Pls help.

[MummaToDAndJx]

TRIGGER WARNING. Abortion & miscarriage mentioned…

Hello all.

Anyone who’s fallen pregnant and considered a abortion or who’s had one. What was your reasoning to have one, or if you didn’t what changed your mind?

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I have a 7 year old, 2 year old and 7 month old. 7 month old was born by emergency c section. I’m seriously stressed. The timing right now isn’t ideal. I have my driving test In a few weeks which I won’t be able to do due to hypermesis I get in every single pregnancy.

My 2 year old has just started nursery. I can’t bare the thought of another c section. I’m just terrified.

But I’ve had 8 previous miscarriages before my 2 youngest kids. Didn’t miscarry them because I have progesterone and aspirin throughout pregnancy.

The thought of an abortion is making me feel sick because of them losses. But I really don’t know what to do. My husband wants me to continue the pregnancy
We cancelled his vasectomy appointment for another baby in 2-3 years but it’s happened now…

Any advice is welcome. Thankyou.

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation, how far along are you? I would get to your GP and ask for a referral to an abortion clinic to help with counselling on the topic, they provide specific counselling to help you decide whether it’s the right decision for you. They aren’t trying to persuade you either way. It sounds like there are a lot of things to consider

For what it’s worth I has an abortion many years ago and had a miscarriage subsequently. I don’t regret my abortion but it wasn’t just about timing (totally wrong), but also the wrong man. I understand why it’s a lot harder though given you’re with your DH / the father of your DC. I would find it really hard now that I’m with my DH

a friend of mine did have an abortion early days into dating her now DH. 4 or 5 years later they went on to have two DC. I haven’t asked her her feelings about it

Ask your doctor also about VBAC - vaginal birth after C section. It can be possible sometimes

Wishing you strength to get through this and work out the right decision for you xxx