3rd Pregnancy scared PND

[Lexyalex]

I’ve just discovered I am pregnant with my third child, very much planned and we are excited. Have DD 10 & DD 4 I’m 36. I had really severe PND & PPA with my second daughter. I was on medication for a period of time and it did subside after around 18 months. My question, I suppose, is what are people’s experience with this. I’m now worried sick of feeling like that again. I actually find it terrifying feeling like that again. It was something we considered whilst trying and I thought I was okay but now it’s happening I am really frightened of feeling that way again.

I’m really sorry and think it’s completely understandable you’re worried. How far along are you? Can you mention it to your midwife and see what they can put in place as extra support?

Were there any factors with your last baby that you think may have triggered it compared to your first baby? How did the support you had and sleep compare?

I asked my obstetrician as I was worried about PND as I had really frightening thoughts after my miscarriage (I’m 24 weeks tomorrow with my first). He said the best protection is to ensure you have adequate support and have someone who can share the night cover with after birth / making sure you have enough sleep. My therapist said the same thing, lack of sleep and lack of support are the biggest risk factors. Is there anything you can do now to try to get support in place - family or increased childcare for your other DDs.

Also both my obstetrician and my therapist said another thing, that usually it catches people unawares and the fact I was actively thinking about it was a positive sign too. Hopefully the same for you too xx

Thank you ❤️. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I have a really good support system, amazing parents and extended family and my husband too. I suppose I had ‘baby blues’ with my first which was put down to a traumatic birth. But the second was really extreme PND & PPA with feeling is self harm and it was borderline psychosis at times to be frank but this birth was fine.

I love my children dearly and I really want to enjoy the baby stage this time as it will be my last pregnancy/baby.

Definitely make sure your ante natal midwife and the midwife who delivers you know and also make contact with the Health Visitor after baby arrives. There are specialist support services for mums at risk.

I had awful PND after my second and was very well supported after the birth of my second and was absolutely fine. Speak up early if you feel yourself starting to slide.

Good luck with the pregnancy.