Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VIII - Knicker Checkers and Pad Patrollers welcome

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afternoon all

Had scan yesterday - all looking good, dates confirmed (EDD 26th October). Such a relief to see little one wiggling about with a strong heartbeat. In all the excitement we forgot to ask for scan pic (!) Asked after the scan but they don't save images Will just have to get lots at the 20 week scan on 9th June. We'd promised dd we'd have a pic of her new brother or sister - had to take her out for tea in recompense - she seemed happy with that!

Anyway - after doing no work yesterday I have loads to get on withxxxxxxx

scarlotti at waters going in front of the builders.

Lal that's fantastic news 26th of October was DS2's EDD (although actually born in November ) so I reckon it's a good time to be born

about the scan picture, but you'll get a much better one at your 20 week scan, I'm sure Don't work too hard!

Hello!

Daisy I loved the cat story! Made me smile. Very interesting about the shrinking curly wurlies, too (sounds like a medical complaint). I will be telling people that story and then pursing my lips in a "things ain't wot they used t'be" manner.

Scorpio welcome! Yes everyone's right, if you have a bug the best thing to do is stay clean and get plenty of rest. I have had all sorts with this pregnancy and it's still going strong at 23 weeks now

ashleigh sorry for the reminder! Creme eggs clearly need to be added to the Pregnancy After Miscarriage survival kit

lal123 Great scan news! Don't work too hard now...

scarlotti ha ha about the builders! Shall we start a sweepstake about who you can display in front of next time? Will it be a plumber, gasman, or (my favourite) a door-to-door charity fundraiser?!?!

Crunch How many days over now? AND builders next door? I fear we need to reclassify the situation to a Code (Chocolate) Orange.

lal123, congrats on your scan! And Scorpio, I picked up ds's d and v bug over Easter, and my foetus still appears to be hanging in there. It's still hard not to worry, though...

I am having a colossal sulk today. We were planning to go to my best friend's wedding in the South of France this August - it was going to be our first proper holiday since 2006. DH rang today to announce that whoops, he's got a conference in the US that weekend - but don't worry, I can just go without him! Honestly, I have trouble wrangling ds around the village co-op, never mind taking him through bloody France toute seule while heavily pregnant. (Seriously - how would I manage suitcase AND escapologist ds while hugely knocked up?) Burst into tears when I got off the phone, and am now hiding in the study plowing through a vast bag of Doritos with dip (can't let ds see me, I won't let him eat that sort of rubbish).

Oh Tamlin you sound really crestfallen. I'm sorry, that sounds rubbish of your DH. Any chance your DH could be talked round? Or is there anyone else you could take with you?

Gentle I'm now 4 days over. It's only after I'm a week overdue that I'll start to worry MW says she'll do a sweep on Friday

Mmmmm, chocolate orange alert...

Tamlin, Gentle's suggestion of taking someone else is a good one. Surely you could turn the invite into a plus one instead of dh and take a helpful friend? I really hope you don't have to miss out because of it.

Thinking of taking my sister, who spent a year living in Chartres and another in Belgium so is very fluent. Won't be the same as a trip with dh, though - I think this just feels like the icing on the cake because recently, his work/life balance has been decidedly tipped towards the former. I know he's worried about the recession plus new baby on the way, but ffs, I'd like to see him home before 8 pm one night (he leaves at 7 am).

Tamlin taking your sister is a great idea, know it won't be the same but it saves you missing out completely. Can you talk to your dh about his balance? Maybe you could agree that one night a week he's home for 6pm?

crunch sending you labour vibes!

Gentle to date, both my dc's have been born into a house that's been in the middle of building works. This one will be the only one brought into a finished home!

Morning All!

Lal great news on the scan

Crunch how's it going? Have just realised you may turn out to be a 'builder's labourer' boom boom

Tamlin grrr on your behalf. I would be v.upset too. Agree that taking your sister is a great idea, but totally understand your frustration at H's current obsession with work. For what it's worth, mine is the same at the mo - I think it may be the male version of nesting, they start to become anxious about providing for the baby and want to do as much as possible. Have you had a (calm and unemotional ) talk with him explaining how his absence makes you miserable?

Dasiy your cat story made me laugh so much I realised I've been too slack with my pelvic floor exercises . We have a lovely dog (black and white collie) and the last few weeks I've been hanging out with her and wondering how she's going to fit in after the baby's born. At the moment she's lying on her back on the couch, all legs in the air, snoring ....

Am sure she'll be a big help at getting me out of the house at least....

Any news of LadyHelen and the Right Honourable Bean???

Tamlin your sister sounds like a useful person to take to France. I hope you manage to talk to your dh and get him to put some time aside for the family - men can get so focused on providing that they forget about the "spending time together" bit.

scarlotti had one very painful contraction at about 5 this morning and then nothing! Keep those vibes coming - it's guaranteed to happen today since I have just found H's mobile on the side. Good to know I can contact him directly in an emergency - I've called his work before now, to be told by the reception staff that his division doesn't exist so she can't put me through He really doesn't care about all this, does he?

Probably being hormonal and overreacting so ignore me.

Where is Ladyhelen? I reckon she's off pipping me to the post as well

Sydney terrible joke! Shame on you Scaffolding was all taken down this morning (very early bangs outside my window) and now the glaziers have moved in. I can hear sawing and hammering so far.

What happened to my zen-like calm? I want it back. I just feel irritable and niggly today.

crunch irritable and niggly? I think today may well be the day - did you get restless with the other two?
If you do go into labour the phone H's office and explain what's happening. That will spur them into finding a way to get hold of him. He will (should!) then feel really guilty at having forgotten his phone and the penny might drop finally as to what you've been saying all this time.

Tamlin hope your dh manages to balance the providing with the spending time together better.

My H is dreadful at balancing it, but sadly the other way around. He sees nothing wrong with us having a lovely lifestyle as long as I'm paying for it
Looks like it's not just your zen like calm that's disappeared eh crunch

Scarlotti that would drive me insane too

Argh! Now the cat has just brought in a pigeon! The Fates are conspiring against me. The pigeon is very much alive, but wounded. I've put it in a box to see if it comes around from the shock - in many ways best if it doesn't [callous emoticon] This is the first time he has ever brought anything back - why now?

Any other random events I will keep you all posted: expecting meteorites through the window and for me to contract bird flu any time now (they can keep their fancy swine flu).

What a day you're having crunch!! Let's hope the pigeon doesn't decide to make an escape bid just as your labour goes into full swing - would be like an episode of faulty towers!

it already feels like one.

Sorry to diappoint ladies. Am still here with bump. Have just been a bit slack at posting in past couple of days. Been busy with vital birth prep. Ie bikini and leg waxing, and pedicures as well as sleeping!

MW says baby is still ( as in been there for 2 weeks now) 2/5. I really thought that meant things were moving in the right direction but nothing more than BH and periody pain still. Grrr.

crunch yikes a pigeon. I'll send DS up to you as he loves chasing pigeons off at the moment. Our cat has only ever brought us one gift - a half dead mouse - in the 7 years we've had him. He's a bit of a wussy pussy really. And building work next door? WTF?

ladyhelen nice to hear from you although sorry to hear you're still waiting! Did your mw mention that 2nd babies onwards sometimes don't engage fully right up until labour? Don't think the 2/5 means anything in terms of when it will happen.
Good for you with the waxing etc. Am already wondering whether I'll trust H to do any necessary trimming when I get to that stage!

Am weaning myself off the lunchtime fizzy drinks!! Am now onto fizzy water instead as worried I'm going to end up huge. Haven't managed to stay away from the afternoon choccy bar as yet though

ladyhelen - my first and second babies engaged, but my third was 'free' at 40 weeks! She came at 41 weeks exactly, but at least yours is in there somewhere, they do pop in and out, don't worry

I am feeling much more positive today

I have a scan appointment for 12 May - eek like 12 more days of wondering! It's a week Tuesday, i was hoping to be seen in the next working week, but at least i will be 8 weeks that day and there will be no 'is it there isnt it' issues.

Please help me till then! I wonder everyday if he/she is growing in there happily. 12 more days. That's not much really is it?

Scarlotti I just read your 'weaning' post with a smile! I am sitting here after my spagetti hoops on toast and two Weatabix, eating a square of Cadbury Dairy Milk!

I am 23 weeks (should I say nearly 24 weeks so it sounds a little bit better) does anyone know what the 'average' weight gain is?

Scorpio - It is going to seem like it takes forever for the 12th May to come round, I am keeping all crossed and sending little sticky vibes your way.. When I was waiting for scans I went to bed about 8pm every night trying to make them pass a little bit quicker.. I hope that it comes round as quick as possible for you, so your mind can be put at ease... & I am pleased to hear you're feeling more positive today.

Crunch & Ladyhelen wow, the race is certainly on.. should us knickercheckers open a book on who is going to give us a birth story first? I am sorry you're both still waiting though, it must be very uncomfortable at your stage - I wonder if there's anything that we can do?

Tamlin I hope you get to go to your wedding, it might be nice to take your sister anyway and have some nice girly pampering and bonding time..? And at least you'll get a nice break away?

We're hopefully booking up a trip to Paris next week for the first weekend in July, I am hoping I will be glowing and looking lovely (not massive and sweaty) in maxi maternity dresses with lovely open sandals etc etc.. well i will be 33 weeks.. so I am going with 'massive and sweaty'. Oh who knows, with it being the city of luuurve and me being the mother of his 1st gorgeous DC the partner might get down on one knee.. okay.. a girl can dream

Hope everyone is doing well crunch how's the building going today? Have you had the need to shhh them loudly out of the front door?

xx

ashleigh - try not to obsess over weight gain, its for a very good reason i just always try to eat well and have treats not too much

Paris sounds amazing, i love France . Maxi dresses and gladiator sandals, i reckon thats the way to do heavily pregnant glam in heat!

I have been going to bed so early anyway, about 830pm, I'm just so tired what with pg hormones and the 3 dc already!

Ladyhelen we were getting all excited! I went straight from 2/5 to labour with DS2, so not to worry. Let's just hope that the BHs are all doing their bit and each one of them means a little less labour. And waxing?! I'm very impressed. One bonus side-effect of this pregnancy has been madly reduced hairgrowth (very strange) so on the whole I'm pretty hairless

ashleigh not a clue about weight gain I'm afraid. I'm not thinking about it at all and planning to slip straight back into my size 10s the second this one is out (please don't burst my bubble with the truth).

Scorpio I'm glad you've managed to get a scan, the waiting is horrible, but once you're past 8 weeks all the survival statistics shoot up so it's probably a good thing (not that that helps with the wait!)

I want to go to France. Everyone else is!

scorpio Thanks, I know i need to relax about the weight gain situation.. I am still having my 5 a day.. but I am scoffing Weatabix by the box - no sugar though, that must be something?!

I have been lucky with my scan dates as my hospital's ultrasound dept is so unorganised that I recieve the letters about 2/3 days before the scan itself - all the other scans i have had have been private so i have decided when to book. I do really hope it comes round quickly before for you though, however I know you're in the uncertain time of symptom spotting and knickerchecking... I am pleased you are getting an early reassurance scan though - hopefully it'll get you through the 4 weeks until your 12 week scan xx

ashleigh, sounds lovely, I hope you get very pampered in Paris! I have already gained over five pounds in the course of the first trimester, so think my chances of getting the elegant neat bump are again slim - I lost weight with ds at first and still wound up looking like an elephant seal at the end...

sydney, suspect you're bang-on about the male version of nesting - oh noes, wife breeding again, must go and busily hunt more wild things on savannah before hungry offspring turn on me...

Crunch, are you still nursing your wounded pigeon?

Tamlin pigeon is in a box and sounds like it's getting better - hoping its injuries are just superficial, its wings are fine and that's the main thing. Stupid cat!

I like the idea of men nesting - it certainly makes sense.

Building seems to be over (at least for now) So if baby could arrive now please that would be just fine.

Hi ladies!

Come on crunchie and helen - enough chocolate-eating, get those babies out.

It's been high drama here. Nearly 32 weeks now, and late tuesday evening went to the loo to find a bit of 'brown' on the loo paper. Still oozing yesterday morning, so went to the hospital, where they kept me in for 24 hours, hooked up to monitors, eventually giving me a scan, and everything appears fine. No idea why it happened - placenta all OK - so I've just got to keep an eye. They gave me steroid injections to mature Cromwell's lungs, just in case he did come early.

All very scary, but the midwives were all lovely and I felt very well looked-after. Made me feel slightly less scared of the whole birthing thing now... Especially as a lady in the opposite bed came into be induced, and an HOUR after her tablet shouted 'I think the head's coming out'. Suddenly she was being wheeled out to the delivery suite by loads of MWs, all shouting 'don't push'... she had the baby three minutes later!

Has rather destroyed my zen calm, but on the plus side the doc's told me to work from home as much as possible...