Pregnancy at 50

[Star974]

Has anybody had a child in their late 40s or early 50s? How have you found raising children? I’m due soon and pregnancy has been a breeze but the things people post on social media seem to be so negative and not what I’ve experienced so far.

If you are still having periods and are having sex of course it could. Use contraception if you don’t want to get pregnant.

What about the child though? This lady is not far off menopause and will be going through menopause with a toddler basically. And the child will be 30 with an 80 year old mum. (Do the maths) I think it’s selfish honestly. Good luck but this child will be mid 30s having kids if its own getting married etc and might not have a mum. I don’t know why you’d want to be a mum at 50. Crazy.

How is that helpful?

@really14 if you have nothing positive to say maybe stay off the thread.
You have 4 children at 33 - how do you give each child the time they need and deserve? Isn’t it selfish to have 4 kids and each kid gets shafted for time with their parents?

Good luck Op!

This was obviously very much more common before the Pill when women had many more children throughout their fertile years.

My grandmother was 47 when she had my mother. My mother was 44 when she had me. It actually means that now I am aged 45 and and I have a (deceased) grandmother was was born in 1889 which always blows my mind in terms of close connections to the past. My mum vividly remembers WW2.

My mum was a great mum: active, energetic, calm as she had seen it all before. My all accounts her mother was too.

Maybe she wasn't as lucky to be as fertile as you?

I’m the only child of older parents and while they were fantastic parents there are plenty of downsides.
My grandparents were all dead before I was born, cousins were a generation older so there wasn’t a great deal of extended family.
My advice is to create a strong village so that your child has connections beyond you and your husband. Be young at heart, my dad in particular was quick to dismiss any new music/culture/ideas, it really highlighted the age gap between them and my friends parents.
And life insurance, lots and lots of life insurance! My parents were the ultra fit, skiing types mentioned above, but that didn’t stop cancer getting them both in their 60’s when I was only early 20’s. Them at least leaving me financially secure was the best thing they could have done.

This happened to a close family member. They stayed young in outlook, had more time (were able to take early retirement), had lots of younger friends and it was an all round success. The child is now in their 20’s and the parents are still full of beans and appear a decade younger than they are. Good luck.

My mum was early 40s having me and I was 47 when I had my twins.

Pregnancy and birth were a breeze. The advantage of being older is that I’m financially secure and give them a very stable life. I still work full-time but will consider starting to wind down to retirement at 55, and retire by 60, when they’re 13.

My mum is still very active and healthy at 95, so hopefully I’ve inherited her longevity genes.

My friend had IVF abroad and now has 2 small children. The youngest is 1.
she is 50.
she is an amazing Mother.
she thought that she would never have children of her own and now feels that her life is complete.

What a cunty comment.

Not the same but I had twins when my first was only 18 months old. Not only are you bombarded with opinions about how hard it will be, but also with horror stories of how twin births can go wrong. The fact is, everyone is different, everyone’s babies are different, and your experience will be different, and while it’s great to be well prepared, your circumstances are individual and there are things you can’t control.

The one thing I will agree on is fitness and general health. You do have control over that. I’d sooner be a fit and active 55 year old mother of a toddler than an unfit, unhealthy 35 or 25 year old mother of a toddler. Good luck.

Ah you’re one of them are you ? Well maybe op wanted to enjoy her life first rather than getting knocked up at 16 . I know what I’d prefer too, you live your life how you want just hope you don’t become an embarrassing grandma when your 16 comes home pregnant.

Yes, if you are still having periods( or within a year of your last period) then of course it could happen to you.
Is it likely, no.

Mad for who? My mum was an older mum, I had a really happy childhood and a great relationship with her. Just because it’s not a situation you would choose for yourself, doesn’t mean it can’t work out well for other people.
Yes, OPs child will likely suffer parental bereavement earlier than most…but still an adult and maybe not! OP could live til she’s 96, you could drop down dead next year.

Yes, it could happen. I think the oldest natural conception in the UK so far, leading to healthy birth is 51.

Mine was a surprise at 45. By that point I was down to half an ovary and one tube, and still managed it. Mother Nature has a sense of humour. 😁

Congratulations 🥂 this gives me hope ❤️ given we are currently expected to work til 67 you are still young! I had my first at 35 and sailed through pregnancy, I’d love dd to have a sibling and I’m 40 next year xxx

I know a couple of mums who had them at this stage of their life and have not looked back.

It is interesting people always focus on "running round" but there are so many other skills needed to parent. The children I know born to older parents have been calm, happy and well-behaved.

I mean it’s a bit late for op now to avoid the school run 😂

I had my third child at 41 and it was actually the easiest pregnancy and labour of all 3.

My DD3 is a delight and we get on v well.

Yes, I can imagine from the way you post that you and your teenager get on well.

I think it is important to remember, though, that being mates is being mates and parenting is parenting.

There was someone in the UK who conceived naturally at 58. I think I read that she was post-menopausal and thought she maybe had cancer 😱

The baby isn't the problem. A 14yo at 64 ? no thanks.