Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

1 2 3 4

Original poster

how old was your child before you had another?

97 replies

babylove21 · 02/08/2008 21:43

I had 18months between mine. But recently had a scare and my baby is only still a baby!
But i guess it must happen to some people, do they go ahead and how do they cope?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

orangehead · 03/08/2008 10:25

16 months, wasnt planned that. I had said I wanted a 3-4 yr gap

SpookyMadMummy · 03/08/2008 10:46

There is a 2.5 year gap between Dd1 and Dd2. When DC3 arrives Dd1 will be 7 and Dd2 will be nearly 5

Pinkchampagne · 03/08/2008 10:48

3.5 years between my two

DisenchantedPlusBump · 03/08/2008 10:49

18 months between DS1 and DS2

and 30 months between DS2 and DD1.

DS1 will be just 4 when Dc3 arrives.

reban · 03/08/2008 13:05

4 years 9 months between dd1 and ds1
14 months between ds1 and ds2.
there will be 2 yrs 8 months between ds2 and dc4 when this lo arrives in december so that will be three in less than four years. Strangely there is a bigger gap between dc1 snd dc2 then there will be between dc2 and dc4!
As far as im concerned all gaps are hard for different reasons and at different stages, but they are all just right as well

MrsMattie · 03/08/2008 13:34

My son will be 3 yrs and 8 months old when our second baby arrives. There are only 16 months between me and my sister; 14 months between my DH and his brother; and I have a friend with a 13 month gap between no.1 and no.2 and an 11 month gap between no.2 and no.3!

mumfor1standmaybe2ndtime · 03/08/2008 13:37

Ds will be 4 when dc2 arrives. Didn't really plan it that way, and tbh didn't think about age gaps.

hatrick · 03/08/2008 13:43

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

ilovemydog · 03/08/2008 14:12

hatrick - happy birthday to DS! Wow - am knackered just thinking about your household!

PetitFilou1 · 03/08/2008 17:01

19 months and then this gap will be 3 years (wasn't going to repeat the 19 months thing again in a hurry!)

Original poster

babylove21 · 03/08/2008 17:55

great reading your replies. I had just 18 months between my first two the 17yrs before number 3 came along!
do you think when age gaps are small the older child misses out on attention or just time able to spend with them - well obviously, but i mean do you think this affects them in the way they behave or grow up?
My now grown up 2 have just 18months between them but are not close. they care about one another when it matters but thats all. I often felt my eldest resented her younger brother and was always competing for attention. Is this normal. or was i doing something wrong. I was a very young mum at the time just 19 when i had my second.

OP posts:

mummyov2 · 04/08/2008 05:42

my son was 14months when my daughter was born.. i got ALOT of comments from friends/family about getting pregnant again so quickly etc. Always planned to have them close together..well maybe not that close but nature took its course quicker than we thought but its turned out the best thing .. they are 3 and 4 now and are best of friends so they are never lonely etc.

JentlyDoesIt · 04/08/2008 08:21

DS was 17 and a half months when DD arrived. Not planned that way but DS took 2 years to conceive and we didn't want a huge gp so we started ttc when he was 6 months old... first month of trying, along comes DD...

It's hard but I'm hoping that they'll be really close when they're older.

barnsleybelle · 04/08/2008 08:52

Ds is 6 and dd 11 months. I wanted a smaller gap but multiple miscarriages meant she took a while to get!

On one hand its easy the big gap cos ds is at school so i get a lot quality time with dd alone and ds is also old enough to do most things himself.. washing/dressing etc which makes life easier for me.

On the other hand ds has found it hard to adjust as he had longer on his own with us. Plus, the age gap means they will probably always want to do different things.

sarah293 · 04/08/2008 08:55

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

hazeyjane · 04/08/2008 09:03

I think ( and hope! ) it is more down to personality than age gap. There is 5 years between my sister and I and we have always got on really well,even when we were little, and even shared a flat for a while. There is 18 months between my dh and his brother and they also get on brilliantly (I've worked this out very scientifically, as you can tell)

I have a 14 month gap between my dd's (took 7 years to conceive dd1, so was fairly amazed - and delighted, when I found out I was pregnant with dd2.)

It has been pretty hard work, but getting easier, and it is lovely to watch them rolling around on the floor like a couple of bear cubs (then the screaming begins.....)

FoghornLeghorn · 04/08/2008 09:11

2 yrs 4 months between DD1 and DD2, 21 months between DD2 and DC3

oopsiedoopsie · 04/08/2008 09:47

15 months between DD1 and DD2, planned, kinda, to get it all out of the way

gladders · 04/08/2008 10:27

22 months between our ds and dd - I was so broody i couldn't last the planned 3 years!

Was v hard work to start with but fine now that they're 4 and 2 - play together quite nicely.

Had a scare when dd was a few months old and I did panic. But we would have coped somehow?

mslucy · 04/08/2008 10:45

there will be 3 years and 9 months between ds and no2.

I think it will be fine and in some ways good - ds at school nursery, more independent etc etc. We can also explain stuff to him and he seems very excited by the thought that there's a baby in mummy's tummy.

If it had been up to me, I would have had no 2 about 2 years ago, but my body was having none of it!

sherbetdipdab · 04/08/2008 10:48

There will be 13 months between my two when I have my c-section in 3 weeks.....I'm really apprehensive about it

Seeline · 04/08/2008 10:50

2.8 between DS and DD. Are we talking whats best for parents or for DC? Or is it the same thing??

OurHamsterisevil · 04/08/2008 10:56

Ds1 was 4.1 when DS2 was born. We were hoping for a 3 year gap, but it wasn't to be. I like ourgap, but if I have another I won't wait as long.

DancingMamaWithBabes · 04/08/2008 11:02

Due to our circumstances we left it sometime before thinking about number2 and then when we thought about it, it happened quickly but nearly 5 yrs gap between them! I love the gap as I think I would be really crap with any gap smaller than 3 yrs

Bronze · 04/08/2008 11:08

20 months each time.

Flip

1 2 3 4

Swipe left for the next trending thread