Bit gutted - sonographer referred to baby's gender at 12 wk scan

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Had our 12 week nuchal scan today and am over the moon that the baby is healthy and all measurements were as they should be etc. We told the sonographer that we didn't want to know the sex, but at one point during the scan she said "oh she's such a wriggly baby". I know it doesn't matter and we really don't mind whether it's a boy or a girl. But I so loved the moment that DD was put on my tummy after she was born and they announced that she was a girl. I was just really looking forward to that moment at the end of this pregnancy and after a hard labour!

Just wondering if this has happened to anyone and they've ended up having a surprise anyway?

It's quite likely the sonographer was saying 'she' as a sort of generic term. From what I gather it's very difficult to tell the sex at the 12 week scan so I wouldn't take any notice.

12 weeks is usually far too early for even an experienced sonographer to determine the sex. She is probably just saying "she" out of context.

Wouldn't be able to tell sex at 12 weeks

my consultant said it's hard to tell at 12 weeks - he thought his DD was a DS!

I expect it was just a generic 'she'

Sonographer said 'he' at 20 wk scan (we also asked not to be told). We had a girl

Ours said 'he's a wriggler' turned out to be a 'she'!

Think they just use generic term rather than 'it'

I expect it was just a slip of the tongue. even at 20 weeks they sometimes can't tell. They'd never spot the sex at 12 weeks.

My friend was told her baby was a girl at her 12 week scan. She had a boy

I was told gender at 12 weeks but sonographer says you can't be more than 60% certain at that point.

Pay no attention - I imagine she said 'she' rather than saying 'it', which could be construed as impersonal.

I think it was a generic term - the sonographers referred to all 3 of mine as 'she' and I've only actually got one 'she'!

Would you prefer she said "It"?

I always referred to my babies as "he" even though for 2 I didn't know and the third I knew was a girl. You'll never know if it was a mistake on her part - if you have a boy she may just have been wrong and if you have a girl she may not have been referring to the actual gender at all I think you just have to assume it was a general term and not a reflection of the gender. As others have said, it's difficult to see at this stage and also they are more likely to get it wrong if it's a girl even at the later scans.

im sure it was generic but you can tell the sex with modern scanners at 10/11 weeks. If it was an older machine I really doubt they could tell.

I have been told that because mummies are shes, babies are hes. Our sonographer was unable to tell at 20 weeks what we were having second time around (and we wanted to know) but told us that if we bought pink, to keep the labels and reciepts . Unlikely that they'd know at 12 weeks tbh.

Forgot to add that DS on the other hand was waving "it" around, even we could tell he was a he!! But again that was at 20 weeks. Either way I just knew what I was having both times boy first, girl second, didn't need a scan to tell me, that was for cynic DH

I'm a student radiographer and have done some sonography and there's no way she could tell, the genitals are not obvious until about 17 weeks. Honest!

This happened to my sister she went for a scan and said she didnt know the sex, then the sonographer said "so how do u feel having another boy", although this was a later check up scan.

They are not supposto tell you as they do get it wrong. A boy's bits can be less obvious so they look like a girl. It's a litigation nightmare. Not telling also prevents families who don't want a girl, well, you know . They will tell you after a certain time though but they can't see at 12 weeks.

I think sonographers chose always refer to one or the other all the time no matter what they see. So one might always say he and another always say she iykwim. At 12 weeks she wouldn't be able to see so it's just that this lady choses to say she all the time.

Seriously, they are not supposto and it can be easy to mistake a boy for a girl at 12 weeks.

Maybe it changes with each trust. In the trust where I train it's 18 weeks. This is to prevent confusion and other things.