Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

Hi sifuentes - this is a lovely thread and hope you're back here v soon with some good news I too had a horrible experience at my EPU (doctor came into to do and internal scan, didn't introduce himself and instructed me via a M/W - then turned to her and said "Heartrate's v v slow - she'll have to come back" - DH and I were horrified..and it got worse after that....)but as youknownothing says, the mc threads are also fabulous and v supportive.

Having joined on an almost new page cannot remember anyone's latest news so am off to reread them (preghead strikes again..)

Great news on the scans - Ash and Vjay. As the others say, its great to have good news on this thread even if mixed with bad.

Mumface - sorry you're having to deal with divorce on top of pregnancy. I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.

Sifuentes - Hope you're on this thread for good soon.

DBNO - Any news (she asks annoyingly and waits for a bop on the nose ).

Dan - So that must make you 39 weeks tomorrow officially so we can be on birth watch again. Yippee !!

Saw my friend today who had her baby on Friday - she was 11 days overdue and said it was such a relief to have given birth. Her baby seemed very peaceful (for the hour I was there ).

Thanks everyone for kind comments and general welcomingness. I shall lurk here and on Emmsy's for a while I think. But hopefully soon I will get up the guts to ttc again and then hopefully not too long after that I will be able to graduate to this thread!

take care xxx

Hi sifuentes, and welcome. I'm on Emmys too as I can't quite drag myself away from them. They have seen me through my 2nd mc, conception and now early pregnancy. Come and join us xxx

Gosh mumface - you have a lot to contend with. Best of luck with it all.

Hi sifuentes (is that an LA Law-influenced choice of name btw?) Hope you can join us soon.

Oh wheely - don't worry, I am very used to being asked how it's going. The downside of having dd at school already is braving everyone urging me to have sex on the school run (that's people on the school run urging me, rather than...iyswim). I have had sex two days running so far which counts as an unparalleled orgy of gratification when compared to the previous nine months, but no, there is still no action. I have been complaining on other threads about this.

crunch - I'm crossing my legs at the thought of the speed bumps but if there's still no action by the weekend, I might consider it.

dan - it's looking more likely you might beat me to it. On your marks, get ready....

welcome to the thread sifuentes.

Hope everyone is feeling well.

I am absolutely shattered, baby was doing gymnastics it seemed like for most of the night so didn't get much sleep.
It is nice to feel it kicking and shuffling about but I could sleep all day..

Got a MW appointment this afternoon to keep a check on my wee (lovely) I've had protein and glucose in it a couple of times so they're keeping an eye on me

Hopefully my BP will be behaving altho I am so stressed about not getting paid (i'll me owed 8 weeks wages on friday)

Hello Vjay and all fellow knickercheckers! Can I join you please? Nice to see a couple of familiar names. Like VJay I'm an Emmsys angel and cant quite tear myself away but am slowly getting more freaked out by the sad stories of mc on there, and keep re-living mine which is agonising and anxiety making when trying desperately to be positive about my pregnancy no 4!

A liitle history - I have lost 3 angels in 10 months, from sept 07 - jul 08. 1st natural mmc at 9 weeks, 2nd mmc in Feb 08 also at 9 weeks (scan & no hb) then ERPC, 3rd was at 13 weeks (Jul 08) after weekly scans but saw badly increased nuchal so under fetal meds as poss chromosome issue (downs or worse), then week 13 scan, no hb. Had ERPC but 6 weeks later still retained product so had 2nd ERPC. That totalled 3 ERPC in 6 months. Had all the recurrent mc tests that revealed no cause, all done by NOv so proceed with ttc! Found out was preg with no 4 on new years day . Recurrent mc specialist put me on daily aspirin and cyclogest (progesterone supps), seeing him at mc clinic every 4 weeks, having weekly scans at EPU & first ante natal on tues. Am 8w1d! They are doing my nuchal scan at fetal meds again after last time, so under 4 diff care teams. Should be incredibly reassuring, and is to an extent, but stil very very very anxious.

OMG just heard my managers son might have measles so now absolutely freaking and will not be at work for foreseeable future if she has!!!

4ever good girl! you just stay here and grow big and fat thinking of you heaps and heaps and little Ox.

Hello 4ever and welcome - sending you sticky thoughts for this time - you do deserve some luck by now! Sounds like lots of oversight so thats good. Fingers crossed.

dbno I'll race ya then! Drinking raspberry tea, eating hot things all the time(mind you I always do)but not so much on the getting jiggy front - bloody dh seems to have decided I am some sort of lovely Madonna/Mother of his Child figure (thats the jesus one not the pointy tits one) and seems reluctant...must send him some links about it helping at this stage. not sure the saucy pose will work at this stage!!?

Wheely thanks for your words of wisdom re induction/hb etc - you are right and I need to just be calm but clear about it until deffo 2 weeks after - thi they have made me a hosp appt for 7 days after - but I will treat that as a checking babe okay one and arrange to go again. Or might let them sweep. (Tho surely sex does the same job as that?)

ANYHOO off to midwife now with a bottle of wee.

Welcome 4ever come & join the hand holding on this great thread.You have been through such a lot.Hope our good news will give u some strength to get through the weeks.

welcome 4ever

4 ever re the measles. Have u had your booking in blood tests back yet because just looked at mine and they routinely tested for rubella antibodies, think this means they check if you r immune to getting german measles?I may be wrong.

at dbno having sex on the school run.

Welcome 4ever

mumface german measles (rubella) is different to measles.

Hi everyone, so much to catch up on, I've been lurking but not had enough time to post, can't seem to form sensible sentences by the time evening comes so end up thinking I'll post tomorrow.

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news about teachertalk, villagemum and deany. I hope you girls are getting looked after well in rl and my thoughts are with you at this awful time.

On the other hand it's lovely to read the good news too, for ash and vjay

I can't wait for the baby announcements dbno and dan. These 9 and a half months seem to go on forever!!! Bad girl dan for not phoning your tutor - although I have to say I can't talk as I chickened out of taking on my masters dissertation as soon as I found out I was pg and took a while to pluck up courage to contact my tutor. Am very impressed with wmmc's studiousness!

I'm skiving from work at the moment - have just been to MW (28wks now - fingers crossed all looks OK). Just burst into tears in her room and poor lady had to listen to me ramble on for about 5mins without a breath about all my worries. Someone please reassure me it's normal to be a nervous wreck after 3 mc's - I feel like I'm being unreasonable (am definately not posting in that thread tho'!). I've been really positive the last 6wks but for some reason feel really emotional today. Ahh - lightbulb moment tis the anniversary of mmc and ERPC last year, maybe that's it - or I'm turning into a basket case.

I asked her about aspirin as the pharmacist when I asked for heartburn / indigestion medicine made me paranoid keeping taking it in the third trimester may cause long term heart problems for babe. Does any one know when they recommend you stop taking it?? 4ever did your specialist tell you anything? After marvellous care from the EPU I've been left wallowing in routine / uncomplicated pg care and feel like no one gives a shit about the fact I lost 3 babies. However the MW was lovely and will see me in 2wks instead of 4 and is going to speak to the consultant about aspirin.

OK ladies have composed myself now I've offloaded to the only people I feel can really understand my anxiousness so better get my ass to work before they send out the search parties!

4ever I too have had lots of MCs - four in three years, inc two MMCs - and two ERPCs recently, so know JUST how you feel. But keep the faith! After nearly dying of fear every time I've been for a scan I have made it to 18 weeks, so don't despair! Positive thinking, plus head in the sand, plus this thread, has got me this far.

scotlass I feel just the same. EPU saw me at 6, 7, 8, 10 and 12 weeks, but now I'm 18 I feel like I've been dropped like a hot brick. I suppose it's good news, as I must just be ordinary and low risk, and at least my MW wrote 'handle this lady with care' on my notes! I get all emotional and weird too, really unexpectedly, like when I'm walking down the corridor at work, or if I smell bacon. I too am a basket case. And I'm still taking the baby aspirin every other day, in a kind of 'half way house' manner.

Welcome 4ever - what a terrible time you've had. I so hope this is it for you.

Scotlass - I am still taking aspirin at almost 34 weeks. I meant to ask the consultant (or registrar) last time I saw them when I should stop taking it. I hadn't heard about heart risks - mine was more that I didn't want to encourage too much bleeding at birth ! That said, I am taking mine because of previous IUGR/pre-eclampsia so assume I need to be taking it late on. A friend who took aspirin for blood clotting issues was told to only stop taking it a day or two before her c-sec.

I am seeing MW on friday so will ask her then - and consultant (or reg !) in two weeks so will ask again then !

I seem to have developed night time excessive vomitting. My morning sickness seems to have just about stopped but now I have a few incidences (and twice in the last few days) where I've either woken up in the night for a violent vommiting session or before I've gone to bed. Am assuming stomach doesn't have much room for food but will check it with MW on friday.

Thanks herb, I think that's the thing - you know in your heart it's great to pass the 12wk milestone but I still can't get the niggling 'don't get too hopeful' out of my head. I think I'm just having a bad day/week. Have got an upset tummy again - think it might be a side effect of the heartburn medicine so am tired and feeling sorry for myself. Missing my DH too who has the ability to be sickeningly positive and says it'll be fine on an hourly basis!

We can try and act 'normal' together!

Hiya ladies, hope all is well with you. Just popping in for my MN fix for the week

Have just got back from ANC and am booked in for cs on 16.02. Woo hoo!! Bag is packed and I am more than ready to go right now!

PGP/SPD (whatever you want to call it, it still bloody hurts like hell!)really bad some days and the lovely PUPPP that I had with ds has made return visit. Am generally a pretty laid back and pleasant person, but have been a right old moo these last couple of weeks as really not sleeping very well. Managed to write half of an essay in the middle of the other night whilst mainlining gaviscon and horlicks.

I feel a bit guilty moaning about these kinds of things on here, but I figure we're here to get each other through the good, the bad and the ugly itchy rashes.

Also have just under 3 weeks to complete 3 uni assignments (may ask for extension for last one though). Very difficult to concentrate on studies when all I really want to do is clean the entire house, scratch my belly off, eat my own body weight in minty chocolate and sniff ds's new wellies all the time! Yes, weird type of craving going on there!

So, Valz - twins - well done there!

dbno - hope the inlaws are behaving themselves and that the lo makes an appearance sooner rather than later . Keep us posted if you can

Dan - ring your tutor. Probably best to do it before you go into labour! How are the hb plans coming along? Sounds like you had a lovely weekend. Don't worry about social life post-natally - you'll be too knackered for a while. Plus babies are pretty portable and resilient wee things. Its just the ten tonnes of crap that we as mothers insist they MUST have carried around with them that is the pain in the butt. Hope all goes well for you

Sparky - on the bizarre hair front, all the hairs on my arms (not that I am a missing link or anything) have fallen out. The same thing happened when I has ds. Wish it would happen in those hard to reach places too (sigh)

Congratulations to ashleighbee, 4ever and welcome back to lizzie. I hope that you all have a long and peaceful stay with us.

VM, Sifuentes & deany - so sorry to hear about your losses. Please take as much time as you need to look after yourselves and hope to see you back here soon with some better news.

Fozzie - hope everything has settled down now.

conrflake - am doing BA Librarianship and it involves all weird kinds of management modules. One assignment is on LMS selection models and have to appraise 2 systems and choose one to implement (yawn). Another assignment is for HFRM - have to do costings for a student drop in pc lab to explain costings, cost behaviours etc to dept head (aaarghh). Librarianship is not all about stamping books and wearing cardigans (though I do have some nice cardies!) Am also still struggling with trying to get the project management module done with only two out of a team of five actually doing anything. Bloody stoodents!!

mumface - sorry to hear about all your problems - I hope soon to be ex-h comes through on his promises of support for you. As for CS and mobility issues, I had em. cs with ds and recovered far more quickly than some of my friends who had vb's, so you never can tell. Hope the consultant appt goes ok.

Ok, mammoth moan and catch up over. I'm off to stock up on coffee and biccies and get some work done before I get pampered at the hairdressers this afternoon.

dan & dbno - I want to see some babies by the time I come back next week!!!!

Take care everyone

wheely cross post.

I think the return of nausea at night might be related to space / heartburn. I've also found I'm back to needing to eat little and regularly again after a few weeks respite.

Thanks for the aspirin info, can you let me know what your MW and consultant say? I get the impression mine don't agree with me taking it in the first place but as this is the only success in 4 pgs I kind of feel it is helping.

Will do Scotlass. I shouldn't worry too much though - so many people seem to take low dose aspirin in pregnancy there can't be too much risk (especially in this day and age where you can't take anything...). I will defo ask though (providing my preggohead allows me to remember).

Also meant to say that I think the not relaxing is something which will be with us all until the little ones are safely here. I still feel anxious at almost 34 weeks. Even though my baby could happily be born and be fine there's still that thought in the back of my mind that something could still go wrong. Every twinge, symptom etc is something to worry about.

Hi scotlass and herby - good to "see" you guys. Entirely normal to feel emotional, paranoid, worried.....just about any kind of feeling is normal on this roller coaster ride! Just take one day at a time and get things out in the open - keeping it inside it not healthy. Pregnancy should come with a good stock of kleenex, chocolate and curry!

See, the problem with only coming on here once a week (apart from secret lurks, but ssshhh......don't tell dan) is that I take so bloody long writing a post that everyone has posted new stuff by the time I get it finished.

Hi 4ever it's good to see you on here.

A general question to all of you, when does a midwife get intouch, or do I need to phone them. I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow, and I'm sure they rang me at 8 weeks the first time, but I was mc.

VJay - you generally make an appointment with them at your local health centre, then they will refer you to the local hospital for booking in. When that happens depends on your local NHS trust - usually between 10-15 weeks. You should be due a scan pretty soon, so I'd get on to them if I were you. Good luck!

villagemum have only just seen your news. i'm so so sorry. Please take care of yourself.