Broody

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yogi · 07/04/2003 13:36

Help! I'm feeling incredibly broody lately! Is it my age - I'm 36? I've only been seeing my partner for 4 months, am I being ridiculous?

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mum2toby · 07/04/2003 13:56

Yogi - My dp and I had only been together about 6 months when we decided to try for a baby. 3 months later I was pregnant!! I know how overwhelming the feelings can be... do you think he's good father material...

Do you have any kids already?

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yogi · 07/04/2003 15:10

Yes i do think he would be a good father - he already has one child from a previous marriage and is besotted with her. I have none and until a year ago was convinced i was a career girl! i can't believe i'm feeling like this! i think my body is saying its now or never - get on with it girl! I'm also thinking there's more to life than going to work. But i daren't broach the subject with my partner as he'd probably run a mile! I've even considered whether its possible to go it alone if things didn't work out with my partner, although i would hate to have to do that!

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mum2toby · 07/04/2003 15:32

I have always been very career orientated, but when those hormones kick in... WOW!! My career is actually going better now than it was before as I have more of a reason to succeed.

How old is your dp's child? If there is still bitterness regarding his marriage break-up he may well get a wee bit nervous talking about another child so soon... then again... life's too short, you might as well test the water, then at least you'll know where you stand!

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yogi · 07/04/2003 16:01

thanks mumtoby for your advice and congratulations on managing to have a successful career and motherhood. What's a dp? I'm new to this site (obviously) and haven't got used to any of the jargon yet!

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EmmaTMG · 07/04/2003 16:05

It's confusing isn't it--
DP/DH dear partner/husband
DS/DD dear son/daughter

kaz33 · 07/04/2003 16:24

I told my DP quite early on - that I wanted kids and if he didn't then there was no long term future for us. However, I was substantially younger than you (29/30) so was not under such pressure from the time clock. He was initally negative and said he didn't, but after a while he came round to the idea and it was really a case of me saying when.

Three months is early however if it is important to you then I think you should raise it as a possibility in the future. If he is the sort of man whom you might have a future with he should be able to treat your statement with respect.

emwi · 08/04/2003 21:00

Waiting another six months probably won't make any difference conception-wise and would give you time to settle into the relationship - You could drop a few hints about how your feelings towards children have changed - perhaps relating it to seeing how well he and his daughter get on. You could gauge how he feels about babies by asking him what it was like when his daughter was born. Good luck. I never thought I wanted children but, now aged 36, am really glad to have my dd Grace (aged 5 months) who is fab.

mum2toby · 09/04/2003 11:21

Yogi - Are you there?? Have you spoken to your partner?

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