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Things people have said to you.

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:05

I am 10 weeks pregnant with my second. I have a little boy who is 14 months. Everyone knows I am pregnant`. Recently I have been told/asked all these things.

"Why are you having another?"

"Why didn't you wait?"

"I suppose you want a girl"

"I think you are having twins" - said by someone I work with despite me having an early scan which showed 1 baby.

"X told me you were having twins"

"Why don't you call this one Freda"(DS is called Freddie)

I have got about 30 weeks to go and I am sick of it already.

What have people said to you about your pregnancy.

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bethoo · 23/05/2008 13:08

on informing my father i was having a girl (already have a ds) he said ''well done, one of each, no need to have any more''

bohemianbint · 23/05/2008 13:08

My gay, male, ancient hairdresser told me the other day that I was massive for 6 months and looked at me like he feared for my pelvis. Then tried to tell me my dates must be wrong.

I reckon either smile at them patronisingly,
or tell 'em to feck off.

Chequers · 23/05/2008 13:09

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:10

I'm dreading the "Let me touch your bump"

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orangehead · 23/05/2008 13:10

I was asked in the november how long I had left by a woman in a shop, I replied till january. Her face dropped and she said, no way you will last till jan, if you do you will look like the back end of a bus. Gee thanks

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:11

Thats horrible Orangehead!!!

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belgo · 23/05/2008 13:12

At 12 weeks of pregnancy my friend said to me:

'you're so big already, it's obvious you're having a boy'

bethoo · 23/05/2008 13:12

kay at least you get the privelege of people asking to touch your bump. the guy in my office just puts his hands all over my bump! even worse is that i am sure it is just flab!

belgo · 23/05/2008 13:13

that's so rude bethoo!

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:13

I hated it with DS. I kept thinking that would you want to touch my stomach if I wasn't pregnant NOOOOOO!!!

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 23/05/2008 13:13

On wednesday, providing the scan goes well, we will be revealing to wider family and friends.
This will be my 3rd so i am expexting 'why more?' 'i suppose you want a girl this time?' 'how ever will you afford it?' etc etc.

I take no notice anymore.

although, i have learned form MN that people tend to assume a 3rd child is always an accident, so i may not be able to ignore comments along those lines.

hertsnessex · 23/05/2008 13:14

i got a whole range of thinga like the OP said. Best to ignore it and move on!

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:16

My friend is expecting her third and she has been asked loads of times even by her own mum if this one was an accident and she says no one has ever asked her it with her other 2.

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TheUnsinkableMB · 23/05/2008 13:16

I got sick of the 'Ooh, you're carrying it all round the front, its definitely a girl' and the 'Ooh, you're carrying it all round the front, its definitely a boy'...

Which one is it then?
Muppets!

P.S. People talk out of their arses!

gem1981 · 23/05/2008 13:27

lol at muppets !!!

i HATE it when people ask to see your bump - NO ITS FULL OF STRETCHMARKS - BUGGER OFF !!!!!

and then my friend who has jusy lost all her baby weight after her second gleefully flashes her nicely toned belly with NO stretchmarks

ggrrrrrrr

My Nana tells me every time I see her that I am really goingt o struggle with a toddler and a new baby -

bohemianbint · 23/05/2008 13:28

Oh yeah, constantly get that 1+1 = much more than 2 comment. How very heartening.

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:31

Someone who told me with DS I was having a boy because I didn't have morning sickness has just told me this one is a girl because, wait for it ...... I don't have morning sickness.

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tinkiszzzz · 23/05/2008 13:31

lol that has cheered me up
some people

bohemianbint · 23/05/2008 13:32

Kayz - perhaps you should tell them it is definitely a boy because you conceived outdoors on a full moon whilst holding one blue flower in your right hand.

BumperliciousNeedsToSleep · 23/05/2008 13:33

"If you hate being pregnant you are going to really hate having a baby"

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kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 13:34

LOL, I might just do that.

I nearly told my MIL when she implied I had trapped DH and he had no idea we were trying for a baby(he did) that "DH was most interested at the time of conception" but I didn't.

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notyetBlooming · 23/05/2008 13:45

the classic I had was:

'ooo you've obviously been eating for two over Xmas'

(at 7 months pg) gee thanks...

also had loads of comments 'oh you have one of each so no need to have any more' - am now pg with third so am expecting lots of charming comments.

Also a midwife once told me (at 8 months) how I was going to really struggle to get rid of my babyweight (had put on 3 stone) - very helpful lady ummm.... I felt like going back six months later in my skinny jeans and sticking my tongue out at her!

addictedtoharibo · 23/05/2008 14:11

Do not get me started on this one! I have spent the last week randomly bursting into tears at DH (who just looks a bit shell shocked) as I am SO fed up of the negative comments. Seriously I dont think anyone has said anything positive to me at all about this baby.

Saying that if I get in there first and jokingly say "ooh err what have I done" they look at me in horror as if having another baby is the easiest thing in the world...wait for me to agree with them that its actually quite fantastic THEN start on how I have ruined my life.

I think I have had the full range of comments above but my FIL reaction was the worst (best?). On hearing he pretty much implied we had ruined our lives and wouldnt cope, that I had trapped DH into this and then told me that no one would ever employ me again so what would we now do for money - and how unfair this was on DH. This is only baby number two and I work in a Childhood Studies department - having children is practically an obligation lol. He also said one of us would now have to give up work - and would have to be me obviously (when i earn twice what dh earns)

I dont understand why people are just so horrible about a planned wonderful new life!

Tinkerisdead · 23/05/2008 16:03

ohhh im 15 weeks on saturday and ive had some really weird comments.

we said to FIl Your going to be a grandad again(he has another grandaughter from SIL, this is our first baby) his response in disappointed voice "oh im not am i?"

Same FIL.. you had better make sure its a boy to ensure the family name continues! We need a boy!" Knob head!

MIL "if you choose to have your mum at the birth its only fair that DH has his mother there too! having a baby isnt just about the woman you know!" Which was then followed by wailing "pleaseeee let me be at the birth!!!"

i have also been rubbed all over my tummy by MIL without her asking me which made me freeze. Will anyone let me come and live with them so i can get away from these nutters?? I feel like i'm hatching their Heir!

JessJess3908 · 23/05/2008 16:07

From all my never been pg friends:

"You look really big for X months, so and so wasn't that big"

I'm 25cm at 25 weeks - spot on. I think people forget how big our bumps get, then are so surprised when they see a real life pregnant lady.

And why o why do people want to touch your tummy?? I really hate it - in fact, I'm going to start a new thread on it.