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pastelheart · 2025-10-16T17:44:43+00:00

Wanted to start a thread for anyone expecting after IVF and due next spring/summer I am finding it quite daunting after infertility for 4 years and then a round of IVF to now be FINALLY expecting in June 2026, can hopefully chat with anyone else in the same boat {mention:backtotheicsi}🩷

Sara237 · 16/12/2025 09:04

@magpie234 Sorry to hear you're poorly. Not what you need. I've had the flu for past couple of weeks with similar symptoms. Coughing up phlegm kept making me vomit also but starting to feel better. I had to take week off work and basically just slept and coughed! I feel for you as there's not much in terms of meds we can take. Ice cold water helped me a bit. And lollys. Hope you feel better soon.
@waitingforourmiracle I'm so happy you're on here. I remember you from another thread. I remember thinking how stoic you were and how you'd get there in the end. And here you are!
@worldwidetravel2017 Sending good scan wishes! I have my first dating scan today, I'm 12 weeks and 6 days. At 6 wks I had a haematoma so quite nervous about what they'll discover.
@SarahAndQuack Glad all is well. Pregnancy yoga sounds nice. It's important to have that community. Will you do nct classes? I prob will just to get that social group. With my son we'd each host every week plus meet up lots at park, soft play etc. It was a lifeline when the days were oh so long and the nights so woefully short 😂
Welcome to new people who have joined; I recognize lots of names. I've been a bit quiet as just been unwell non stop. Grateful as I am for this, it's been hell! Can't wait to break up for Christmas on Friday! Woo, hoo!

SarahAndQuack · 16/12/2025 09:18

Morning all!

@FancyGoose - oh yes, I think every new stage is a new thing to worry about, isn't it?! Still I'm so glad to have the worries.

I haven't bought anything yet - partly because it's early but also because I never got rid of most of DD's stuff! We had a lovely cosatto pram with the bit that can slot in as a car seat, and that went to friends who were hosting refugees from Ukraine who'd come over without anything like that, but that is really all I can think of that I'd want to replace. And it may be sitting in my friend's loft anyway, she's not sure!

I want to start making something, but I still feel it's a bit tempting fate - I might wait until 20 weeks. I made a patchwork quilt for DD, so will probably do the same for this baby.

@babycoconut Happy Birthday! I know what you mean about the anxiety - I've not had a lot of symptoms and while I know I am very lucky, it means worries that nothing is happening. Are you doing something nice today for yourself?

@worldwidetravel2017 good luck with the scan!

@magpie234 you poor thing, that sounds horrible. I hope the doctor can help.

@Sara237 sorry to hear you've been ill. Glad you are on the mend! Yes, I'll definitely do NCT - I loved my group with DD; they were so nice. I'm still in touch with most of them. One of us ended up in France and we moved a long way across England, but we still chat and share pictures, and it's such a nice thing. I have the best memories of the first Christmas with the babies - it actually makes me a bit teary (everything does right now, mind! ) remembering DD who was just starting to walk, holding hands with my friend's baby doing the exact same thing.

I am a bit nervy about being an older mum, though, and being single - I had a friend who felt really left out by her NCT group because she was a single mum and they kept organising things and leaving her out. I suppose it's the luck of the draw whether you happen on nice people or not.

Is everyone feeling Christmassy yet?! I just brought the tree in - no lights but it's up, and despite DD insisting on a huge one it just misses the ceiling in my very tiny cottage. It's so lovely thinking this time next year there will be a baby here!

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/12/2025 09:48

Sara237 · 16/12/2025 09:04

@magpie234 Sorry to hear you're poorly. Not what you need. I've had the flu for past couple of weeks with similar symptoms. Coughing up phlegm kept making me vomit also but starting to feel better. I had to take week off work and basically just slept and coughed! I feel for you as there's not much in terms of meds we can take. Ice cold water helped me a bit. And lollys. Hope you feel better soon.
@waitingforourmiracle I'm so happy you're on here. I remember you from another thread. I remember thinking how stoic you were and how you'd get there in the end. And here you are!
@worldwidetravel2017 Sending good scan wishes! I have my first dating scan today, I'm 12 weeks and 6 days. At 6 wks I had a haematoma so quite nervous about what they'll discover.
@SarahAndQuack Glad all is well. Pregnancy yoga sounds nice. It's important to have that community. Will you do nct classes? I prob will just to get that social group. With my son we'd each host every week plus meet up lots at park, soft play etc. It was a lifeline when the days were oh so long and the nights so woefully short 😂
Welcome to new people who have joined; I recognize lots of names. I've been a bit quiet as just been unwell non stop. Grateful as I am for this, it's been hell! Can't wait to break up for Christmas on Friday! Woo, hoo!

Your haematoma may of disappeared - mine did

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/12/2025 09:51

FancyGoose · 15/12/2025 20:19

@pastelhearttwice a week seems very impressive to me still! Hope the announcement went well? We still haven't told many people but it is getting hard to hide now so going to have to soon!

@SarahAndQuack I was thinking of joining a pregnancy yoga class in the NY. Mostly as a way to meet people like you but would also be good to get a bit of exercise. I didn't feel baby move until around 17/18 weeks and it was about 19/20 before I was really confident it was definitely baby. It is amazing feeling it but then it brings a new thing to worry about too 🤣

@worldwidetravel2017 nice to see you here too! I remember you from a previous thread, think we had our egg collection and pgta testing at the same time. Good luck for your scan tomorrow - is this a growth scan?

@samvan I remember you too - lovely to see you here. Congratulations to you too! It is getting a little bit easier with every week that passes but I don't think I will relax and believe it's happening until baby is here safely in my arms 🙏 sorry you have had a tricky time of it too but glad you're feeling a bit more secure too.

Has anyone bought anything yet? I have bought a few babygrows over the last couple of weeks which felt like a big step. We are going to look at prams on Saturday but won't buy yet (might do in Jan sales if any good discounts though!)

Thank you

All went well @ todays scan

Baby fine
Blood flow fine
Fluid fine
My bp fine & urine fine

Had a growth scan last week.
Have another next week

Todays was extra - i have low papp A
And,had been in triage last fri
4 reduced movement

babycoconut · 16/12/2025 09:56

@SarahAndQuack thank you! Just having a lazy morning and then going out for a meal late afternoon, so looking forward to that.

I’m not an older mum but I am a solo mum - my first was conceived with my egg and donor sperm but has a co-parent who is as much use as a chocolate teapot (it’s about 90:10). I had one embryo left from my son’s round which I transferred solo but it resulted in a chemical. I then did another round with the same donor which resulted in this pregnancy and 3 frozen. I think I’m pretty insane as my son will only be 3 when the baby arrives and is still a horrid sleeper but I can’t explain how much I wanted to give him a full sibling. The IVF drs this time told me my egg count is about 10 years ahead of my age so I’m glad I followed my gut but also very apprehensive about juggling 2 solo. I did it practically alone the first time but there’s something about no other parent which makes it v nerve wracking and also lonely sometimes too. Do you have supportive family?

@worldwidetravel2017 did you do a FET around June/July by any chance? I recognise your username and think it might’ve been from when I had my chemical but I was more of a reader than a poster! i also had a hematoma with this pregnancy but it had disappeared by 12 weeks

SarahAndQuack · 16/12/2025 10:12

babycoconut · 16/12/2025 09:56

@SarahAndQuack thank you! Just having a lazy morning and then going out for a meal late afternoon, so looking forward to that.

I’m not an older mum but I am a solo mum - my first was conceived with my egg and donor sperm but has a co-parent who is as much use as a chocolate teapot (it’s about 90:10). I had one embryo left from my son’s round which I transferred solo but it resulted in a chemical. I then did another round with the same donor which resulted in this pregnancy and 3 frozen. I think I’m pretty insane as my son will only be 3 when the baby arrives and is still a horrid sleeper but I can’t explain how much I wanted to give him a full sibling. The IVF drs this time told me my egg count is about 10 years ahead of my age so I’m glad I followed my gut but also very apprehensive about juggling 2 solo. I did it practically alone the first time but there’s something about no other parent which makes it v nerve wracking and also lonely sometimes too. Do you have supportive family?

@worldwidetravel2017 did you do a FET around June/July by any chance? I recognise your username and think it might’ve been from when I had my chemical but I was more of a reader than a poster! i also had a hematoma with this pregnancy but it had disappeared by 12 weeks

Ooh, yay! It's so nice to know another solo mum.

I had a narrow escape with co-parenting: I did my last round of IVF before this one with a gay friend who wanted a baby and wanted to co-parent. I know what you mean about being nervous on your own - I really, really wanted this baby to have another parent and I tried really hard to make it work, but looking back, it would have been a nightmare. (When our round of IVF didn't work he was absolutely furious with me for being sad and really didn't understand that IVF physically batters you, so you are pretty knocked back. And he also thought I was being ridiculously 'special snowflake' because I didn't want to go home to an empty house with a newborn and wanted to plan for someone to be there). I'm sorry you are dealing with the 'chocolate teapot' situation!

I think you have a lovely age gap - they will be so close! I found age 3-4 really good. They're just old enough to be out of the 'terrible twos' and they're still little enough to be tired out by something like an hour in the pool or a short walk.

My DD who is 8 was conceived with donor sperm (she's my ex-partner's bio daughter) and I thought about using the same donor again for this baby (I did a couple of rounds of IUI a few years back with that sperm, but it didn't work out). In the end I didn't because it would have been a logistical nightmare (different clinics; paperwork because of my ex-partner ...).

I have lovely supportive friends and my mum is dead eager to help, but I've got my eyes open about that - she was pretty good with DD but she is a difficult person at the best of times, and her health hasn't been wonderful of late. Still, I think I will be fine! Are your family helpful?

SarahAndQuack · 16/12/2025 10:12

@worldwidetravel2017, I'm so glad it went well!

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/12/2025 12:58

babycoconut · 16/12/2025 09:56

@SarahAndQuack thank you! Just having a lazy morning and then going out for a meal late afternoon, so looking forward to that.

I’m not an older mum but I am a solo mum - my first was conceived with my egg and donor sperm but has a co-parent who is as much use as a chocolate teapot (it’s about 90:10). I had one embryo left from my son’s round which I transferred solo but it resulted in a chemical. I then did another round with the same donor which resulted in this pregnancy and 3 frozen. I think I’m pretty insane as my son will only be 3 when the baby arrives and is still a horrid sleeper but I can’t explain how much I wanted to give him a full sibling. The IVF drs this time told me my egg count is about 10 years ahead of my age so I’m glad I followed my gut but also very apprehensive about juggling 2 solo. I did it practically alone the first time but there’s something about no other parent which makes it v nerve wracking and also lonely sometimes too. Do you have supportive family?

@worldwidetravel2017 did you do a FET around June/July by any chance? I recognise your username and think it might’ve been from when I had my chemical but I was more of a reader than a poster! i also had a hematoma with this pregnancy but it had disappeared by 12 weeks

Yep
Did a,late jun fet

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/12/2025 12:59

SarahAndQuack · 16/12/2025 10:12

@worldwidetravel2017, I'm so glad it went well!

Thank you

I just wish my b12 deficiency & feretin deficiency would be fixed

Such achy legs

magpie234 · 16/12/2025 13:04

@worldwidetravel2017 Glad all OK with baby but sorry about your deficiencies. Is there nothing they can do for those?

Sara237 · 16/12/2025 20:21

Had my scan today. I'm 13 weeks tomorrow. It was amazing. Really clear images and feel so connected now.
@worldwidetravel2017 I'm on the ferrous fumarate too - I think they make the sickness and acidy stomach feeling worse...have you tried different iron tablets?

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pastelheart · 16/12/2025 20:46

@MintOwlChristmas lights were so good but it was raining so that made it a bit awks. How did your Xmas shopping and flat sorting go? And lol at your partner thinking baby will fall out!

@AmberRose26 our announcement went well, we got a really lovely video with blue lights so could announce baby boy too! I did feel very overwhelmed yesterday from all the comments and likes and not being in our baby bubble with family and close friends, but feel better today. Yeah we waited until almost 16 weeks for socials and I am glad we did… not that I could hide it if we bumped into anyone we knew though lol

@CloudyIvy55 I started feeling baby first at 14 weeks and now I am almost 16 weeks its stronger, more regular and I know its deffo baby!

@SamVandont feel bad about the exercise, you have a valid reason! Your turtle comment made me LOL!!

@FancyGooseahhh thanks, my goal is always 3/4 times a weeek but its not happening atm. My job is remote and from my laptop so I am not active through work so have to do something! Announcement went really well, had some lovely comments and I loved our video we did, I did feel very overwhelmed though but feel a bit better today. Thank you for asking xx We have only bought a few baby grows so far. We have chosen our pram but not bought yet, I fell in love with the silver cross cove!

@babycoconutyay! Welcome! So glad you found our little group. I am so pleased your pregnancy has gone amazing, and exciting for gender scan. Also HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

@magpie234 ahh no that sounds horrible, are you okay? Hope today hasn’t been too rough for you today

@worldwidetravel2017 glad your scan went well!

@Sara237glad your scan went well! I loved our 12 week scan xx

I hope everyone else is okay? I have spent most of today in bed just feeling a bit…. Meh. Not poorly as such just a bit flat I think. Feeling a bit happier this evening and going shopping tomorrow so looking forward to that xxx

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worldwidetravel2017 · 17/12/2025 07:53

magpie234 · 16/12/2025 13:04

@worldwidetravel2017 Glad all OK with baby but sorry about your deficiencies. Is there nothing they can do for those?

Im on b12 injections
My body has absorption issues tho

Taking iron tabs
But body didnt absorb them in 2023

Had 2 x iron iv b4 ivf

worldwidetravel2017 · 17/12/2025 07:54

Sara237 · 16/12/2025 20:21

Had my scan today. I'm 13 weeks tomorrow. It was amazing. Really clear images and feel so connected now.
@worldwidetravel2017 I'm on the ferrous fumarate too - I think they make the sickness and acidy stomach feeling worse...have you tried different iron tablets?

Hoping midwife will test iron soon

Hoping to get nhs iron iv in jan

My body doesnt often absorb iron tabs

Have ibs and colon issues and all sorts

Pcos also makes it harder 4 body to absorb iron - my pregnancy consultant told me

AmberRose26 · 17/12/2025 08:23

I have heard for good iron absorption you also need vitamin C to help the abostotion process in your body. So pairing foods together can help the body take it in more efficiently. Not sure if this helps or not you probably have been told or know this but just thought I would mention. 🧡

magpie234 · 17/12/2025 09:41

Back from our anomaly scan (hate that name!) and all good - everything seemed bang on normal - so a big relief. I may feel like death warmed up with this chest infection but am still so happy to be heading into 2026 with our little gal on the way 😊

Sara237 · 17/12/2025 11:15

@worldwidetravel2017 That's so frustrating not absorbing it. Hopefully you'll get the IV in Jan. I've been told I'm to take these tablets for entire pregnancy. Will ask about an alternative as I've read the ones I'm on are most harsh on stomach.
@AmberRose26 Thanks, I swig my pill with orange juice as read this too.
@magpie234 Glad scan went well. Sorry you're still poorly. I've just got over a chest infection but my husband just told me that both his parents have it and i guarantee they'll pass it to me as they never stay home when germ ridden. And they're at ours for Christmas. Urgh! Hope you're getting some rest and that it passes soon.

magpie234 · 17/12/2025 11:26

@Sara237 Ugh I cannot stand people who just spread their germs around. I made sure to wear a face mask at the hospital this morning - not that hard to! Trickier at Christmas I guess but hope you don’t get it, hopefully it’s the same one you’ve just had so you have some immunity. Although hearing there are 200+ strains is not the most comforting is it!!

SamVan · 17/12/2025 11:40

@Sara that is so selfish if they actually show up while sick. Can you ask them before hand and tell them not to attend if they are even a little unwell? My friends and husband's family know I do a germ check before attending any events now as I don't want to fall ill. I just ask nicely the day before/day of if anyone is feeling under the weather or poorly as I can't afford to catch anything. I don't go if anyone is ill. If someone came to my house ill I would refuse to leave my room frankly. Your health is more important than being polite at this stage.

Sara237 · 17/12/2025 12:16

@magpie234 @SamVan I know...it's a particular bug bear of mine. I'm made to feel unreasonable. My own late parents always stayed home if clearly germ ridden but the in laws seem to think they're being stoic. So annoying. They're off to a family meal Saturday where they'll spread a few more germs around and then supposed to be coming to us just Christmas day. I've not told them I'm pregnant yet but i will be blunt if they're still ill then. They can stay at home, they've got each other but honestly I will be seen as the cold hearted DIL 😂

worldwidetravel2017 · 17/12/2025 13:34

AmberRose26 · 17/12/2025 08:23

I have heard for good iron absorption you also need vitamin C to help the abostotion process in your body. So pairing foods together can help the body take it in more efficiently. Not sure if this helps or not you probably have been told or know this but just thought I would mention. 🧡

Hey
Thanks
Yeah , i take it with satsumas & orange juice

worldwidetravel2017 · 17/12/2025 13:35

Sara237 · 17/12/2025 11:15

@worldwidetravel2017 That's so frustrating not absorbing it. Hopefully you'll get the IV in Jan. I've been told I'm to take these tablets for entire pregnancy. Will ask about an alternative as I've read the ones I'm on are most harsh on stomach.
@AmberRose26 Thanks, I swig my pill with orange juice as read this too.
@magpie234 Glad scan went well. Sorry you're still poorly. I've just got over a chest infection but my husband just told me that both his parents have it and i guarantee they'll pass it to me as they never stay home when germ ridden. And they're at ours for Christmas. Urgh! Hope you're getting some rest and that it passes soon.

4 dried apricots a day - helps iron
As does often eating egg
Raisins help too

magpie234 · 17/12/2025 14:28

@Sara237 Hopefully by Christmas Day they will be clear or at least no longer as contagious. I sincerely hope mine has improved a lot by then anyway!

SamVan · 17/12/2025 15:31

@Sara237 I wouldn't worry about appearing cold hearted - if they had any sense they would understand! Your priority is rightfully you and your baby, don't feel bad about drawing boundaries. You likely won't want germs around the baby when it's born either so might as well start setting expectations now.

worldwidetravel2017 · 18/12/2025 09:56

Hows everyone?

I was wide awake @ 3am again

We have a scan next mon pm