Has anyone, with multiple children, NOT had a miscarriage?

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I'm aware this may be an insensitive question so I'm sorry if this offends anyone. It's absolutely not my intention. I'm just extremely anxious right now and looking for some reassurance.

I'm very early on in my second pregnancy, my first dd was conceived in one "try", and so was this pregnancy. I think the main source of my anxiety is the thought that how could I possibly be so lucky to get pregnant so easily and then be so lucky to have two healthy babies just like that?

I'm very aware of how common miscarriage is, especially with October being Pregnancy and Infant loss awareness month, so I've seen a lot about it on social media recently. That's probably compounding my anxiety too.

I feel like it's "my turn" to have a loss, since my first pregnancy was successful. I know that sounds crazy.

Again, I'm very sorry, if I've offended anyone.

Two pregnancies, two babies, no miscarriages.

I’m in the exact same position as you, fell pregnant with my first whilst on the pill, and I’m now early on with baby number 2, having only been off the pill for 3 weeks.. no miscarriages. I get your feelings about it being too good to be true, I feel very much the same

The statistics are skewed by women who have multiple losses.

Its 20 or 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, but of that some women will have a 100% miscarriage rate and some a 0% rate - and all the variables in between.

So in all likelyhood the majority of women with multiples will not have experienced a miscarriage.

I do applaud the efforts to destigmatise miscarriage and encourage talking about it but the statistics did nothing for me when pregnant except cause anxiety (and also did nothing for me when I did have a miscarriage).

As always, look beyond the headline statistic to the actual figures and it's always a slightly different story.

I had 3 pregnancies no issues at all.
Then a miscarriage after my 3rd. Currently pregnant again and hoping this one sticks!

Three pregnancies here, no losses.

🤣 I did this pattern and yes my third pregnancy was conceived in the third month! I often wonder about the 4th....

Two pregnancies, two babies, no miscarriages.

Also not what you asked but I bled in the first trimester of both pregnancies (no idea why). The second one I bled for three consecutive days and still didn't miscarry

Six pregnancies. Four DC. Two miscarriages.

I had DC1, MC, DC2 MC, DC3 and DC4.

I felt very similar to you OP. I also work in a field where I see women who are experiencing fertility problems and miscarriages frequently so that made my perception of the chances a bit skewed.
2 pregnancies, 2 children. No miscarriages. Basically uncomplicated pregnancies. Both conceived with 5 months or fewer of trying.

I know it's easier said than done, but worrying about it won't make anything bad more or less likely to happen. So there's absolutely no point in stressing until you have actual concrete proof that something is wrong, because until then it's going right. At least, this is what I insisted on telling myself and it mostly worked to keep me calm!

I’m sure I read the rate is only 10% of pregnancies for women in their early 20s.

Whereas it’s closer to 50% for women over 40.

2DC, no miscarriages, all good.

I have 4 children. I've also had 2 miscarriages. My mum had 4 children and no miscarriages. Same with my best friend. 4 children and no miscarriages. I was once in a room with 8 women (close friends ). All with 2 - 4 children and when the topic came up 3/8 of us had suffered a miscarriage.

Hope all goes well. Congratulations OP

So I did have a very early miscarriage at 8 weeks in my second pregnancy. It wasn't complicated, or difficult, or very painful or traumatic. I didn't need any medical assistance nor did I feel especially unwell. I had already begun to feel that the pregnancy wasn't progressing symptoms-wise as well as having had spotting with a scan showing a pregnancy a couple of weeks behind my dates & no HR (equivocal at those dates) so I was very prepared.

Afterwards, I went on to fall pregnant naturally around a month later which led to my healthy 2nd child. Then my final pregnancy was also easily achieved, healthy and straightforward so I now have 3 children and no regrets.

I barely think of the miscarriage, I could almost forget it had ever happened. I don't think of it as a baby lost because I have no idea that there ever was a viable baby, probably there wasn't. I see it as a biological blip on my journey to having the family I now have. I feel no sorrow. Actually I feel very lucky, the miscarriage hasn't taken away from that at all.

I'm just saying this, as when I've felt anxious about something, imagining it actually happening and my being okay and getting through it, has helped me to feel less anxious.

Obviously every experience of miscarriage is different and I don't want to invalidate anyone. But whilst it's good to be open about how difficult and tragic miscarriage can be, it can also be good to share stories where miscarriage is not difficult or tragic.

The majority of miscarriages that happen and contribute to the statistics, do happen early, often as the result of there not being a viable embryo to start with. At every milestone in the pregnancy, you're less likely to have a miscarriage. There are often symptoms (or a lack of pregnancy symptoms), which I think are easier to pick up on if you've already been pregnant. So hopefully, and in all likelihood, your pregnancy will progress smoothly. Good luck and congratulations.

5 pregnancies, no miscarriages, all born full term. I did start to wonder if my luck would run out one day, but that wasn't an experience I had.

Currently 29 weeks with my third and no miscarriages. I totally get where you’re coming from though as, even with baby currently having a dance party, it’s sometimes hard to shake the thought that this won’t result in a live birth as it’s “my turn” to have pregnancy loss.

I thought the same as you OP. Iv had no miscarriages that im aware of. Conceived my first within a month, straightforward pregnancy (excluding 1 overnight stay in hospital for obs which turned out to be an infection quickly cleared with antibiotics) and quite a quick labour/birth. Thought trying for my second would be alot harder but got pregnant again within 2 months of TTC at 36yo, im now 24 weeks and low risk still going out running etc to keep fit and will be due when Im nearly halfway through 37. I keep wondering how im so lucky but also hoping this pregnancy stays well and okay to the end like last time. I feel so so lucky and grateful 🙏

Miscarriages are fairly common I think 1 in 4 will end up with a miscarriage. The odds though are in your favour so hope this reassures you.

no never had one, friends haven’t either and all have 2-4 kids.

Two kids. No miscarriages.

I've got 3 DC and no losses, very lucky

Me too

Hi there, miscarriage is common but that doesn't mean it will be a part of your pregnancy. Pregnancy anxiety is super common and with everything on social media nowadays it can be really overwhelming. When I was pregnant I found meditations and affirmations helped my anxiety massively. There's an app called Carea and it has loads of tools to relieve pregnancy anxiety. I really recommend it if it's something you're struggling with. Often pregnancy anxiety can follow our whole pregnancy journey so it's always good to find ways to cope.

Hi there, miscarriage is common but that doesn't mean it will be a part of your pregnancy. Pregnancy anxiety is super common and with everything on social media nowadays it can be really overwhelming. When I was pregnant I found meditations and affirmations helped my anxiety massively. There's an app called Carea and it has loads of tools to relieve pregnancy anxiety. I really recommend it if it's something you're struggling with. Often pregnancy anxiety can follow our whole pregnancy journey so it's always good to find ways to cope.