out of his comfort zone. I hope you work something out.

I wondered if the name would mean a Cardiff link

I'm an Aberystwyth girl myself - which means everyone I ever knew now lives in Cardiff Not lived there in 10 years, but always meant to head back to Wales one day (not nec. Aber though)

bee oh God yes - not having to cook every bit of meat until it's charcoal. What's the point in steak if it's not mooing?

And a homemade dark chocolate and rum mousse with raw egg in it...

And a painfully hot bath...

And to be able to see my feet...

Aargh, you're making me crave things I'm not allowed and I have 32 weeks left!!!

Mmm Brie and bacon butties....!

Crunch do you think you'll ever go home? Funny how it's still home after all these years. Wyt ti'n siarad Cymraeg hefyd?

Sorry Scarlotti, I promise not be be cruel anymore

Speaking of not seeing feet, it's also interesting not to be able to see your bits anymore too. Decided to do a "trim" so as not to scare people but lord knows if I did it evenly or not as I had to do it by guessing!!

gosh bee that's brave! I'd bee too worried I'd chop something I shouldn't!!

Mas o ymarfer (idiom Saesneg ofnadwy ) ond ydw. Dw i ddim wedi siarad Gymraeg am bron deg mlynedd nawr (God has it been that long) heblaw am pan dw i'm cwrdd a ffrindie adre (a mae Cymru yn wastad adref i fi hefyd )

A couple of weeks ago all I wanted was a big fat cigar and a pint of vodka Made no sense to me! But my earliest craving was Stilton and that was so unfair!

bee I had the same trouble. Nerve wracking process! Just glad I didn't lop off any important bits

It's been nearly 20 years for me so very rusty!

Stilton?! Ew!

I have terrible wind today, very difficult in a small office like this. It's so obvious it's me Not a lot I can do about it though! Roll on 4:45 when I can run out the door!

I thank the invention of electric trimmers

If I'd had to rely on a razor, I'd have left it wild!

Wheely - congrats on your baby girl

crunch ? that sounds very promising. I hope that a condition of him moving back in is to have counselling/cbt or whatever ongoing (or is that too much to hope for?). Sorry, trying not to be cynical, and really want things to be OK for you ? just hate the idea of you being left hurt and bereft if he can?t sustain it. No idea what the Welsh says, but it looks very impressive

Hobnob ? lovely news on the scan

Bee ? lol at broken biscuits. We had KFC for dinner last night. It was sooooo delicious. So wrong it must have been right. I did my last lot of lady gardening a couple of weeks ago. Very carefully. Couldn?t see a thing ? think I might have to revisit. Sending you lots of positive go-into-labour thoughts .

Cece ? doncha just love those kicks in the cervix? They?ve been Bo?s daily special gift to me all the way through, causing many a concerned glance from passers-by as I doubled over in the street.

Scarlotti ? you sound really clear-headed about things ? and the ups and downs are so much exacerbated by the hormones. My SIL suffers from ante-natal depression. It?s strange how little it?s talked about ? I suppose we feel guilty for feeling down when anticipating a joyful event. Her GP reckons one in five women suffer from it.

I?m still in my pjs ? even the cat has achieved more today than I have. I should go for a walk and buy a pineapple but I just can?t be arsed. Someone give me a slap, please ? hopefully it?ll bring on the baby?

Ladylush - I think I 'know' you from the over-40 thread. Or the hut. Would that be right? In any case, hearty congrats!

I have pretty much given up on my ladygarden, something I regretted at the physio just now, as she massaged away my SPD pains!

bee I had some electric trimmers but they decided to break mid trim - ouch!

daisy thanks. I'm going to mention it to my mw so at least someone knows and can keep an eye on it. at you in your pj's, I can't wait for my maternity leave

The thought of trimmers breaking mid trim brings tears to my eyes!

Daisy thanks for the vibes. I bet you beat me. Isn't it your due date on Monday? Sending vibes your way too.

of you being in your pj's, although all I've done today is sit on the sofa and cuddle my two very clingy cats. One of them is currently cuddled up in a tight ball with his cuddly toy sheep (he's so adorable!) and his sister is sitting on my leg. My get up and go has got up and gone.

Can't even be arsed to get a cuppa and a scone...

What would we do without the cats, eh? Although yours sound much cuter than mine. Grumpy sod swiped me earlier as I was stroking him while being distracted by the TV, and his lordship insists on being the main focus of attention. Mmmm, he's going to luuurve the baby .

I don't think we should have to get our own tea and scones, frankly. Someone should be hired to bring them to us.

Evening all

There was a donut left this morning! So I added that to my breakfast snack pile... and no, they don't have holes in, they're jam-packed with er, jam.

Scarlotti hope you're feeling more positive today. I fell into flat mode yesterday. DH was 10 minutes late to pick me up from work (finished at 10pm). Not a big whoopsee in the scheme of things but I had a quiet temper tantrum while waiting for him and that had turned into flat emotionless empty by the time I got home. Poor bloke, he couldn't understand until I muttered sorry and hormones. But I'd gone from la la la to what the f* am I trying to have a baby for. The grouch has vanished completely today thank goodness. But I am fed up with being bloated and permanently nauseous.

hobnob congrats on the scan [scan]

Hello, I haven't been here since 12 week scan on 16th Feb, sorry about that, was touched to see so many people asking where I'd gone, cheers dears.

It was fine and continues to be fine, I'm now nearly 19 weeks and starting to believe it! I've even got some maternity clothes now. I did go shopping for some about 14 weeks, but since my last mc was at 16 weeks I never quite made it to the till in case there was an earthquake or something.

Telling family has been fun but since no other women in my family have experienced mc they do say the darnedest things. I know that my daughter being an only child (till now!) has been a source of anxiety for everyone except, well, me, my husband and my daughter! When I told Mum the news she grabbed my face in her hands and said "I'm so pleased you've finally come round... this will make everything better for you, it will complete things." Yes, Mum. Thanks, Mum. Bye, Mum.

Anyway all is well and I have my 20 week scan coming up. I'm buggered if I'm telling anyone in RL the date, though. Family matriachs are already having coffee mornings about what sex of baby would be "easiest for Gentle to cope with" etc etc etc blah blah blah humph mumph grumble.

Thanks for reading the rant!

Anyone know how Fozzie's doing?

Ladies I've found a new member, a keen gusset checker, be nice, and Crunch, try not to lower the tone straightaway. She doesn't know anything about monkey nipples