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How many weeks were you when you told people you were pregnant?

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Reesie · 18/08/2008 10:19

I'm only very early pregnant (5 weeks) with no 2 and planned to leave it a little while before telling people. However - despite only knowing for a few days - I'll have to tell work as I work with certain chemicals that I'll have to avoid in the first trimester.

Also - my best friend has just booked her wedding for 2 weeks after my due date - in Spain. Also - I go running 3 times a week for an hour session with a friend and we push ourselves a lot during the session and I don't feel comfortable doing it now my little embryo is trying to implant in there!!

I;m not sure about telling people this early - how late or early did you tell people?

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SlartyBartFast · 18/08/2008 10:20

i think those reasons you have given some reasonble to me.
can you not go to her wedding?
and work, will you have to be moved?

thisisyesterday · 18/08/2008 10:25

I told 2 good friends as soon as I tested and everyone else around 12 weeks.

there is no reason why you can't wait to reply to wedding invite IMO. just don't say anything yet if ytou don't want to.

you can feign illness to get out of running for a while if you want to as well(in face may not even have to pretend lol)

don't tell people if you don't want to. it's your perogative.

youcannotbeserious · 18/08/2008 10:30

I didn't tell people until I was around 25 weeks...

I even went skiing at 5months PG....

Tell people when you are ready... but don't do anything you aren't comfortable with like running. Sprained ankle should be able to get you out of that!

youcannotbeserious · 18/08/2008 10:33

If I were you, though, I would (very confidentially) tell your best friend....

She's your best mate, and you aren't going to be at her wedding most probably... So, it would sort of be appropriate for you to share this with her...

And you should think about getting a webcam set up so you can see her and she can see your LO.

I missed my BF's wedding in Greece and I really regret it....

HolidaysQueen · 18/08/2008 10:46

I think it is important that you tell work. You don't have to tell your manager if you think that would be awkward - you can tell HR. But they have a legal duty to protect you and your baby by changing your working conditions - not being exposed to chemicals etc. - so you must tell them.

I wouldn't tell your best friend until you would normally have done anyway. Whether you tell her now or tell her in a few weeks, you probably won't be able to attend her wedding and if it isn't critical that she knows now for numbers etc. then I would just tell her when you would have done if there was no wedding to consider.

FWIW, we told parents and siblings, plus two of my best friends (for girlie support) and my boss, then nobody else until after our scan.

hf128219 · 18/08/2008 10:47

20 weeks.

HolidaysQueen · 18/08/2008 10:48

Oh, I meant to say if you tell your manager/HR that you are pregnant that doesn't mean it will become common knowledge unless you want it to. They should move you away from the chemicals you normally work with, but they don't need to explain that decision to any other workers. So if you want it to remain confidential apart from the few people who need to know then that should be okay.

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Reesie · 18/08/2008 10:48

I am going to tell work - that's not a problem. It's just that I wanted to tell my mum first before anyone else and I didn't want to get her disappointed if I miscarried.

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Reesie · 18/08/2008 10:49

Also - part of me wants to tell everyone now as I am really excited!!!

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SlartyBartFast · 18/08/2008 10:50

congratulations

lauraloola · 18/08/2008 11:16

I told my parents, 2 very close friends and my boss when I was 7 weeks. Everyone else after the 12 week scan.

Defo tell your boss as they will have to do a risk assessment on your job and then re adjust what you do if necessary.

Congratulations

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lauraloola · 18/08/2008 11:30

I did a lot of lying in early pregnancy - My lies included 'I cant drink Im on antibiotics for my wisdom tooth', 'I have quit smoking as I cant afford it anymore' etc etc

Maybe tell your friend you have an ankle/thigh/groin injury and cant go running for 7 weeks?

Millie26 · 18/08/2008 12:44

I'm 9 weeks and we told some people at 6 weeks because we were about to go on hols with some friends and we knew we'd have to tell them because I was being sick all the time and also wouldn't have been able to drink so the girls at least would have guessed.

We wanted to tell our parents first though, so we ended up telling them, then siblings, then friends at the airport.

I didnt want to tell my mum because I miscarreid at 5.5 weeks last year before I had told her and I was really glad I hadnt got her invovled, but now it's further on I would really want the support if anything happened so I'm glad she knows.

DH's mum came round last night and had bought little bootees though - she's far too excited for my liking, I almost feel guilty. I can't relax totally until 12 week scan but in a way his parents being SO super confident have made me feel much better.

So anyway, in answer to your question, I would def tell your best friend, she will want to know whatever happens, and have a week or two off the running.

zoejeanne · 18/08/2008 13:40

We didn't tell anyone until a couple of days before the 12 week scan, but then I don't have a risky job. I'd definitely tell work if I were you. We enjoyed having our little secret, but I did make odd excuses at times - could you suggest trying a different exercise (swimming is fine for you for example), saying you fancy something different?

And congraulations

sleeplessinseatle · 18/08/2008 15:13

Reese
If you would want your mums support if you miscarried, you might as well tell her now. she will be chuffed x

London08 · 06/09/2008 10:17

Am 7 weeks today and was going to tell my mom today and just decided not to! If something went wrong I don't want her to be too.
It would make her day but It will make her day in 5 weeks time if all goes well.
Now, do I wait until after the scan? What if the appt only comes at 14 weeks? I can't wait until then!!!

Forensica · 06/09/2008 13:26

16 weeks

tinkhasanactivebean · 06/09/2008 13:46

i told my parents and close friends @ 4wks which is when i found out and then other people @ 7 wks

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 06/09/2008 13:48

12 weeks after the scan
parents when we found out.

beansmum · 06/09/2008 13:51

I told my best friend and my flatmate as soon as I knew for certain, I told ds's dad the week after that and my parents at about 13 weeks. I suppose I told people I would have told anyway if anything had gone wrong.

LongDroopyBoobyLady · 06/09/2008 13:57

As soon as I knew - about 6 weeks.

saramoon · 06/09/2008 14:05

5 weeks - I was so sick I couldn't have NOT told people! Had I not felt so shite though I would have waited til 12 week scan.

nooka · 06/09/2008 14:16

My mother always said not to tell anyone until after 14 weeks. She had several miscarriages. So for pregnancy one that's what we did. For pregnancy two we were living at my parents when we found out (our kitchen was being done). At about four week (maybe even less) I was feeling really ill, and so told my mother that I was pregnant. My aunt came to visit my mother a day or so later, and she told her! I was most surprised. I thin it depends whether, should you miscarry you would tell people/want their support or if you would rather it was private. If the latter then waiting until you are relatively "safe" is a good idea. If not, then you can tell whoever you want whenever you want.