Just found out - don't know what to do

[rach971]

I've just found out I'm pregnant, total shock. I have an 11 year old and a 2.5 year old. I had an awful pregnancy with my youngest, I had heart issues that put me in a&e 5 times. I've also never felt right since I had her. I get lightheaded on and off which nothing has ever been found as the cause

I also have ADHD and autism and get incredibly overstimulated and overwhelmed with the kids already, never mind adding another one into the mix

My mum wouldn't cope helping out with childcare for a third, which would mean putting my youngest in nursery full time and then the baby in nursery full time once I went back to work.

My partner isn't my kids' dad and while he's fantastic with them and loves them, he'd also love a child that's biologically his

I just don't know what to do. I don't really want an abortion but I also don't know if I want another child. I'm terrified of health issues and my heart acting up again. I'm scared I won't cope with 3. Also don't want to upset him by not going through with it (he's said he'll support me either way).

Sorry for the brain dump. My mind is just all over the place 😭

Morning @rach971
I’d speak to your partner and have a really good chat to see how he feels and then you can speak to your GP - they will also be able to arrange counselling if you need this around worries relating to your health etc.

my first pregnancy was fine, my second was awful I was so sick the whole way thru and I was worried it would be the same with my third but the third although I was a bit older then was fine with no sickness at all - all pregnancies are different.

We were in shock with my 3rd (we were going to stop at 2!) but we’ve managed it somehow!