Feel so ashamed....just found out the sex

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I have changed my name for this as I am too ashamed to use my regular name.

I am 12 weeks pg with DC3 and have just had my nuchal scan - all fine. At the end, the sonographer said, "shall we have a look to see if it's a boy or a girl?" and I readily agreed. He said that at this stage, there is an 80% chance of being correct as you are looking for a shape. Apparently, girls' bit slant to the side whereas boys' point upwards.

It's a boy - and I am gutted. I have 2 DDs already and assumed that I would have another one. If I am really honest I would probably have wanted another girl if I had had a choice. DH is over the mooon, esp as this baby was unplanned and he has been a bit hesitant about it until now. I can't believe how dreadful I feel. And I also can't believe what a shitty person I am for feeling like this. My beautiful baby is healthy and I had the best odds of all being well out of all 3 pregancies.

I am now at home and having a little cry. My girls are out til 2pm. I love them so much and have such a wonderful relationship with them, I just don't know how I am going to have the same with a boy. I simply can't imagine being the mother of a boy, but I obviously am going to be so need to get used to it.

Thanks for reading this far - please can someone give me a round slap around the head and tell me it'll all be OK? I know in the grand scheme of things this is a daft thing to be upset about but I can't help it.

TIA

My ds is yummy. I vaguely wanted another girl. Was used to girl nappies and wasn't sure what to do with a boy. But he is a delight, because he is so different to dd. They are chalk and cheese. BUt get on so well most of the time. He is lovely. (and so is dd)

Bloody hell, hadn't thought about the practicalities. Why can't you put it on the testicles if they are sore? Apologies if that's really obvious, it's a wonder I managed to beget any children with my rudimentary knowledge.

Have just put waitrose bum cream on my face in the hope of eternal youth.... need more instructions as its correct application

FSA, I had 2 girls first too and desperately wanted a third - this was 20 years ago so scans weren't as detailed as they are now so we didn't find out what we had until the CS delivery, and that was DS1 (and the ob actually said "IT'S A GIRL - NO IT ISN'T!" - can you imagine how my heart stopped )

Anyway...when you hold your new baby you love him or her just as much as the others - honest. And with DC4 I had amnio so I found out the sex at 20 weeks - again I would have liked another girl, and again it was a boy, and like you I was disappointed but by the time he arrived he was just bliss.

Boys are different but they have their own charms

And if it turns out that your scan was wrong and you do have a girl after all, I bet you'll miss your boy for a bit!

lol at I hate tractors - learn to love them! Your daughters will probably sort him out anyway.

wendy at cs story!

Yes, I was a bit too, BM

theres not a lot to know about tractors anyway. just point and yell excitedly when you see them, thereby distracting child so you can scoff more choc in peace, theres nowt to it

You will not beleive how loving little boys are you just wait till he pops out . Dont feel ashamed its a natural thing I think.