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Should husband go to wedding 4 hours away, 4 days before due date?

61 replies

lemonpeanuts · 30/09/2025 17:54

We have been invited to a wedding which falls 4 days before my due date. The wedding is at least a 4 hour drive away from our home. I'm happy/made peace with the fact that I probably will decline the invitation but am I naive about the idea that my husband could still go?

He is reluctant to but I'm saying it could be possible. Any early signs of labour and he can be on his way back straight away? First time pregnancy so obviously don't know what to expect or know what is realistic.

Any thoughts/advice welcome!

OP posts:
AmyDuPlantier · 30/09/2025 17:59

That would’ve been a flat no from my husband. I mean it could easily be fine but…unless it’s a very close family member I’d say no tbh.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 30/09/2025 18:06

Just say no, it’s too close. And it’s not fair on the couple paying for the food for him to say yes and then potentially ditch last minute.

Nestingbirds · 30/09/2025 18:17

Absolutely no chance. No. Why is it even a question?! Of course he can not be so far away.

CCLCECSC · 30/09/2025 18:19

No, that is not a good idea and I'm sure the happy couple won't be surprised that you are both declining on this occasion

labourthenewrightwingparty · 30/09/2025 18:20

No

Naananananaa · 30/09/2025 18:20

I would probably say no as even if you won’t be in labour you might need him around for other reasons to help you. Also there’s a chance by that stage you will need monitoring or increased appointments, my pregnancy was straightforward until 38 weeks until I then had to go in every two days for monitoring. That’s if they don’t come early!

culturevulture1984 · 30/09/2025 18:20

I would say No.

Spoonz23 · 30/09/2025 18:22

It would be a no from me, and my husband agrees.

And plenty of labours are shorter than 4 hours- my first was. You just don't know what could happen.

I'm the couple will understand.

Thulpelly · 30/09/2025 18:22

If the baby comes early the couple will have a last minute cancellation/empty seat at the wedding.

Danioyellow · 30/09/2025 18:23

Nope. My 3 labours were all under 4 hours from start to finish. Also what happens if he accepts and the baby comes early? I think there’s only a 5% chance of it actually coming on the due date

TomatoSandwiches · 30/09/2025 18:24

No

Danioyellow · 30/09/2025 18:24

Also was he planning on driving there and back the same day, and staying sober?

anytipswelcome · 30/09/2025 18:25

It’s just not worth the risk is it? And tbh I think if he did go then people would be baffled as to the choice he made to be there so close to your due date so conversation would be quite awkward all night!

HotTiredDog · 30/09/2025 18:28

Ah let him go - on the instruction that he comes straight home if your labour starts, obvs!
No alcohol or overnight stay, & he won’t be able to stay late of course.

Missj25 · 30/09/2025 18:29

lemonpeanuts · 30/09/2025 17:54

We have been invited to a wedding which falls 4 days before my due date. The wedding is at least a 4 hour drive away from our home. I'm happy/made peace with the fact that I probably will decline the invitation but am I naive about the idea that my husband could still go?

He is reluctant to but I'm saying it could be possible. Any early signs of labour and he can be on his way back straight away? First time pregnancy so obviously don't know what to expect or know what is realistic.

Any thoughts/advice welcome!

Congratulations on your pregnancy 🎈 , hope all goes really well for you ☺️..

Nope , definitely no weddings OP !
You need him with you …

autienotnaughty · 30/09/2025 18:32

No, if you go into labour early he will be messing the couple around. If you go into labour while he’s there he could miss it.

rainbowstardrops · 30/09/2025 18:41

Whose wedding is it? Is he planning on staying sober so that he could drive back?
Either way, I think he’s mad for even contemplating it.
You could have had the baby by then. Would he still go?

PurpleTurtleMoose · 30/09/2025 19:18

If the two of you want him at the birth, I would say it's not worth the risk of him missing it.

As others have said, it's also unfair on the couple to say yes but then potentially leave them with an empty seat and messed up seating plan. He'd also be checking his phone every 5 minutes?

Overall, I'd say it's not worth the risk

WatchingTheDetective · 30/09/2025 19:21

No, I wouldn't want him driving home in a hurry, for one thing. I also wouldn't want to let down the wedding party by cancelling at the last minute - his food etc will have been paid for.

I'm shocked he wants to go, tbh.

wantmorenow · 30/09/2025 19:25

No. Unless you don't mind if he's not at the birth.

Newname42 · 30/09/2025 19:28

Lots of posters question the husbands choice here but it sounds like it’s the OP who wants him to go, she has said that he’s reluctant…
But apart from the risk of missing the birth, it also wouldn’t be fair on the couple because he’ll obviously be just a ‘maybe’ and that makes planning tricky.

Sparkletastic · 30/09/2025 19:29

Obviously not a good plan.

ridingfreely · 30/09/2025 19:31

Baby came 10,days early and in 4 hours start to finish - it would be a no from me

Scottishskifun · 30/09/2025 19:31

You do know your full term from 37 weeks OP....due dates are just a rough guide! DS1 was born at 39 weeks DS2 at 38 weeks.

Ponderingwindow · 30/09/2025 19:32

Your husband is your advocate in labor. Once the baby is born he is the babies advocate while you are recovering. He needs to be there unless you have someone you trust just as much as him to substitute.

he needs to decline the wedding.