Nuchal scan shows one in 3 risk - feeling sad and stunned.

[Mandy73]

With utmost respect and admiration for all parents of children with DS, DH and I both grew up with younger relatives with severe SN, and although we know there are no guarantees in life as well as many fantastic families affected by DS, we were always going ahead with screening.

Had the nuchal this evening (12+4) and it's all very sad, confusing and conflicting news. One in three risk of DS and a one in 36 of Edwards. My bloods (w 9) were crazy bad (Dr said she expected a MC when she first saw the data). The neck measurement is 2,7 but weirdly the bad blood value does not indicate DS, more like Edwards, which I understand is a more severe chromosome abnormality. The baby is big and long, which could explain the bigger neck, and the fingers perfect, which speaks against Edwards. I'm 35 and this is #1. Being fast tracked for placenta biopsy - spending tomorrow at hospital hankering for a free slot - and would really appreciate to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation.

The baby was v wriggly and beautiful, heartbeat normal.

Thank you so much. x

I know, I think I said earlier in the thread that I just wanted to go to sleep and wake up when it was all over. You are nearly half way there. I hope you can stay positive xxx

Mandy, we are thinking of you down here in Bristol.

I have my OSCAR scan tomorrow so know how you feel with the nerves and the waiting - and have just found out the hospital's blood test machine has broken down so we won't get our result straight away!

Hope you're managing to get through the days ok - I know you said you had all the info you needed, but ARC will also just talk to you if you need it, so do call them if you need to let it all out somewhere.

Hiya Mandy im sorry your going through this,
My daughter was born with Patous synrome which is trisomy 13 very much put in the same cat as edwards, My daughter wa born at 35 weeks and we were told no chance she lived 22 Months, And her condition wasnt picked up at all, I also no a mum who was told her son had downs and she had all the tests and her little boy was ok no problems a all. I truely hope things turn out in your favour, xxxxxxxxx

Thanks for the kind words and thoughts.
Yes mrslurkalot I do remember what you said about just wantingto sleep through it - how very true.
LittleMyDancing best of luck with your OSCAR scan (must google that now).
Kat172 sorry to hear about what you've been through. Did you have an aminocentesis with your daughter? How is she now?
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Thinking of you xxx

Thank you cupsoftea, I really appreciate that.

I'm OK today really. There are so many people who have it worse.
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Hi mandy, just caught your thread again on 'last 15 mins' sorry to hear your having to wait. I think i would feel as if it was making the whole thing bigger and bigger. Not that it isn't normally but with so much time to think!
Hope you are managing to get on with stuff. love.

Thank you pushchair. Yup, this kind of wait I wouldn't wish upon anyone.
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Mandy73 Fingers crossed for you from me. The waiting is just terrible.

Mandy - came to find you here. I hope you're okay - dumb question eh?! Just wanted to send love and best wishes!!

BSL x

Thanks everyone.

One more week to go now. Just trying to hold it together really.

Hanging around on MN is both a blessing and a curse; it's very comforting and I really appreciate all the kind words and shared stories. But it also makes it harder not to think about all this. And if I thought about this all the time I'd be (even more) crazy by now.

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I know what you mean Mandy - it's a distraction, but ultimately it all reminds you of what you're facing, and there's nothing people can really say that makes you feel any better!

We are still wishing you all the luck in the world, it can and does come good in these situations.

Thinking of you x

Hiya Mandy my daughter condition was un detected so thought everythin was ok until she was born, they diagnosed her a hour after birth. Sadly she couldnt fight any longer and lost her battle in March at 22 months but she proved everyone wrong

Just to say still thinking of you - I was so lucky in that I only had to wait a week from scan to getting test results but I know what hell it can be. Just keep busy - I too found Mumsnet a great comfort and even ventured into topics I don't normally go near (politics!!) just to keep busy. I found loads of boring jobs that I had been putting off and did those all in the name of keeping busy. Also treated myself to things I don't normally eat (ok I stuffed my face with a good old fashioned chip supper one night!!). Just imersing myself in other aspects of my life I suppose. Keep going and thinking of you -all the best.

Hi Mandy73, Have been thinking of you. How are you feeling?

Hope you're ok - the waiting is hard. I just did loads of jobs - like pelvicfloor writes - lots of washing & ironing. Read lots of mags. Look after yourself xxx

Kat172 thenk you for sharing. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter.

pelvicflawed you are absolutely right. We have been trying to treat ourselves, watch a lot of fun crap on telly, been blitzing the house, working long hours etc. Thank you for thinking of me.

mrslurkalot thank you. Doing OK.

cupsoftea thank you. Yup, spot on. Only problem is I don't know who anyone is in Heat Magazine any more.

Right, 15+1 and tomorrow is D day (amnio). Should know results from FISH (?) by Wed. MW said they normally call between 3 - 4pm.
Just want this over with. Both DH and have been having lots of nightmares lately but we'll be fine. Thank you for caring everyone, it means so much.
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Hi Mandy - just wanted to say good luck for tomorrow and a big hand holding hug!

Thinking of you this week, all the very best of luck.

Thanks girls you are so lovely.

Good luck for the amnio and the week ahead xxx

Good luck x and positive vibes x

Good luck, Mandy xx

Hi Mandy - have been following your thread. Wishing you all the very very best for this week x