Advice

[Honey6743]

Hi guys how do you keep yourselves sane from week 12 - to your next scan at 20 weeks? Im so worried if something goes or is wrong.

I think you have to try and assume it’s fine unless you have reason to think it’s not. The midwife should offer to listen to the heartbeat at your appointment around 16 weeks which helped me. You can’t change anything so try and keep occupied.

It's much less likely to go wrong at this stage, the odds drop a lot once a heartbeat is seen. So as far as you know, everything is fine. And there's nothing you can do either way to change it (assuming you're not smoking or drinking etc.!). So you just plod along, because the anxiety ramps up again once you are closer to the end and quick action could save your baby. Right now if it does wrong then it goes wrong, it's out of your hands.

Pay for an additional private scan (if that’s affordable- near me they start from around £50).

You just have to assume all is well if nothing suggests otherwise. I only had one scan in all my pregnancies, at 20 weeks. If the height of the uterus is increasing and there's no bleeding, I just assumed all was well.

Well what worries me is I had a yeast infection.. anyway tried to use the pessary couldn’t as it was really burning inside. But today I had a little pink streak in my discharge and now I’m panicking it’s my baby

But you have several reasons for why there might be a tiny bit of blood? You know that you're irritated and sore. That's an obvious cause, compared to your baby.

Your cervix is probably irritated. Call your doctor or midwife about the yeast infection. Your baby is protected in their little bubble. Bleeding isn't uncommon in pregnancy. I've had two pregnancies where I saw a little bleeding. Both babies were fine.

I had bleeding in both pregnancies, the babies were fine. Remember you can always go see your Dr or call the midwife unit if you are in a panic. Once you get to 17 weeks or so you can feel the baby moving and that really helps.

I also found distraction helped, particularly at night. I would listen to a familiar audio book or radio shows so I wasn't listening to my thoughts when going to sleep. The Unbelievable Truth is good, or the Off Menu podcast.