Anxiety AFTER positive viability scan

[happytobehere97]

Hello everyone!

Super happy to be able to be posting in this forum. Currently 8w 1d pregnant with our rainbow baby after an Ectopic in April. Had a private scan last week, Thursday at 7w 3d and was told I'm measuring exactly as I should be, HR 139, no worries or concerns from sonographer - so why am I still so anxious?! 😫
DP is thrilled and so excited, I however cannot get past the anxiety - always looking at tissue after going to the loo, symptom spotting the second I open my eyes and mind always in overdrive 😴
I'm due a midwife appointment in the next week or so where I know I will (hopefully) be reassured, but I'm just wondering if you lovely people had any tips for me to actually start enjoying pregnancy or if this is going to be my life for the next 7 months 🙄😒
Pic of little bean attached! 👶 Thank you!!

When I was pregnant there was so much spotting in the early weeks I convinced myself it couldn't possibly last and tried to resign myself to it. So when I finally got a scan at about ten weeks that showed baby still there I almost thought " oh, it'll be so awful if I lose it now"!!! So sometimes all the reassurance in the world doesn't help that much.

It took weeks for it to seem real. I remember being shocked looking in a mirror and seeing a bump.

I actually got a bit less anxious near the end - once past the point where baby had a chance of survival if born things seemed easier.

Worrying will never stop though, even when that baby is grown-up!

Totally get it! My anxiety was worse after my early scan I think because beforehand I’d told myself it probably hadn’t worked.

but seeing the baby there happy as anything with a heartbeat meant I felt I had more to lose (even though I know that’s not correct!)

All the stats about how likely early miscarriage is are for all women, including those that never have an early scan. Once you’ve seen a heartbeat the chance of success is much higher. Anyway that 7 week heartbeat has refused to be put down all day today 🤣

all the best

Congratulations! My children are now 14&18 but was in the same position as you where I’d had multiple pregnancies and the fear was awful. Some with my science (I’m a scientist) head in, if the pregnancy is all in place and going well, the heart is beating then you’re well on the way to a successful pregnancy. I remember asking my obstetrician when I can stop worrying, she said we’ll inhale a 16 year old and I’m worry f about GCSEs and if he gets into something awful like drugs, even though in have no indication, so you’ll never stop worrying … and she was right lol … but you get so much joy, so try to enjoy those joyous moments - good luck with a happy and hopefully uneventful, textbook pregnancy!

It doesn't get much better I'm afraid. If you're prone to anxiety you just find different things to worry about (leaking fluid, reduced movement etc) And when they're born, you worry if they get ill, are they eating enough, are they pooing enough, so I need to take them to hospital for this temp etc. Don't mean to be a downer but it's basically the worst part of parenting, the constant worry.

It's natural for the anxiety to rise as the hope rises.

Look into different ways to calm anxiety as you can make yourself feel much calmer.