Hi,
I guess I’ve come here for some advice/ experience from other mums.
for context I am 38yrs old I have 1 son aged 11yrs and 1 aged 5yrs- both in school.
I fell pregnant in May this year and made the decision to terminate as I felt it was the wrong time for me and my family with an imminent relocation/ house move, obviously not an easy decision.
fast forward to now we have found out I’m pregnant again ( failed contraception) and this time my heads all over the place with what to do whereas before I was certain.
my concerns are mostly financial can I afford the additional stress of a 3rd child, but also am I too old to be starting the baby process again? I’m just getting my life back somewhat now my youngest attends school and I’ve recently moved counties/ jobs to a full time position.
my partner is very much on the no we can’t continue camp but he understands how traumatic the last termination was for me.
i guess perhaps I have a maternal biological clock pull where I fear I’ll regret another termination/ chance to have a baby before my 40’s but then equally I worry about the financial burden, the conflict it may cause in my relationship and how my other children will adjust?
would love to hear stories of others having an unexpected 3rd child and how life is now…