Not read anything else but big YAY for Ermintrude.
My first name was my birth name (very plain and boring)
My second name was my adoptive name (horrid surname)
Then i met exh and we decided to get married. I was 20 in the May and got married in the June so we are talking young! My ex's surname is one letter different from being another phrase for a blowjob.
I decided I was not havign that name.
My mum cried, told me I was bringing shame onthe family (!!), he wasn't happy, and I had so much pressure put on (a very young ) me.
I capitulated and changed my name.
So got my third name.
When I met and married dh, he had a normal surname, I wasn't going back to my less horrid name and I changed my name for ex so I thought it would look very bad (and I would have felt bad) not to change it for dh.
so - I am now on my fourth name!!
I tell dd regularly that she has not to change her name for a man but seeign that she has a name that is one letter away from a blowjob she can't wait to be shut of it
My wedding was lovely, but I had so many rows with my mum over the way things 'should' be done rather than the way we were doing them.