10 years between pregnancy’s - am I mad!

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Completely unplanned and unexpected- my children are 9&10, I have the implant but hadn’t realised it was expired - I’ve just found out I’m 8 weeks pregnant and I’m stupidly excited but also a little bit worried! It’s been such a long time and I didn’t ever see our family past the 2 children we have but it feels like an opportunity to experience things differently - when I had my children I was young, I had a shift job in a supermarket, lived with his parents and my partner and I had only been together 4 months when I fell pregnant with my eldest - now we are stable in a beautiful home with more financial security and careers (not well off but not like we were) I’m older and more confident in myself - my biggest worry is one of my children might have to share a room - we’re looking at dividing up our own room so it won’t affect the children but is there anything else we should be considering? How have people found having a 10 year age gap between children?! How much has changed in the last 10 years - are there any amazing new bits of kit that are life changing - any brutal honest truths about starting again! We haven’t told anyone yet - but I know my mum won’t understand why I would want another one but the gods honest truth is I love being a mum - my children aren’t easy one has adhd - but they are the most amazing people and they are both a complete blessing and I’m stupidly excited!

I'm a FTM myself following a long battle with loss and IVF so I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say a massive congratulations! It is so lovely to hear of a baby so wanted ❤️

Congratulations 🙌🏻

but it is a big age gap I have a dd who has half brothers with a 10 year age gap and honestly it’s a divide and conquer situation. There is very little they enjoy doing together at the moment due to the age gap. Teenagers don’t want to go to the park, soft play, etc etc and she doesn’t want to just chill at home or go play sports. So I’d take that into consideration- but you also sound like your life is much more content now so maybe it’s just the perfect addition to your family

All the best

Oh bless you - that must have been tough ❤️ very much so! I just worry about the children I already have but on the other hand I think it could be great for all of us, they are a blessing (I try to remind myself
of that when my 10 year old gives attitude like she pays rent! 😂) you have all that to come!!

Not quite as much of a gap but our eldest two were 7 and 9 when ds3 was born. Currently 9, 16 and 18.

It's definitely more of a juggle...needing to find activities that suit all etc. But overall it's worked really well for us. And the cost of teenagers has made me VERY glad we have a few years respite before ds3 hits the same ages.

One thing to be aware of is that this set up means a semi only-child experience for dc3...and I found that quite different. With the oldest two, I honestly found parenting them easier - I had far more down time than with dc3. They would disappear off upstairs together to play lego. At softplay they'd be gone for 2 hours without me being needed. On holiday, a constant friend.

With ds3, his brothers do spend time with him, kicking a ball around, teaching him how to build things on Minecraft etc - but it's not a relationship of peers and number 3 won't have the constant companion the first two did. But overall, still the best thing we did.

Congratulations op.