🎇 Due November 26 🎆

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Welcoming all those who have received their BFPs for a November bubba - congratulations to all!
I felt terrified as not really TTC #2 but thanks to support from the kind ladies of MN I’ve decided to embrace and be excited.

34, baby #2, probably keeping it a surprise(?!) mum to a 7yo DS, hoping only 1 in there as only 3 weeks today and heft symptoms already

Hi, do you know what DPO you were when you for your 2-3 weeks result?

I’m am not sure for dpo.

one app says I am 5 weeks today the other says 4wks and 6 days.

Evening all. So my hCGs from Thursday and today have come back. Thursday = 70 and today = 71 🤯
So either way it’s bad news, it’s now just waiting to see which outcome presents in the coming days: miscarriage or ectopic.
I have further hCG on Monday, hopefully it drops considerably and it will resolve itself.. if it continues to plateau it’ll look more like ectopic.
I will update you on Monday.

Hope everyone is getting on ok!

Oh @Sj2505 im so sorry. That must have been so hard to hear. And it's so difficult that there's still so much uncertainty. I really feel for you. Hopefully the next test gives a more reassuring drop so that no further investigations or interventions are necessary. I've had a suspected ectopic or PUL before, so if you have any questions about it, I'm happy to help where I can.

As for me, I took a test this morning to compare to Friday's to see what the direction of travel is looking like. I had this tiny hope that everything would be fine and I'd look back and laugh at myself for getting so upset and paranoid. 'This one's a fighter!' I'd have said.

But, the test looks a bit lighter. Not massively so. It's only been 48 hrs but I think it's enough for me to properly face the inevitable.

I'm still taking the progesterone (not sure why now!) but will probably try to speak to the fertility team or EPAU tomorrow.

It just wasn't meant to be for us.

Sorry tkk on hear this. It’s all just so bloody hard. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

😞😞😞😞 could it be the brand of test or something? Especially if it was onot a little lighter? Xxxx

Morning all, had to go and visit my dad yesterday up north so kept me off Google for a day! Feeling okay, no more bleeding since Friday but constant checking unbearable! The next two weeks are going to crawl by until the next scan. Keep looking up size of gestational sac, must have read the same info 100 times! Seems like I was literally .2 of a mm out so I really wish they hadn’t said anything about! Hope you’re all doing okay 😘😘😘

Thought I'd show you the tests. Looking at them now, I think it's actually fairly obvious.

Top test is from 4 days ago. Middle test is 2 days ago. Bottom test is this morning.

@Taysonic thank you, it’s just so hard when it drags. It’s clear the way it’s going so I just want it over with now. The constant spotting analysis and “miracle” googling is driving me mad.
Sorry about your tests! They do say not to think too much into test progression, but unfortunately in my experience it’s always given me the correct doubt, so I know how hard it is to “not think too much of it”. I had a missed miscarriage in 2023, and it was the same as this time - very drawn out and slow decline, multiple hCGs and scans. Take some peace in whatever you can. Do you have any upcoming appointments?

@Peachesthecatthank you. I hope you have a smoother journey from here, and a very successful scan in two weeks!

I despise the way it takes so long. Sometimes you just have a feeling and it’s hard to find reassurance from anywhere. The first trimester proves to be very difficult!

Sorry to hear things are difficult for you both at the moment @Sj2505 and @Taysonic
it’s an awful limbo to be in. Sending hugs X

@PepperPot88@CrazyKJ thank you both x

Ive been away with friends this weekend so just catching up with messages. Trying to convincingly say I don’t want Prosecco was a challenge!

Sorry to read some of the messages ❤️ this stage is just so tough.

I still feel anxious too. I’m desperate to get to 8 weeks as in my head that’s a decent milestone (anyone else setting mini goals?!)

I’m also putting off registering it with the NHS in case it’s tempting fate 😩

@Sarah268 me too!
although I have a scan at 7 weeks 5 days at the ivf clinic then I can ‘graduate’.

Im hoping they tell me what to do because I’m a bit confused. It seems silly to have to register or ring somewhere when surely the ivf clinic is within the same hospital that I would like my maternity care.

No idea what I’m doing.

@Taysonic I'm guessing you've accounted for differences in hydration etc? I'm so sorry if this is going the way you feel it is 😔 please keep us posted, thinking of you ❤️

I was thinking the same. The difference is so slight xxxx

Hello ladies

I’m tentatively joining the thread after getting a very faint line at 10dpo. It’s our first month ttc after I gave birth at almost 22 weeks in December and sadly my little boy passed away. I also have a 2.5 year old and I’m really hoping this will be our rainbow baby! If it all works out I should be due around 14 November I think.

Hi ladies. Hoping to join in. I think I ovulated on 25 Feb and got a faint line on 7 March, so 10dpo. I’ve just had a positive digital this morning 😊 much longed for second baby. I’m actually not with the father but we have planned this together as we already have a daughter together who is 10.

Congrats @LifeByTheSea123 loving the modern parenting story too 😆🥰✨ good luck to you! 🤞🏻 X

Hope everyone is doing okay today ❤️

I'm still cramping on/off and have a backache. No bleeding yet though so trying to be positive and take it day by day. Need to arrange my midwife referral still but been too nervous. Just need to put my big girl pants on and get it done. The thought of having to cancel yet another appointment just feels soul destroying 🙁

Hi ladies. Thank you so much for all your kindness and support.

Another pregnancy test this morning showed hcg dropping further. Im fairly convinced it's not hydration as, if anything, I've badly drank or eaten anything through grief.

Hadn't heard back from the fertility team at all and so made a GP appointment in the hope they'd be able to give me the assurance I needed to stop the progesterone. Took the pregnancy tests as evidence.

He basically wouldn't say anything either way and would only refer me to EPAU, despite me saying that I'd rather avoid that if at all possible.

He wouldn't even talk about next steps and potential referral to the recurrent loss clinic because he couldn't be sure this was a miscarriage.

Went home, waited for a call from EPAU who had booked me in for a scan on Friday and were trying to encourage me to continue with the progesterone until then. I just bawled my eyes out on the phone. Said I didn't need a scan to confirm what I already knew and I didn't want to be waiting that long anyway. I asked if there was any way they could just confirm what they needed to with as minimal intervention as possible.
Amazingly, they called back and said they were happy for me to stop progesterone and they'd call me back in a week to check how I was.

And I feel weirdly better for that, and for knowing I can just stay at home and let nature do its thing now. Having a scan and being told bad news is not an experience I'm in a rush to repeat.

Time to take a break, get through this, and have some big discussions with DP about whether we continue or not. Or rather, what would need to change or happen for us to consider it an acceptable risk to try again. Right now, the risk for me is too high.

I wish you ALL the luck and joy in your pregnancies. For those who are currently in limbo, I pray for swift and happy answers.

@DorsetGirl89 it has been particularly wonderful to see you on here, as our journeys have crossed paths a few times now. Keeping everything crossed for you that come November, you're darling baby will be in your arms.

@Taysonic, I'm in tears for you, I'm just so sorry 😞 this journey has been so hard for you, the pain and grief feels too much to carry, I understand that. This pregnancy came out of the blue for us, we had stopped trying and just thought it wouldn't happen unless we had IVF. Sometimes that is just the way with though, so maybe it'll happen when you least expect it, we're still so nervous, and hanging on to the hope that this is our time. I have 3 friends that went through multiple unexplained losses (one of them had 8) then had several healthy pregnancies in a row, and they never ever found out what was happening before. Even my GP and a radiographer told me they went through unexplained losses before successful pregnancies, again they never discovered a cause. I know it doesn't help at the time, each loss is deeply painful, emotionally, spiritually, physically. But the more of those stories I heard the more hope I held on to. I think everyone has a time they decide it's too much though, it's such an individual choice. My partner's sister decided she couldn't go on trying after losses and that decision was the right one for her and she does not regret it. Whatever your future holds and whatever you decide, I wish you the strength and wisdom to carry it❤️❤️❤️

@Taysonicsending you so so much love.. there are just no words sometimes but know you are in my thoughts xx

Sending you the love I can xxxx