how old was your child before you had another?

[babylove21]

I had 18months between mine. But recently had a scare and my baby is only still a baby!
But i guess it must happen to some people, do they go ahead and how do they cope?

4 years almost to the day between DD1 & DD2
21 months almost to the day between DD2 & DD3.

There were sisters at my school who were in the same year at school, they have 10 months between them!

Precision timing here - I have the same due date this time as last... so exactly 2 years apart... looking forward to shared birthday parties!

there is a netter who has children sharing the same birthday a few years apart

tc, i have a relative who has boys in the same year with the same age gap, then another a year younger

Sallystraberry - didn you see barnsely post? Am keen to see how you handle it too as 8 year gap here and the summer hols are becoming a nightmare. My 7 month old is a fussy feeder atm with tething etc and by ds1 (8) obviously wants to do loads of stuff. Finding it very tough

Just over 16months between mine, and they are a very funny pair. Number three wil arrive when my youngest is just over two. It's all working out fine so far.

18 months between DD1 and DD2
2 1/2 years between DD2 and DD3

so 4 years - 5 days between DD1 and DD3 actually planned them closer together but has a mc inbetween DD2 and DD3.

Am thinking about number 4 now

DS was 5.10 when DD was born. We didn't want such a big age gap between them, we started trying for a second DC when DS was 6 months, and it just happened to take that long to get DD!

I have 4 children and the gaps are:

2 and a half years between DD1 and DS
21 months between DS and DD2
18 months between DD2 and DD3

It is hard but you just deal with it and I don't really think about it - it looks worse than it is when you write it down like that!

My DD was 4.3 when DS was born exactly the same gap as my sister and I and she's my best mate. It was nice to have DD at school so I could enjoy time with DS. My friend has just 8 months 2 weeks between hers due to baby 2 being prem, they're in the same class at school! She feels mean now coz the oldest was out the pram at one and out of nappies at 14 months, she says he was never a baby.

My DD was 2yrs 8 mths when DS arrived. We think it's a nice gap. I have a brother 21mths younger than me- we are close but fight and make up all the time. My sister is 10yrs younger than me (Happy accident apparently). We don't fight but aren't close either as I left home when she was 6. I feel more like her Auntie than her big sis. Just thought I'd throw that into the mix .

2yrs, 1 month and 1 day between Dd1 and DD2
6 days short of 3yrs between Dd2 and Ds

I found the bigger gap eaiser, but Ds was such an easy baby that I would of loved another within a year of having him, but didn't for various reasons.

My youngest is 5 now so it would be a big gap if I had another.

14 months
It's been very very hard.

Ideal gap? I go with the 18 year plan in my next life!!!!

21 months (planned)between DD and DS (who is 3 weeks old) and so far it is a nightmare!!! Mind you DD got chickenpox just after I got out of hospital so might have been not too bad otherwise

14 months. Not easy peasy but can't imagine having two ever is. dc2 was an accident but i'm glad they are so close in age and within a few months they will be not dissimilar in terms of needs.

i'd do the same again (i'd love another) but probably best to wait until eldest is 3 or childcare costs will cripple me and i'm not having a triple buggy!

i think it depends a lot how well you got the existing ones under control - my first is boisterous but we have a good routine and i can fit the second one around him quite easily. it would be a lot harder if he was harder to manage.

17 months between mine
the first year was really hard esp when they were both in nappies and then we moved house which I found really difficult to cope with.
However, now they are 2 and 3 and it is absolutely FANTASTIC! They are great mates, play together and entertain each other all day long and are into the same things. Yes they fight a bit too, but all siblings do whatever the age gap.
I would heartily recommend it
claire x

I am 10 yrs older than my sister, we get on well and I loved it at the time but I had to take on too much responsibility when she was born (planned but I think my mum wouldn't recommend it in retrospect).

I think my sister felt quite lonely once my brother (2 yrs younger than me) and I left home so with a really big gap it might be better to have two more!

Am aiming for a 3 year gap (ds 1 now and am too tired to consider pregnancy let alone tiny baby) and sticking with two but might find that baby lust hard to resist in a few years .

MY SON 10 WEEK AND WE TRYING FOR NEXT, I LOST MY FIRST BABY TO MISCARRIGE

When i give birth this Oct, dd1 will just have turned one... Yes, it was a huge surprise when i found out i was preg and i have to say i did shed a tear - mostly because i wanted to spend more time with dd1 if you know what i mean.

Saw that we are having a boy at the 20 week scan and my dh is sooooo excited! It's made me even more apprehensive as going into unchartered territory... Ha ha!

I have massive panic attacks one minute and am completely elated the next. Then again, that's prob down to preg hormones.

And it is about finances too - especially in the current economic climate. And it shouldn't be!

Any top-tips for, say, bedtime routines etc??? Please?!

Ellensmelons, Congratulations!

I felt huge panic about the arrival of dd2 (14 months difference), but when she arrived it was like she had always been here, I can honestly say the first time I cuddled her and her sister together I thought my heart would explode I felt so much love.

It's true you might not be able to spend quite as much time solely on your dd, but just think of the lovely brother you are giving her. My dd's play together, entertain each other, and I think learn loads from each other (oh and beat each other up of course!).

If you want tips, hmm not sure I'm the best person, how about 'Accept the Chaos!'

Oh and I don't know how to link to another thread, but if you go to Parenting, and look for 'The all new 2 under 3 thread' there are lots of us with lo's with a close gap. It's a good place to whinge and panic!

Thanks hazeyjane! Will have a look at thread. Not sure if reading stuff like this makes me feel better or worse tho! Sometimes, i think i'd rather not know.