Sex in pregnancy (18wks) - not enjoying it :-(

[FlirtyThirty]

Ok...so the background is that I had bad morning sickness and couldn't contemplate have sex with my lovely DH - I just wanted to curl up and sleep. He was great about it -and never said anything to make me feel bad...though I did anyway.

So, I've started to feel better over the last 2 weeks and last night finally did the deed after about 8wks of just cuddling.

Anyway...I'm almost ashamed to say it but I really didn't enjoy it. I was relaxed (or so I though) when we started but everything just felt very tight and sore. DH was trying to be gentle, but I spent the whole time just trying to forget about the pain. I think more lubrication would certainly help, but I'm worried that it will go on being like this.

Is anyone else having problems or, even better, had them and now they are better!?

It sounds like subconsciously you're still not ready. Take little steps, have a bath together, enjoy each other. Agree beforehand there's to be nookie but no penetration. If there's no pressure on you, you're more likely to be able to relax and enjoy yourselves.
Talk to DH. Tel him it's a bit sore, I'm sure he'll understand.

I go RIGHT off sex during pregnancy. Always have - apart from the sickness for the first five months - I just don't want it. For me I can't relax, and er...embarrassingly, I feel like I'm doing it with a child in the room, which I know is ridiculous. I can't explain it. I also don't feel sexy at all with a bump so it really takes a back seat. I do miss it and I feel bad for DH, but well, that's just the way it goes. This is my third and I've been the same every time. Maybe you'll feel better as time goes on, but don't be surprised if you don't as lots of MNetters have reported the same.