Baby Shower Present Lists..what would you expect?

[MissMontana]

I have been given in invite to a baby shower and with it a list of items the mum wants, where theyre from and how much..ok fine..but my first problem is....i dont know this mum very well, i look after her daughter, we are friendly and ask how shes progressing etc etc, but not social together..altough, nice thought to invite me...now second problem is this list ranges in price from £40 to £400!!! and im required to ring a family member to discuss what i am buying, now las problem..it then tells me at the top of the list/letter that any presents or vouchers "must be acompanied by pampers"!!?????????????????????????

am i wrong to be gobsmacked? i didnt have a list but i understand that people do them so you dont get things you dont want/nedd/like, but at this price range and than accompanied my packs of nappies on top???

Oh and as its an all night affair, if people come later on we have to pay to get in!!????

Good god. That is preposterous.

I loathe loathe loathe and abhorr the current culture of expecting presents for everything. Know of people who had an engagement party, with engagement list. Then a wedding with wedding list. Then a baby shower, again with list of preferred presents.

It is rude and inappropriate. I am not sure I would go, particularly if this isn't an especially close friend.

i was initially excited about being asked, but then saw list and thought ooh hang on and then we would have to pay AND buy in a pack of nappies too????

I agree with endymion - I would make excuses and not go, and maybe get her a little something when the baby is born.
Although I'd understand if you didn't!
Some people really have no class!! It's tacky and rude.

Don't go, it's just rude. I had a fab surprise baby shower, got tokens (for me!), baby clothes and cute teeny things, lots of cakes and food and chat. This sounds far too formal and annoying.

How utterly ridiculous. I get seriously peed off with this attitude of presents at every party. Engagement/wedding/housewarming/baby shower. The list is endless. GREED pure and simple.

wow, it would never even occur to me to circulate a demand list like this... i wouldn't go. i'm not even sure i'd bother with an excuse.

I had a surprise baby shower, and TBH, I was so excited that my friends were all there, the presents were a nice aside.

The friends that bought presents to my baby shower didn't buy me gifts when dd was born as well, which was fair enough.

I just received clothes, pamper products for me, books, that kind of thing. It was great!

TBh i was thinking of getting the baby something when its born, an outfit, toys something like that, like i say im not close too the mum, will know no one there..glad im not being unreasonable here..i nealry fell over when on top of the lsit was the £400 pram with shops and details next to it!..i bought my own pram and dp's mother and my mum went halves on a cotbed for us..id never ask a complete(more or less) stranger to buy something of a list

are you in UK or America?!?

does it mean pampers nappies or pampering type presents? you can collect labels from pampers nappies and get free stuff, can't you. surely they can't be that hard up...

I am english/in the Uk but the mum isn't british(moved to england some years ago now) so maybe they have different traditions, but c'mon, you know when your being cheeky dont you!?

no, it actually says "all vouchers and presents MUST be accompanied by pampers"..so assume pampers nappies??

I hate this kine of thing. I have already been in trouble on the Pregnancy board for being a bit outspoken re: my views on baby showers. I hate wedding lists in the wedding invitation too.

Send your apologies, something has "come up" - the something being that they are rude and grabbing.

well i said to her daughter when i opend it that i think im working that day/night (i do sometimes do weekends/nights, so will use that!)

How very bonkers to ask for demand nappies as well. How's she going to store all those packs of nappies? She sounds well worth avoiding imo.

Don't go at the demands

the only reason I ask is that it seems to be the norm to have a babyshower in the US but not so much over here

still can't get over the nerve of it though

is this her pfb?

LOL, my dd is 5 now so i thought this was 'the norm'...glad to see it isnt!..a mum i know quite well at school is PG and in town the other day i saw a lovely baby record book (same one as i had for my dd) it was in cheapy book shop for £2 and i paid £20 so i bought her it..i will also buy a little something when baby born , but not something expensive, shes lovely but we're not best mates, just mums at school..so if im only spending a few quid here, why on earth would i/should i spend £40+ on a mum who's child i look after of whom i say a quick hello to at home time?

not it certainly isn't - dd1 is 5, never had one, dd2 is 2, didn't have one and finished work for this one due in 7wks and haven't had one

def NOT the norm - cheeky sods imo

No, not PFB, her other child is 10!
Theyre not 'short' money wise, not rockafella, just like me and most round here..so i dont understand why people dont buy these things themselves??? and smile through gritted teeth when they get giant teddy bears that fill a room when baby born(yes my sister in law DID!, its taking up full corner of dd's bedroom)

send a regret and a small token and tell her to behave herself

Pure greed.

but TBH i dont want to put a voucher in card or get her a present yet, i think thats what you do when baby born??

my clse friend got me things for dd before born, but not off any list she asked me what we hadnt bought yet and said can i buy x..which was really nice of her..then she and her dd made me(dd was an easter baby) a huge egg(with balloons pape mache and yellow paint)filled with things for me(creams/bubble baths etc) and things for baby(talc/small teddies) it was a beautiful present and my best!